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| An outfit that showcases potential gender variance Lascana: Mid rise skinny jeans |
I love blending in; being accepted as part of the majority gender order. And, I have learned that it does not take a lot. It is a sum of the components with a delegate dance of not exaggerating nor underplaying. When you are addressed as ma'am the effort is successful. Remember that your confident attitude reenforces your appearance; "of course I am".
I addressed this issue recently with an old friend describing what I do, as playing on the gender line / continuum. There are days when I may be center oriented; let the observer determine what they may. Then there are times I am all feminine utilizing as many "feminine differentials" as I like. i.e. skirts, dresses, jewelry, heels, makeup.
Females play this on this continuum daily. Why not us?
Being transgender is not the curse that some may assume. Especially when you enjoy the process of the redirection you are creating. That is where "living your life to the full comes in". Why not be yourself or the self of the day? The moments can be priceless (no Master Card required). Enduring memories are crafted to be remembered for decades. Take advantage of opportunities, or better yet make opportunities. Showcase your ability and variability to be the gender /self you choose.
As one of my loyal readers commented recently: "Carpe diem".
Carpe diem is always a good motto. When I am out and about enfemme I mostly am dressed in skirts or dresses as these outfits are feminine to me. But if you have a look at most women around...the mainstream is trousers.
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Violetta
I have learned over the years that my overtly feminine presentation when out and about is an effective way of ensuring I am perceived and acknowledged correctly. My style and attention to feminine detail help convey the message that my gender is feminine. I always worried that if my presentation was too casual, my preferred gender wouldn't be obvious to others. Maintaining a decidedly feminine appearance, in my opinion, keeps me from being misgendered. It's so empowering to be addressed as Miss or Ma'am.
ReplyDeleteMoving along the continuum instead of treating gender as a fixed point is such a cool way of framing it. That idea of choosing how feminine you want to be on any given day would be amazing. Not sure I could practically do it, though (yet!).
ReplyDeleteI usually avoid trousers because they still read masculine in my head. But styles like these honestly make me want to try again.
a side comment for consideration--it appears that one female fashion trend currently in vogue is for women to wear male suits albeit they are on the baggy side. Shirts and ties too. So-how much longer a we to receive grief when wearing a dress?--emily
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