Sunday, May 19, 2024
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Friday, May 17, 2024
Thursday, May 16, 2024
15 Things Women Can Do...
That Men Can’t
You’ve probably heard the saying, “Anything you can do, I can do better.” Well, that might not be entirely true regarding certain [female] activities. While men and women are equal in many ways, there are still some things that each gender is uniquely suited for. In this article, we’ll look at 15 things that women can do that men just can’t.
My Note: Many of the items on the list are obvious; like "Get Pregnant". However there are a few worth noting on the list. Exactly why we enjoy our adventures into the land of femininity. Even if an item does not click, several are qualities we can strive to emulate in our journey. Enjoy the whole list; Here are a few of my favorites. Comment on your favorites. Let's add to the list.
Wear Heels
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Women can wear high heels without it being seen as strange or unusual. High heels have been a staple in fashion for centuries and are often associated with femininity and grace. This ability to rock a pair of stilettos is both impressive and empowering.
[Wearing heels exudes power over your body, your surroundings, and those who envy your bold style. Never underestimate that power]
Women Can Dance With Each Other
Women can dance with other women without it being seen as taboo or strange. This act is a beautiful and empowering form of self-expression that allows women to connect and bond with one another on a physical level.
Wear Skirt and Pants
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Women can wear skirts and pants, while men are often limited to just pants. This ability may seem trivial, but it speaks to the larger issue of gender roles and societal expectations. Women can express themselves through clothing choices, whether feminine or traditionally “masculine” attire.
Emotional Intelligence
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Wednesday, May 15, 2024
Pants Can Be Feminine.
Tuesday, May 14, 2024
Tricks To Wearing Lipstick After 50
Makeup Artists Reveal The Tricks
By Julie Kendrick Apr 27, 2024
Remember when you used to slap on a coat of lipstick as you dashed out the door — and still managed to look great? If you’re anywhere north of 50, it’s likely those days are over.
You may have already noticed how lipstick tends to run into even the finest lines around your mouth, leaving you with a smeary mess that can’t be blotted away with tissues.
Fortunately, there are smart, savvy makeup artists who have shared their expertise with us. They offered some insight on why our lipstick seems to suddenly turn on us.
Michelle Wong, the cosmetic chemist behind the popular site Lab Muffin, said: “As you get older, your skin tends to thin and develop more lines and furrows, which act as ‘channels’ for lipstick, which has pigments that are slightly soluble in the product’s oils.”’
Is there an official name for this new indignity? “It’s called lipstick ‘feathering,’ because instead of a sharp, crisp line around the lips, it can look like a feather around the edges — a bit soft and never defined,” explained makeup artist Mila Thomas.
What to avoid: formulas that are wet, thick and glossy.
After all those years of aiming for moist, glossy lips, you’re going to need to transition away from those types of products. “Oily, liquid lip products are more prone to feathering,” Wong said. “Lip glosses applied on top of lipsticks are common culprits.”
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| "MAC is a classic for gorgeous lip colors," "I highly recommend the Ruby Woo shade." |
Thomas explained the reason why: “If the formula is too wet, it will more easily bleed into the skin beyond the lip line.”
What are the best lip products to buy?
“Use a more matte long-wear color for better control,” Lobell said. “A matte lipstick that’s full-coverage with a smudge-resistant finish is going to ‘travel’ less than other formulas.”
Still craving a bit of shine? “Keep gloss away from the edges of your lips, and apply it sparingly,” Wong said.
“If you need your gloss, keep it more centered on the lips when you apply it, tap lips together, and allow the extra to make it evenly shiny,” Lobell said. “If you love a creamy formula, tap the lips with blotting paper after you apply it.”
Monday, May 13, 2024
10 Essential Fashion Tips French Women Swear By
My Note: In my book the French invented style. The 10 suggestion are essentials to looking elegant and chic. I am going to list my favorite and encourage you read all 10.
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Bonjour! I'm Léonce, the editor of Leonce Chenal, a blog about French style, beauty, and more. I'm here to help you look your best and stay inspired. I hope this space brings you as much joy as I find in creating it.
10. It’s all about the attitude
French style is not just about how you dress but is mainly an attitude. Pay attention to your posture, and your expressions, speak with elegance, act in an elegant manner and be confident. It is all about the way you mix clothes and how you move, how you open your bag, how you cross your legs —just little things that make a difference. Prefer to emphasize attitude over clothing to favor minimalist basics.
Don’t try too hard to look sophisticated —and if you do, just pretend like you’re not paying attention. Indeed, French women don’t look like they’re trying too hard and don’t change much with the seasons —see for example what French style looks like on vacation. And even for dinners —or at the French Riviera— French women don’t really dress up —everything is very discreet, except for nonchalant touches, say a nice Chanel bag or a pair of Roger Vivier. I promise, you don’t need much to feel and look good, and at any age!
In the end, the clothing you wear is meant to spotlight the talented, intelligent, fun, and curious woman you are. Don’t make your clothing the conversation piece, do not hide behind your clothes. Instead, choose clothes regardless of the designer and elevates your confidence. Stick to what works and let go of what doesn’t. And above all, dress for yourself.
Et voilà! I hope these ten French-style tips will help you to look the best you ever have!
Sunday, May 12, 2024
Political Week In Review 5-12-2024
More than 200 days of war have taken an unimaginable toll on children in the Gaza Strip: over 14,000 have been killed and 12,000 wounded; 1,750 are missing. In October, families were ordered to evacuate and take shelter in Rafah in southern Gaza, swelling the city's population from 250,000 to 1.2 million. Now Rafah itself is under attack, placing the lives of 600,000 children at risk. On May 7, Israeli forces seized control of Rafah's vital border crossing, jeopardizing humanitarian aid deliveries that children rely on for survival.
“Rafah is a city of children," UNICEF spokesperson James Elder said in a Palais des Nations briefing in Geneva on May 7. “If we define safety – as international humanitarian law says we must – as freedom from bombardment, as well as access to safe water, sufficient food, shelter and medicine – then there is nowhere safe on the Gaza strip to go to."
Saturday, May 11, 2024
Friday, May 10, 2024
Friend's Friday - A Loss
Most of us have friends who pass through our lives; some meaningful others road stops along our journey. However, some are like a life’s tattoo that leaves a mark that is so meaningful they are always in your thoughts even with decades of separation.
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| Ray MacDonald Wilborn, Jr. September 30, 1947 — May 8, 2024 |
I was twelve and had just lost my mother to a devastating bout of cancer. My grandparents were there as my landing place and I knew they would now be my forever parents. They were amazing and their acceptance, love, and caring, was better than anyone could ever want in parents. I only wish I had told them “I love you” more.
Early in my life I was conflicted between genders. I relished being a boy, yet there was a girl component that I could not shake. Scottsburg had a boys club. Nothing was organized but they all played ball, built forts in the woods, launched rockets, and did all the things boys do. I wanted to be in the group.
Just after my mother passed Ray and his family moved three doors down; maybe a distant cousin. I believe he felt empathy and took me on as a project. We clicked and he facilitated my entry into a boy's life. Ray was easily accepted and I tagged along at first; then became one-of-the-boys too. My life changed.
I hung out at Ray’s and he ate many meals at my house. My grandmother was a terrific cook. He called my grandmother “Granny” too. Thanksgiving and Christmas he spent with us.
Three inseparable boys emerged. We rode our bikes from dawn until night. Played cards, took apart lawn mower motors, and had a tool shed/shop behind Ray’s home. We were always tinkering with our bikes. There was Wingate, Ray and myself. We hung with the others doing the boy stuff already mentioned.
The Rocket building turned into a passion for a while. We experimented with dangerous stuff and did launch several of our aerosol can rockets. Early one summer night, one blew up with such force it shook all of Scottsburg. We all ran to our respective homes, denying everything.
David and Jimmy Priest, Bobby and Sammy Walden, Jimmy Gully, Bobby Conner, Frank Loyd. Johnny Moorefield, Butch Moorefield, Ray’s younger brother Stacy and myself. What a pack.
Ray, had it not been for the love and caring you shared, I would have never become the man I did.
Although later in life I rediscovered the gender continuum and play along it today, I so treasure my boyhood youth and such a significant friend as Ray. You molded my entire life. I so cherish our memories.
Just this past fall I did get to spend time with Ray and we laughed, cried, and reminisced about our times 60 years ago in Scottsburg and the gang. I did get to tell him how important he was to me.
Lesson learned; never put off thanking and sharing important memories with people you love.
Thursday, May 9, 2024
A Math Lesson
This was written by Scot Hacker after the mass shooting in Orlando, 2016 where 49 were killed. What has happen since - NOTHING!
Why It’s Time to Repeal the Second Amendment
One of the reasons we end up focusing so hard on guns is that it’s something concrete we can address with the force of law. We can’t “fix” mental health by throwing money at it. We can’t “fix” religious extremism by closing our borders, because it grows in our own soil and is fed by the internet. But we can, at least potentially, “fix” the gun situation by recognizing that the Constitution is a fluid document that was designed to adapt to the times. We can stop thinking of gun ownership as an “inalienable” right and treat it as a privilege instead – one that has to be earned or bestowed (to hunters and law enforcement), not one granted willy nilly to every bozo who wants a human-killing machine for “reasons.”
See the Rolling Stone article by Constitutional Scholar David S. Cohen, Why It’s Time to Repeal the Second Amendment; again, June 2016.
Wednesday, May 8, 2024
Feminine Differential - Denim Pencil Skirt
13 Different Ways to Wear a Denim Pencil Skirt
by Zeina Tawfik 6/22/15
My Note: I know a skirt is always an obvious feminine differential but it always provides a lift and fun look; dress it up or down. The most number of skirts in my closet are denim. Can a girl have too many from mini to maxi? I love the look. The site Fustany has some great suggestions. See all 13. Enjoy.
Also, there's a denim pencil skirt out there for everyone. There are distressed denim pencil skirts, polished denim pencil skirts in a dark wash, and denim pencil skirts with front slits. Now let's move to the different ways you can wear your denim pencil skirt. Go for a classic look with a tucked-in shirt, or explore new styles by layering on your favorite statement t-shirt and leather jacket.
Follow this link and check out all 13 different ways to wear a denim pencil skirt.
Tuesday, May 7, 2024
Trans Floridians risk being outed due to new ID rules
Story by Sommer Brugal
2/26/2024
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| Steven Rocha (He/Him) Policy Director Prism |
When Steven Rocha received his new driver's license — one that matched his gender expression — he nearly cried.
- There were so many spaces he would have to present his ID, and as a queer transgender man, it was "always kind of uncomfortable and sometimes scary depending on where I was to essentially be outed by my license that wasn't up to date."
Why it matters: Without identification that matches their gender expression, trans Floridians face the risk of being outed at every traffic stop, visit to the polls, beer run, hotel check-in and more, advocates say.
- In a survey of 1,100 trans Floridians, 37% of respondents said such a situation led to denial of service, harassment or assault.
- That data was collected in 2015, years before a recent surge of GOP-led legislation in Florida and across the country thrust trans people and gender identity into the spotlight.
Driving the news: Transgender advocates staged six "die-in" demonstrations across Florida earlier this month objecting to a new state rule barring transgender people from changing the gender markers on their driver's licenses.
- About a dozen young people protested in front of the DMV just east of Little Havana, carrying trans flags and homemade tombstones that read "The Florida DMV killed me," written in both English and Spanish, and "Hate kills."
- Rocha led the demonstration in both English and Spanish, explaining that he wanted to reach those who don't consume English-language media, which has been "where most of the coverage has really been," he tells Axios.
The big picture: The ID rule follows restrictions on health care for both trans children and adults, limitations on how trans teachers and students can refer to themselves in schools, and bans on using certain restrooms.
Monday, May 6, 2024
My Androgynous Look
I discuss in many post what can constitute a "feminine differential", With that I am looking to display is an edge to the feminine, with just a little subtle "I might be trans" visibility. Enough to create a question.
Dressing androgynous at first and adding an item with a feminine differential is a great way to build confidence. "No one seem to notice my yesterday's girl cut jeans, so what next?"
Many times there are days when I do not have time for over-thinking. My long white hair, drawn into a high ponytail speaks volumes and gets a "Welcome Ma'am", more times than not. When out with civilian friends, it is sometime a little embarrassing; especially when my effort is an attempt to be just my androgynous self. I am amazed every time a door is opened for me with a smile. Like my grand mother always said, "You made that bed, so now go sleep in it". Oh well.
I have several of the blue cambric shirts as shown above, with cambric shirts being different from denim. Collared, it is a softer, tighter weave most of the time with a fresh, breathable, and absorbent cloth. I love the look and my Talbots cambric shirt has a sleeve with tabs holding the rollup.
It is easy to see that the left side of the illustration is, although androgynous, a bit more feminine. As always the shoes tip the scale.
Fashion is so much fun. Do not get stuck in the crossdressing trap of always being a caricature of our dear mothers from the 50's. Study Pinterest, fashion blogs and people-watch for the latest looks. Be a modern woman when you can and androgynous otherwise.
It is the visibility that counts!
Sunday, May 5, 2024
Political Week In Review 5-5-2024
My Note: Wake up Joe. Angry students are a force to deal with and not to be dismissed. Remember the 60's.
National College Democrats Slam Biden On Gaza And Back Campus Protesters.
Since the beginning of this conflict, College Democrats and students from every walk of life have had the moral clarity to see this war for what it is: destructive, genocidal, and unjust.
Hasan Pyarali, a senior at Wake Forest University: Biden’s ongoing support for the Israeli military campaign is an obstacle to his reelection.
“There are good things that the admin is doing and this party stands for,” he said, referring to the Inflation Reduction Act and efforts to protect abortion rights, expand health care coverage and reduce drug prices. But, he added, “Biden has decided to hitch his wagon to what is a far-right, extremist, radical government. We’re letting him know: This is on you now.”
Saturday, May 4, 2024
International Female Ride Day - Today's Follow Up
Some times all we have to do is, "ESCAPE"!
The host for today's events was my local HD dealer. Yes, I did ride there.
... got the t-shirt too.
Friday, May 3, 2024
International Female Ride Day
Saturday May 4th, 2024
IFRD aims to spotlight women. By showcasing women in motorcycling, motorsport, and powersports, we pave the way for a future where our presence is anticipated, not exceptional. Through inclusivity, we challenge norms and ensure every woman's role is embraced as the new standard. Are you ready?
International Female Ride Day is celebrated annually worldwide on the first Saturday of May. The day celebrates women motorcycle riders and is not country, group, or organization-specific – it is a globally synchronized “JUST RIDE!” day, for women.
Marked annually on the first Saturday in May, International Female Ride Day is one of the most important ride days of the year to:
- Highlight the number of women who ride;
- Encourage other women to take up the activity;
- Raise awareness about women’s equality in motorsports;
- Celebrate women’s advancements in motorsports and powersports;
- Ride for accelerated gender parity.
Thursday, May 2, 2024
Feminine Differential - Button Details
For your notice are three items:
The Jeans - Loft Mariner High Rise Wide Leg Jeans in Vivid Light Indigo Wash. Noted to have "Button trim slash patch pockets"
The White top - Lescana Button trim slash patch pockets. Back patch pockets. Noted to have Button detail with a faux pearl finish, Round neckline, Rolled cuff dolman sleeves.
The Black Off-Shoulder Sweater - Lescana Loose-fitting boat neckline, Button detail on the right shoulder and left side hem, first three shoulder buttons are functional and the rest are decorative.
This black sweater was my almost everyday choice for work. For some reason our store is kept at a low temp, so this sweater got me through. I would wear is slightly off the shoulder as the model in the photo with white tights or black slim pants. I also have the sweater in gray. However, it was ordered in a larger size and looked too boxy. I did not wear that one much this winter season.
In the Feminine Differential world, even the mundane can become a fashion accent.
Enjoy... And Escape!
Wednesday, May 1, 2024
I Love A success Story - SHAY NEARY
Shay Neary is an American fashion model. She is known as the first transgender plus-size model to be featured in a major fashion campaign.
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| Shay Neary |
Neary was born and raised in the Pocono Mountains in Pennsylvania] During high school, she identified as a gay man, and performed in drag. A transgender friend of her mother suggested to Neary that she might also be trans.
Neary attended Keystone College in northeastern Pennsylvania,[and started her transition to female during her freshman year there In 2012, she received the Outstanding Leadership Award from the Rainbow Alliance.Neary later moved to New York, as she had difficulty accessing hormones while in college.
In 2016, Neary was signed by the fashion brand Cover story, becoming the first openly trans plus-size model to land a major campaign. Coverstory founder Heidi Kan found Neary through the Transmodel agency after a lengthy search. In 2017, Neary came to the UK to model for the plus-size brand Yours Clothing.
Neary has spoken out against transphobia and fat-shaming she has experienced in online dating communities. (From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)
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AN INTERVIEW WITH… SHAY NEARY
Outspoken, fearless and uncompromising, never before has there been a woman like Shay Neary. If you’re in any way affiliated with the body positive community, then Shay is surely on your radar as being one of the most badass trans plus-models out there. Here, I talk to her about “Shay Butta”, her trans sisters and why we shouldn’t take anyone’s shit…
HI SHAY! WHY DON’T YOU START BY TELLING ME A BIT ABOUT YOURSELF?
I’m 29… reluctantly going on 30 in November. I’m a trans-woman, Italian/Irish American born and raised in the Poconos of Pennsylvania. I live in Sheepshead Bay, Brooklyn with my rescue pitbull fur-baby named Pumpkin. I have many jobs, to be honest, but I began modeling over the last year and a half ago.
AS A PLUS TRANSGENDER MODEL, WHAT CHALLENGES HAVE YOU HAD TO FACE IN SOCIETY?
I think being a model has its own set of challenges. Being plus size and trans, are just a minimal part of me, but they get pulled to the forefront in many situations. Whether that be for diversity, or for exposure. Many times I have to question if the job I’m taking is for authentic reasoning, and not just to prove they are and open and inclusive brand. Society has its own standard, that we are told to follow, but I’ve always been an outcast. Not fitting in has rarely bothered me. I’m tall, fat and proud… I also love eccentric jewelry and bold prints, I’m pretty hard to miss. lol
WHAT PIECE OF ADVICE WOULD YOU OFFER TO SOMEONE WANTING TO SMASH THROUGH BODY IMAGE IDEALS?
Take the lead by the reigns and control your thoughts. I’ve always found myself to be my worst enemy. I wont badger myself for my short comings anymore. By taking control of your thoughts, which is the only thing you can control, you can accomplish anything I put my mind to. I don’t let others hold me back, I make my own path through the crowd. Stand out, be brazen, don’t take anyone’s shit. Live an authentic you!
Tuesday, April 30, 2024
Jeans In Two Styles
Neither will be mistaking for male bifurcated garments.
As an added plus, both of the jeans above are tight which provide a reminder that something is different. Tight / slim leg jeans are rumored out this season, however, not for me. They always look great and provide just the right feminine differential.
The TEMU high rise jeans shown, are tight everywhere with the exception of the flare leg openings. Again a nice blast back to the 60's, bellbottom and stylish modern fit.
TEMU - High Waist Washed Flare Jeans, Single Breasted Button Fashion Bell Bottom Jeans, Women's Denim Jeans & Clothing $14.86 (a great buy)
Loft - Striped Boatneck Tee image - $26.97 This arrive today and is adorable with just the right fit and style.
Talbots - Slim Ankle Jeans $99.50 (watch for sales /discount)
Note on sizing: The Talbots Jeans are a size 6. (i go between a 4 and 6 depending on the amount of stretch at the waist. The TEMU jeans were ordered in medium, and are a perfect fit.
Monday, April 29, 2024
What Trans Visibility Gave Me
What I want for my people is the right to be ordinary. To be just one of the variations of human.
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| Sign during the 2023 LA Pride Parade Hollywood on June 11, 2023 |
To some, 2014 was supposed to herald in a much-awaited recognition—a moment when trans people could finally be included among those who have the right to just be. Others, however, particularly trans people of color, cautioned that this kind of visibility has always been an ambivalent gift, as visibility also exposes trans people to attack. The highest levels of violence brought against us is towards the BIPOC members of our community.
Read More: Laverne Cox on What’s Changed Since the ‘Transgender Tipping Point’
Looking back on that story nearly a decade later, it’s clear we’re in a different era—one in which news stories about trans issues don’t spend as much real estate on definitions and history, but readers’ increased literacy has paralleled more troubling developments. “In 2023, we are at the height of the backlash against trans visibility. We have way more people who are educated about trans folks, but there’s also been a rigorous misinformation media machine,” says Cox. “The backlash is ferocious. It’s genocidal.”
In reflecting on the effects of our visibility, I’ll admit that it’s hard for me not to feel conflicted about it. This moment of visibility enabled me, finally, to come out. For many years, I didn’t understand my own trans-ness. Few resources were available. The few books I found didn’t seem relatable. Visibility helped me and I know it helped others. It helped me find trans people who were already out, who could advise and support me.
But the wave of media interest in us also made us a more visible target. Those who like to harbor prejudices against others came to realize that they had been neglecting to hate trans and gender nonconforming people with the gusto they applied to hating other groups. They came for us as if they were making up for lost time. The wave of legislation against transgender people across the U.S. is one of the consequences of the rise in visibility. As I write, the ACLU is tracking over 400 such bills. And when we are attacked, it is always BIPOC trans people who bear the brunt of it.
For whom was visibility worth it?
I sometimes think there are only two kinds of trans people: Those who can hide that they are trans to avoid persecution and those who just have to come out in order to live at all. I was the kind who could hide it, even from myself. Not always that well. As a teenager in the ‘70s, I was sometimes perceived to be a gay man and pushed about or ridiculed accordingly. I thought they might be right. I tried, and failed, to be a gay man. I was something else—I was a woman. It took me a long time to work out that this was me.
At age 19, I met other trans women for the first time. Everything about their lives was a struggle. They could not get regular jobs, were often homeless, and struggled with addiction or feelings of helplessness. While I recognized myself in them, it felt unimaginable to me that I could have a life, a career, anything, if I, too, were a trans woman. By staying closeted, I felt like I was choosing life over death. That’s overly dramatic, but not entirely baseless. There were very few role models.
Putting any thought of coming out aside wasn’t easy either. It’s hard to communicate to people who don’t feel the visceral need that drives most trans people to modify our bodies, our appearance, our speech, and comportment. The sex of the body is the music of the body—and it can be hard to be in your body when everything about it is felt as intolerable noise. Sometimes, it’s not possible at all.
That noise can be so harsh that we look for any way we can to silence it by drugs or suicide, or over-compensate by being one’s assigned sex in the most self-punishing way. For trans women, it can be by becoming jocks, for example, or joining the army. Mostly, though, we dissociate. We’re just not in our bodies all that much. I was lucky in that I cultivated a writing habit out of that dissociated state. Writing saved me. It was a place to be where I didn’t have to dwell on my body, and could practice a skill that would lead to a career. But for many of us, all this noise just leads to depression, to an endless flailing about at life.
It meant a lot, during that moment of heightened visibility, to see trans people in magazines or television, carrying themselves with dignity and self-respect. Those who ended up being our spokespeople rightly refused to talk about their genitalia, their surgeries, or hormone treatment. Laverne Cox politely but firmly told Barbara Walters not to ask about that on national television. Trans people insisted on being people rather than sideshow attractions.
But what was so hard to convey, and not least to other trans people, is our community’s shared story of the noise of the body and the means we find to cope with it. In so many ways, the trans story was reduced down to an “identity,” when it’s really far more than that. When we come out, we’re not putting an identity to a sexuality. (For trans people can be gay, straight, all the other sexualities other people can be, too.) What we’re actually doing is declaring something about our whole bodies and selves. We’re saying it’s impossible to go on being who everyone, sometimes even ourselves, took us to be.
What the “tipping point” obscured is that we have always existed, and always will. We’re just one of the many variations on what it means to be human. Trying to eradicate us impoverishes the whole of humanity. We know things about what it means to truly be in our bodies in a way that nobody else does.
I wouldn’t say I’m “proud” of being trans. That would be like being proud of being tall. It’s just a fact of the flesh. I had to learn not to be ashamed of it, but maybe the step up from shame isn’t pride, exactly. Tackling the world head-on as something more than ordinary is a survival tactic for many trans people—but it’s exhausting. On the other hand, being considered less than an ordinary human gets too many of us killed. What I want for my people is the right to be ordinary. To be just one of the variations of human.
In the end, you really have to wonder what all the fuss is about. Perhaps it’s that bodies are complicated and can get weird. That’s something a lot of people would rather not confront. I certainly didn’t, until I was left with no other option for a viable life. For this is what trans people being “out” actually means: That everything about the sexed body can vary from whatever arbitrary norms a culture might try to forcibly mold us into. That being human, even at its most ordinary, is also variable. That if you want to really see us, this variability is something to celebrate, rather than merely tolerate, or at worst, repress.
