tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post8948224450811030731..comments2024-03-28T05:25:21.492-04:00Comments on Rhonda's Escape: Should I Feel Ashamed of My Feminine Qualities?rhonda's escapehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16333998589746919994noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post-66136213652933064162021-04-20T16:34:45.699-04:002021-04-20T16:34:45.699-04:00SHAME AND THE DYNAMICS OF TOXIC SHAME
by Velma
Whe...SHAME AND THE DYNAMICS OF TOXIC SHAME<br />by Velma<br />When should you feel shame?<br />ONLY when you have done something SHAMEFUL! Minor transgressions are not considered as deserving of feeling the burn of shame. <br />Most of what you may be feeling is the effects of TOXIC SHAME, which is essentially a social control mechanism for controlling others.<br />Most of us were raised and churched and schooled in an environment of controlling TOXIC SHAME.<br />TOXIC SHAME IS THE EQUIVALENT OF THE 1970's 'GUILT TRIP'.<br />This results in you, the sufferer, living a life of SHAME BASED BEHAVIOR. Essentially the sufferer of SBB is constantly examining their own self and behavior to mitigate what you would imagine to be an impending attack of TOXIC SELF SHAME.<br />This entire dynamic was explored by a former suffer, John Bradshaw and has written a number of books. <br />If you have a problem of managing your core feelings as well as dealing with yourself as a 'gender outsider', I recommend you read his book: "Healing The Shame That Binds You".<br /><br />https://www.amazon.com/John-Bradshaw/e/B000AP7IVY%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share<br /><br />Suffers no more!<br />Velma<br /><br /><br />Velmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02145613265114657097noreply@blogger.com