tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post9100706327878656481..comments2024-03-28T13:58:54.780-04:00Comments on Rhonda's Escape: Comfortable As Female - An Interesting Conceptrhonda's escapehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16333998589746919994noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post-40947892412154333002018-10-22T02:48:22.424-04:002018-10-22T02:48:22.424-04:00I feel comfortable either way at home. When I'...I feel comfortable either way at home. When I'm out I am more comfortable with clothes that match my gender expression. I can dress as a woman (often in jeans) and be perceived as a woman, at those times I would feel very uncomfortable wearing mens clothes. And occasionally I will go out in mens clothes, but wear one or two womens items, which I am perfectly fine with, but nothing particularly feminine, that I would not be comfortable with when presenting male. To me clothes are clothes and it is only the social situation and the gender presentation that has an impact for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post-83873636369083875032018-09-28T22:31:01.640-04:002018-09-28T22:31:01.640-04:00I have found that once I have reached the point wh...I have found that once I have reached the point where the general public usually considers me to be a woman I have entered an entire no realm where I am very contentAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post-17870395399195964342018-09-27T06:44:03.031-04:002018-09-27T06:44:03.031-04:00Rhonda,
Your post certainly struck a chord with...Rhonda, <br /><br />Your post certainly struck a chord with me. Ever since I was a kid getting into my mom’s lingerie drawer, I knew I liked wearing female clothes but did not know why. For many years I tried to do what guys were supposed to do, but really was not comfortable with it. Now Claire is out and about regularly, and your comment about feeling “liberated and complete” says exactly what I feel. My girlfriends tell me they would rather be with Claire than my male persona, and I am definitely more comfortable – and more fun! – when I’m wearing my “comfy clothes”. So to answer your question: for me, it is definitely internal, and the clothes are an expressions of this. More complex than CD’ing indeed.<br /><br />BTW, we live in Ft. Pierce and occasionally go shopping in West Palm (my wife and I love Trader Joe’s!). I’d love to meet at some point; I’ll send you my e-mail. <br /><br />Claire<br />Claire Cookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12402400706731075152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post-87039886812826694022018-09-26T17:43:49.447-04:002018-09-26T17:43:49.447-04:00Very interesting reading. Like many who have read ...Very interesting reading. Like many who have read and who will read this, I too have been enjoying my feminine wardrobe and putting things together and going forth for an evening or a day. I am now retired and no longer have the travel opportunity to be as I desired but still mostly dress in a more feminine style than masculine style clothing. All the jeans and shorts and exercise clothes I have and wear are from the women or ladies departments. Many of my tops are too but they tend to not be quite as unisex. As others have said I too did not enjoy the male styles but certainly do enjoy the female styles. So much more to offer. I do enjoy my heels but alas do not get to wear them too often. Someday perhaps it will all be OK for anyone to wear about any style they are comfortable in. For now that is only the female prerogative. I will define myself as cross dresser for lack of a better explanation but I do like crossmopolitan too. Have a fantastic day, Hugs, LisaLisa Kaufmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15917813471632846677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post-66907700921901349512018-09-26T16:05:50.658-04:002018-09-26T16:05:50.658-04:00Yes the way female clothing frees you from the mal...Yes the way female clothing frees you from the male expectations and allows you to enter another realm is very good for the soul. I can relate a lot to Velma's experience of going out once a week en femme and how relaxing it feels and gets you refreshed and renewed as if you were dating an old friend.Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12282654798664835746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post-46593497653359285012018-09-25T20:43:36.933-04:002018-09-25T20:43:36.933-04:00YUP! Fabulousconniedee, I am retired, age 64, wear...YUP! Fabulousconniedee, I am retired, age 64, wearing cutoff jeans shorts, t-shirt, Docksiders, and a green MACK TRUCKS ball cap. That is all that remains of my 'corporate uniform'. I do reserve one suit coat for 'family emergencies'. <br /> My first foray 'out'-- 'enfemme' was a warm Sunday afternoon in Feb, 2017. It was liberating. I usually 'femulate' at least once a week...<br /> Last weekend, I was complimented by a lady at a retail store for my nice -femmme- outfit. Until I spoke, she assumed I was a woman;(I am 6'-0", 210#). I love womens clothing, the texture, the colors, the cut and style variations, (quite ambivalent about mens clothing) and I love assembling an outfit from what is 'in my closet'; I do so in seconds, the idea just pops into my head, and the effort usually comes out great. Beyond clothing, I have 40+ wigs, and 30+ pairs of 'gurl glasses', (BTW,I cook by the same method.) After my weekly venture, I return to my house, refreshed, relaxed, less anxious and aware of 'my other self'. An 'other self' I am quite happy and amazed with. After a venture out, I am more empathetic, less egotistic, more caring, more attentive to others. NOT man traits.<br />I have tried to explain my position at our monthly TS-TG support group meeting. I explain that 'this' is my 'altered state of consciousness' and it has been a revelation. I explain that I have no idea where this whole thing is going, as for now, I am not interested in transitioning, ect.. <br />Recently, while net searching, I happened upon a term I have really taken a shine to: "CROSSMOPOLITAN". There are few references to just HOW 'crossmopolitan' is defined. Because of the vague definition, I plan to usurp the term and declare my self as 'crossmopolitan', at least for now...<br /> Velma Dinkley Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post-88535971559437869062018-09-25T17:42:26.069-04:002018-09-25T17:42:26.069-04:00Thanks Connie - Great comment. Thanks Connie - Great comment. rhonda's escapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16333998589746919994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2237446155472519339.post-89180945482064411232018-09-25T15:07:51.947-04:002018-09-25T15:07:51.947-04:00I am wearing today what I normally do: jeans, T sh...I am wearing today what I normally do: jeans, T shirt, hoodie (it's chilly this morning) and sneakers. These are the same sorts of clothes I wore most of the time when I was presenting and perceived as a man. I still feel feminine, though, and I believe my femininity is perceived by most everyone who sees me or with whom I interact. When the occasion calls for it, though, I enjoy dressing up and being more attractive than my day-to-day look may afford. I used to hate wearing a coat, tie, and big clunky men's dress shoes. I don't have any of those in my wardrobe anymore, but I have plenty of dresses and high heels. Basically, I think I feel more feminine getting dressed up just as most women do. That doesn't mean I don't feel feminine when sporting an androgynous look, however. The clothing I wear is secondary to my gender identity, but it is also an important part of my personal expression.<br /><br />I attempted to navigate life as a cross dresser for many years. My dysphoria kept telling me that I was not a cross dresser, though. I am not one to give in easily, and I fought the dysphoria for a very long (too long) time. It turned out not to be something I had to "give in" to; it was the conforming to what was expected of me as a man that I had given in to. <br /><br />When I used to cross dress, I did feel more comfortable - temporarily. Knowing it was like Cinderella and the movie, "Ground Hog Day," put together was not comforting at all. I just could not bear, any longer, running home at midnight, only to wake up and try to be a prince of a guy the next morning. Wash - rinse - repeat. <br /><br />I think it's the level of dysphoria one experiences that makes the difference. Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15951206717208424386noreply@blogger.com