How Many Feminine Differentials Do You Count?

 

Try one - Try all. See what works for you.
Add your special flare. 

In A Perfect World...

 

Being A Cover Girl...

 Maybe Someday... 

Political Cartoons 4-5-2026

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HuffPost Notes from the week:

The speech showed (Tuesday Evening} that Trump is stuck. He is constitutionally incapable of accepting that he made a mistake by attacking Iran with no plan for keeping 20% of the world’s oil — not to mention around 20% of the world’s fertilizer — moving through the strait, or to take action to rectify it. Instead, he now claims that it’s “somebody else’s problem” and, in his speech to the nation, called on European and Asian countries to “grab it and cherish it.”


Since this isn’t going to happen, the only other options are likely desperate. Trump could escalate and invade Iran with ground troops, which will make the energy crisis catastrophically worse.

 

Dress Your Self In...

 

Spring Has Sprung

 

This one of those easy outfits that make you look so put-to-together. The long sleeves top work for a cool early spring evening dinner out.   

What was new for me and my spring look is the Dooney "Botanical Small Kiley Hobo Bag".  On spring special for 189.00 

Sweet Little Lies

 

Trump says Iran war is ‘nearing completion’ in address to the nation

The president repeated familiar talking points and vowed to hit Iran hard over the next two to three weeks.

White Shorts, Stripe Top

An "Escape" day at the Beach. 

 

Pants, Skirt or Dress...

 

Which shall it be for today? 

Pinterest - Ella Boncz

Don't you just love the freedom to choose. 

Which will it be for your "Escape"?

A Good Day For...

 "Escapes" Come in Many Forms!

For nearly four weeks I did not ride. First the healing in my leg and getting the infection clear. Then internal scar tissue in the infection area. That caused limited left leg mobility plus added pain. Would I ever be able to wear my beloved heels again?

Now happy to report the majority of the leg issues are resolved. My next-door neighbor is a Doctor and we disussed just how dangerous my infection was. Had the infection gone to the bone or blood the survival rate is less than forty-percent. I was on massively strong antibiotics to treat an infection that had evolved into a mostly antibiotic resistant strain.   

So, if ever I needed a reminder that every day and every "ESCAPE" is precious, I tell you, live for the day. Tomorrow is never a certainty. 

A Good Day For... 

   

Political cartoons 3-29-2026

 

Live Your Life...

 

Who is Worse - Trump or Nixon...

An interesting contract using other Republications statement

 

MS NOW’s Lawrence O’Donnell lays out Donald Trump’s “panicked retreat” from his threat to target Iranian power plants as Trump described his “imagined negotiations with Iran” to reporters with “the goofy insecurity of the man who knows he stands accused of always chickening out.”

A Captivating Image

 

Feminine Differential - A Practical Look

 

For many the art of Femulation (as Stana describes it) is a process with or without a destination. 

Without a destination you get all dressed up and remain home enjoying cleaning, cooking or self exuberance. This is your time and the "escape' is as real as you need.   

For others the process is extended into hours of preparation to be able to escape, ever so briefly, into the civilian world. Sometimes noticed. Sometimes stealth. Fear be dammed! The adrenalin rush is enormous which only robbing a bank could rival. "I did it - the world did not end".  

I know this feeling well because in the early days this is just as I felt. Maybe to just mail a letter at midnight or drive-through to get a hamburger. Yes, I breached my front door and am so proud of my bravery. Truly an "Escape". Time to clean up now and plan/dream about the next time. 

As our "Escapes" have evolved many of us have nurtured feminine personas that become less male and default into the feminine. You first notice it when no extra-effort produces a, "Welcome Ladies" pronounced when out with friends. What was it that prompted that response?  Some of us may have enhance our feminine persona by an androgynous style that blends masculine and feminine elements to blur gender lines. In my case my solid white hair is nearing mid back that I wear in a high ponytail much of the time. All of my jeans are feminine slim cut, some pull on leggings. My sneaker are typically a female designated size although there is very little difference in look these days.  My shirts / blouses are fitted sometimes scoop neck or drop shoulder.   

Let's be practical.  Although a subtle feminine approach is my desired daily look, a degree of practically is necessary.  A doctors visit or a return to Home Depot does not require heels and makeup. I have no qualms about being seen as myself in what I call a casual, everyday blended feminine look. Above is similar to what I am wearing today for a Doctor's consolation on a medicine I am not tolerating well. After, there will be a quick lunch at an outside cafe.   

Here is an over simplification; For decades women have been borrowing for the masculine side so I borrow from the feminine.  Why not?    

How do you blend your "Escapes" to be practical and still be you?  

“une femme d’un certain âge”

Mastering the Boy-Girl Mix for More Interesting Outfits

What does it mean: Une femme d’un certain âge is a French expression (“a woman of a certain age”) that suggests a positive attitude toward age, and alludes to the wisdom, experience, and elegance that we acquire along the way.

I found a blog recently written by Susan Blakely that not only defined this French term, but gave it meaning.  

By Susan Blakey March 18, 2024

One of the things I’ve always loved about the French style aesthetic is that there’s often a mix of masculine and feminine elements in an outfit. Today I’m sharing an easy striped sweater outfit. And I’ll break down how I balanced the masculine / feminine elements to hit my style sweet spot.

I think a little bit of contrast or tension in an outfit can be what makes it interesting. Outfits that are too much one thing can look a bit formulaic and expected. I love mixing masculine and feminine, rough and refined, polished and relaxed, or classic and quirky to achieve a certain vibe. (And I’ve never been comfortable in a strictly “girly” look, anyway.)

Nowadays, many types of clothing have become more unisex. (Jeans, for example.) And whether an item of clothing “reads” as masculine or feminine may depend on the viewer’s culture, region, upbringing, and traditions. It’s not my intention to perpetuate rigid gender stereotypes, and your perception of an item may differ from mine. And each person will have their own idea of what feels “balanced.” But here’s my breakdown, and why this look hit the balance and vibe I was going for.

The boy-meets-girl outfit breakdown

Starting with the base, the jeans and tee alone would read as masculine. (Especially a cuffed, straight-leg jean.)

The bandana pattern of the scarf leans a little masculine, but the soft, silky fabric is more feminine, so that’s a nice mix right there.

The softer shape and crocheted texture of the cardigan read as feminine, though the stripes temper that a bit. (Straight lines and shapes tend to read as more masculine, curved lines and shapes more feminine.)

The shoes…definitely feminine with that pointed toe. (I could also go slightly more androgynous with a pair of sneakers instead.)

And the soft bag with the drawstrings also reads as more feminine.

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What opposing elements (if any) do you try to balance in your outfits?

Political Cartoons 3-22-2026

The Daily Beast: Trump’s Weird Shoe Fetish Just Got Even More Embarrassing

Donald Trump has been betrayed by the very company behind a set of discount dress shoes the president literally can’t buy enough of.

Trump is reportedly, and inexplicably, so obsessed with a pair of $145 Oxfords—produced by Chicago-based brand Florsheim that he’s lately taken to forcing White House staff to wear them too. The longtime mall brand’s loafers was worn by King of Pop Michael Jackson.

“All the boys have them,” a female aide told the Wall Street Journal on Monday. “It’s hysterical because everybody’s afraid not to wear them,” another added.

Be Brave, Be Bold, Be...

 

“The Redesigned Signature” T-Shirt

 

THE MEANING

My Note: Like the tee.

Living Redesigned

The Redesigned Tee is the defining piece of the Signature Collection — created for the Living Redesigned woman and the standard she carries.

Crafted from premium mid-weight cotton, this luxury women’s t-shirt offers structure without rigidity and softness without compromise. The silhouette is modern and intentional — relaxed yet refined, designed to integrate seamlessly into a curated wardrobe.

The typography is architectural and declarative:

Redesigned. A word that represents discipline, growth, and conscious evolution.

This is our brand legacy shirt — the piece that anchors Living Redesigned. It is designed for women who build their lives with clarity, who value refinement over noise, and who move forward with purpose.

Pair it with tailored trousers, structured denim, or layered under sharp outerwear for a minimalist, elevated aesthetic.

This is not trend-driven apparel. This is elevated identity wear.

Feminine Differential - The Athletic Look

 

A few post ago I notice how cute white shorts and white tee could look together. Add to that, feminine platform athletic shoes (trainers for the rest of the world) and you have a great gym, outdoor cafe, or going to the market look.  

The shorts were an easy find on on Amazon "Women's Sweat Shorts with Pockets Cotton French Terry Drawstring Summer Workout Casual".  The drawstring is an easy fit and love that they are definitely short.  I ordered small for a nice front and back fit. The material is neither sheer or to heavy; perfect.

The platform sneakers are also Amazon, "LUCKY STEP Women's 90s Chunky Sneakers Sparkly Bling Rhinestone Rope Platform". The heel height is 2.6 inches so who will know you are wearing heels. Just the right amount of feminine look.  Be warned, they do make your foot overall look a little larger than I expected. 

There is a sister pair "K KIP WOK Chunky Sneakers for Women Fashion Platform White Leather Casual Dad Shoes Comfortable Wedge Walking Sport Sneakers" with at 3.15 lift / heel.  

My concern, maybe a to youthful look?  I will try it out and let you know.  

Sports bra is optional. However,  like Stana on Femulate says, "Feel like a woman. Wear a bra!"

I See Spring Flowers...

 

High School Class Reunions...

Speaking before my class at the reunion

Ten years ago this summer, I attended my 50th High School Reunion. I attended as "Rhonda" although all remembered me as "Tommy". It was an amazing experience.  

Just recently I was browsing my Class's Facebook page and found a "thank you" tribute I wrote to my class shortly after the reunion in October 2016 and saw all of their comments.  

Sad as I read some of the comment, I remembered that several of classmate / friend has passed away. A very good reason to not put off events and seeing friends that are important.   

We have our 60th reunion coming up this Summer. Here is my encouragement - If you have the opportunity, don't hesitate.   

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Dressing Our Age...

 Does not have to be boring!

Style and adventure are the keys to unlocking "Great Escapes"!

Political Cartoons 3-15-2026

 

Restart...

 

The Office - Two Crossdressing Short Films

 

BY: Juliet London

   Note: Use the "Watch on Youtube"

Part 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oKVNEzRmaPA&t=7s

A video short with a crossdressing theme.

In this short film, we follow the journey of a me, Juliet, a crossdresser, whose life my workplace knows nothing about, until...

Do watch the short film to see what happens. And do let me know what you think with a thumbs up (or down) or better still a comment. And please subscribe to my channel, there will be more crossdressing short films soon, including Part II of this film

Full disclosure, this short film does use AI, but it is me.

This short film follows a person's transformation for a new role at the office. The journey...

Part 2

That's My Dress - You Look Better....

Has this ever happened to you? 

"Thats My Dress!" News Radio (Crossdressing Television)

 

How are you enjoying being a crossdresser?

 Happy and Content

Pinterest, Reddit and Quora are all inspirational and help us to understand ourselves better. I am going to assume the information posted is public domain and will, from time-to-time, share those post that touch me. Many post follow the narrative "Crossdresser" although is you are living as a female you likely have move past that point.

Here is an especially encouraging Quora Post by Pamela:

As a crossdresser, what is your favorite outfit?
it's so difficult to choose
because I love most women's clothing
but if its summer I'd have to say either
shorts or a summer dress.

After suffering for 40 years failing miserably as a man I felt it was time for a drastic change so I decided to explore all those feminine feelings urges and desires I carried secretly for all those years. The first time I was fully feminized seeing my reflection of this attractive sexy woman staring back at me I actually cried out of happiness to finally feel see the person I should have been born as. It felt as if a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I couldn't stop smiling at how I felt and looked. In a single brief moment my physical appearance, my emotions and my mental state all came together making me realize my life as a pathetic beta male was finally over. I accepted and embraced being a woman was now my new life. Pamela was born and I've never been healthier physically and mentally as I have been these past 16 years. Yes I finally achieved the life I so desperately wanted to live.

 After being in the closet for 5 years working on my body image, make up, trying all types of clothing, accessories, breast forms, walking and talking in a more fem way I realized just how normal and natural it felt being in women's clothes. Having so many fem traits, charasterics and personality then adding the clothing and I got such a boost of self confidence to finally be an attractive sexy person. That changed my entire life as I decided my life would be much better if I just accepted and embraced the fact I preferred to be dressed as a woman. That's exactly what I did and it's now been 16 years I lived full time as Pamela and I've never been happier.

Pamela, thank you so much for sharing your story.  Reader, be advised that if you venture into reading more of Pamela's post, some are (R) rated.    

 

 

Happy As Anyone Could Possibly Be...

 

Feminine Differential - Animal Print

 

I ask Google AI: "Is Animal print still in?"

Yes, animal print is currently very in style, having a significant revival in Fall/Winter 2025 collections and street style. It is being embraced as both a bold statement and a modern neutral, with popular versions including leopard, zebra, snake, and cow print. Modern styling often involves pairing the print with basics or using it in accessories like shoes and bags.  

I was some what sure of the answer because it is one of those style that never seem to completely disappear.  Even our Soma bra collection has one of more animal print bra/panty matches.

The top is "Animal-Print Bubble-Hem Chiffon Blouse, and the pants are Chico's "Brigitte™ Slim Pull-On Ankle Pants".  This I believe is a good combination and the top will look great will wide-leg black pants.  

The pants style grabbed my attention first with it's pull-on flat - front look. I have come to enjoy the feminine look of pullup and high wasted pants. The fit is a definite feminine differential and take pants out of the "male" look; especially with a slim leg cut. 

I will keep you posted and will have photos when they arrive.  

Political Cartoons 3-8-2026

 

Following the Crowd

 

Great Casual Outfit

 

Transgender Youth Abandon By Healthcare

 NYU Langone ending Transgender Youth Health Program

BY: Zanger, Jenna DeAngeli
Updated on: February 18, 2026 

NYU Langone announced Tuesday it is discontinuing its Transgender Youth Health Program, leaving families frustrated and advocates fighting back. 

There's outrage in New York City's LGBTQ+ community over the decision to end that treatment at NYU Langone. 

The move comes in the wake of President Trump's Jan. 2025 executive order banning gender-affirming health care, and a December Trump administration proposal to withdraw federal funds from hospitals providing gender transition treatments to young people. 

"So-called gender affirming care has inflicted lasting physical and psychological damage on vulnerable young people. This is not medicine. It is malpractice," Health and Human Services Secretary Robert F. Kennedy, Jr. said in December.

"Given the recent departure of our medical director, coupled with the current regulatory environment, we made the difficult decision to discontinue our Transgender Youth Health Program. We are committed to helping patients in our care manage this change. This does not impact our pediatric mental health care programs, which will continue," NYU Langone said in a statement. 

"President Trump pledged to restore common sense and put a stop to unscientific and irreversible child mutilation procedures. The Trump administration is delivering," a spokesperson for the White House said. "Trans youth exist"

NYU Langone had reportedly begun cancelling some appointments shortly after the executive order was signed, so the shutdown of the entire program more than a year later may not come as a complete surprise. It is drawing the ire however of a number of advocacy organizations. 

"What I know is that trans youth exist. I once was a trans youth myself. This care is supported by nearly every major medical association in the country," said Elisa Crespo of the Stonewall Community Foundation. "American families are really hurting right now. I'm being contacted by parents of trans youth who are devastated and don't know where to turn."

Crespo said it now falls to the city and state to help fill in the gaps in care. 

"It's a shame our government is getting in the way of decisions that should be made between families, young people, and their doctors. It's a shame they are perpetuating such a bias and harmful narrative about gender affirming care," Crespo added. 

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Advocates are calling on NYU Langone to reinstate the program, while hoping the city and state will help fill gaps in care.