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Wikipedia: "Help Me, Rhonda" is a song by American rock band the Beach Boys, appearing first on their 1965 album The Beach Boys Today! (where it was spelled "Help Me, Ronda") and subsequently in re-recorded form on the following 1965 album Summer Days (And Summer Nights!!). It was written by Brian Wilson, with additional lyrics by Mike Love. Band member Al Jardine sings the lead vocal, a rarity for this era in the Beach Boys.
According to Wilson, "Help Me, Rhonda" was not based on a real person. After it was released as an album track on Today!, Wilson revisited the song, feeling it had commercial potential. This new version, featuring a different arrangement and slightly different lyrics, was released as a single in April 1965 and appeared on Summer Days later that same year. It topped the Billboard Hot 100, making it their second number-one single following "I Get Around" (1964). It remains one of the band's most acclaimed singles commercially and critically.
A transwoman claimed that her new passport lists her as male while her other official documents recognise her as a female.
US President Donald Trump, after taking his oath, ordered that the country would recognize only two sexes, male and female. The executive order further stated that a person's sex is unchangeable. These orders from the newly installed President sparked controversy, with people sharing their thoughts for or against it. Amid these, a transwoman, who was born male but later “surgically updated to female”, has claimed that the gender on her passport was changed to “Male” under the new administration, adding that all her other documents recognise her as a “female.”
Transwoman Perysian Zaya Mekhi claims her gender was changed to male on her passport under Donald Trump's administration. (Instagram/@zayaperysian)
Transwoman Perysian Zaya Mekhi claims her gender was changed to male on her passport under Donald Trump's administration. (Instagram/@zayaperysian)
Digital creator Perysian Zaya Mekhi shared the video on Instagram. “And so it’s begun,” she wrote in her video’s caption. In the clip, she expressed that in her new passport, “they changed the gender to male because of Donald Trump.” She then shows her passport, which has the letter “M” written under the column “Sex.”
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“Now, mind you, all of my other documents are updated to female, and I’ve been fully surgically updated to female, but this is what they had to say,” Zaya says as she reads a letter she received along with her passport.
According to her, it says, “The sex was corrected on your passport application. The changes were made for one of the following reasons - to match our record.” While reading it, she further says that she received her passport as a kid, which then listed her sex as male, but she claims that she updated the details after her transition. She concludes her video by saying that she would opt for legal options to get her sex changed on her passport.
“Nobody’s going to spit on our police officers. Nobody’s going to spit on our military,” Trump told reporters on Monday, before posting on his social media website: “IF THEY SPIT, WE WILL HIT, and I promise you they will be hit harder than they have ever been hit before. Such disrespect will not be tolerated!”
But Trump felt differently about violence against law enforcement when he issued blanket pardons earlier this year for hundreds of people who stormed the U.S. Capitol on Jan. 6, 2021 in an effort to keep him in office after his loss to Joe Biden in the 2020 presidential election. His pardons included those convicted of assaulting or interfering with police officers, roughly 1,000 nonviolent offenders and around 200 people accused of assaulting police. A number of those pardoned have reportedly since been rearrested for other alleged crimes.
“These are the hostages. Approximately 1,500 were pardoned. Full pardon,” Trump said after issuing the pardons on his first day in office.
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My Note: This is all part of Trump's plan to consoled his power, and intimidate all protest. The authoritarian play book.
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David Axelrod, ex-senior adviser to former President Barack Obama, on Monday bluntly criticized Sen. Joni Ernst (R-Iowa) for sarcastically saying “we are all going to die” at a town hall in response to constituents’ fears over GOP-backed Medicaid cuts.
“People will be affected, when you take seven, eight, nine million people off of Medicaid, there will be people who will die,” Axelrod told CNN’s Jake Tapper.
The stupid award of the week!
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Or, as another writer had it, traditional men’s clothing was important in ‘keeping the social fabric together’. The slow evolution of changes in men’s dress ensured ‘safety’: sartorial conservatism checked social anarchy.
All those times she’d hidden her phone or lied, ‘I’m fine!’ when I asked her if she was okay, started to make sense. She was hiding her research. She was hiding her other IG account, she was hiding Facebook groups, emails to clinics and more. All those times I’d questioned why she didn’t trust me with her phone suddenly made sense. Can you imagine finding out that way?! I don’t blame her for being secretive.
See also: My Husband Wants to be a Woman: Kelly’s Story
She’s been living with this for her whole life.
For me, it was new. Not something I didn’t know about, nor something I didn’t support (I support trans folk with all my heart), but it was new that the person I married was transgender. This was my stumbling block. Why hadn’t I worked it out? Why hadn’t she told me?
Anyway, as you’ll have seen (from blog posts and Youtube), I got my head around it all within a very short time. I realised the most important factor in it all was that…
LOVE HER!
There’s nothing I would ever want to change about our love. I feel pretty much like she’s the person I was always meant to be with, my twin soul, my other half, my best friend. And the truth is, since coming out, we’ve grown even closer. Something I’d never expected to happen…
I thought were as close as close could be, but I was wrong. We are allies, protectors, lovers, best friends… I literally worship her. And our love has grown because we are there for each other, with unwavering support and love. She’s relaxed into herself, Zoey, the beautiful woman I married. This has pivoted our relationship into a deeper state of love, a love I struggle to even describe, because it’s a love I never thought possible.
I love the strength we’ve discovered together. I love the love we’ve discovered. I love seeing her unravel into herself, a phoenix rising from the flames. I love her confidence. I love her body (it’s beautiful to me no matter what). I love her dreamy eyes and her beautiful kisses. I love seeing her laugh, really laugh, and I love that it feels like we’ve fallen in love all over again.
So this is my love letter, if you like. My declaration of dedication, my ‘shouting it from the rooftops’ message of love, my undying love confession. I love you, Zoey Emelia Allen, and I always will.
Do you feel unconditional love for your partner?
I am always searching for a casual wearable look. Something that is understated feminine, although will never be mistaken for androgynous. It makes mall blending in so easy because a cocktail sequin dress is not what I see, ever at the mall. Palm Beach has its share of upscale places, restaurants / boutiques, and there are always places for the ultra-feminine look. Choosing wisely to be safe and not attraction attention is a good goal.
The above Chico's "Zenergy Scuba Cap Sleeve Tee" is great look. Graphic tees will always seem feminine especially if the image is flowers, or paisley. This top has a bungee cinchable short cap sleeves hemline for adjusting the length to a full cap sleeves. A nice feminine touch.
Chico's is a sister store for my Soma store. We share coupons and I get to use my associate discount there. Their audience is on the mature side (who am I to talk), however, I am finding their clothing to be more stylish than a few years back. Some of their jeans are especially attractive with embroidery and decorations. If you have not visited Chico's recently, check it out. Their size are generous.
Also, do not forget that "Summer" is just a few weeks away. Shorts anyone????
Phineas Harper
January 3, 2024
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‘Skirts are practical, expressive and, when worn by men, mark a small step towards gender equality.’ Photograph: Alberte Lauriden |
My sister has three questions she asks men who say they’re feminists. It only takes one “yes” to pass her test, and yet few do. The questions are: if you get married to a woman, would you (and any kids) take her surname? If you had children with a woman, would you step back from your career to be their primary carer? And, simplest of all, would you wear a skirt in public?
The questions are lighthearted, and not intended to truly cut to the heart of feminist issues, but it’s interesting to see how many men sheepishly give three “no” answers nonetheless. Despite much apparent progress towards gender equity, some conventions around how men feel they must act and dress differently to women are stubbornly persistent, from family to fashion.
Baby names and childcare arrangements are inherently fraught topics, but I’m surprised how many men say they’d never even consider wearing a skirt. Twenty years ago, the curator Andrew Bolton noted that “while women enjoy most of the advantages of a man’s wardrobe, men enjoy few of the advantages of a woman’s wardrobe”, and that “nowhere is this asymmetry more apparent than in the taboo surrounding men in skirts”. While a few celebrities, such as Brad Pitt and LA Lakers basketball player Russell Westbrook, have worn skirts to red carpet events, it’s still vanishingly rare to see normal men wear normal skirts day to day.
Blokes, you’re missing out! I began wearing skirts six years ago to see if my sister had a point, and it’s only since then I realised what I’d been missing. Skirts are fantastically versatile: thick, pleated and cosy in the winter, light and breezy for summer. They come in a vast array of shapes and characterful styles, leaving the frigid palette of blacks, blues and browns that dominates most male fashion in the dust. You’ll easily find more panache in the skirts section of M&S than in its entire menswear department.
Men who’ve never worn them will often claim skirts are impractical, but this simply isn’t true. Free from complex gussets, skirts are less likely to tear than trousers, but easier to mend and usually straightforward to adapt. “What about pockets?” you cry. True, there’s a long and sexist history in women’s fashion of clothes made without pockets, but times have changed. Margaret Howell and Vivienne Westwood were putting pockets in their skirts decades ago – and these days you can find skirts with decent pockets in Toast, LK Bennett, Cos, and even H&M.
Male fashion is hardly rooted in practicality, either. I love a snappy tie, but it’s hard to think of a more ostentatiously impractical garment than a silk scarf elaborately knotted around the neck. And while blue jeans were once tough workwear, the pairs men buy today are pre-bleached and distressed in factories, with rivets added purely for show. Ultimately, men’s fashion is just as much about aesthetics as women’s, so why not have more fun with it?
Skirts are practical, expressive and, when worn by men, mark a small step towards gender equality no less valuable than women’s long-fought battle to wear trousers. If you need a gateway drug, buy a black kilt on eBay and build your skirt collection from there.
Modern menswear is too often a parade of gloomy conformity, produced by an industry that contemptuously sees male shoppers as predictable and dull. But you don’t have to follow the crowd to be stylish – a man in a skirt signals self-assurance and inner confidence, which are always in fashion.
Phineas Harper is chief executive of the charity Open City
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Stephanie Moga A woman and a writer trying to find her voice. Mystic. Radical Gender activist. Self-destructive pain in the ass. |
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Lisetta Carmi, I Travestiti, Genova (The Transvestites, Genoa), 1965–71 photograph. Courtesy: © the artist, Galeria d'arte Martini & Ronchetti, Genoa, and Galerie Antoine Levi, Paris |
In Pictures: Juliet Jacques profiles the phots The Intimate Lives of Genoa’s 1960s Trans Community
Carmi’s portraits are intimate and empathetic, giving the subjects a rare chance to reveal themselves: sometimes literally, as in the photograph of an unnamed transvestite hitching up her skirt to expose the top of her stockings, or another pulling down a part of her dress to reveal her breast, the lighting and angle (most likely deliberately) making it impossible to tell if she is a cross-dresser or transsexual.
The important thing, which Carmi manages to convey, is her subjects’ mixed feelings: not about their gender identities, but about the joy of finding a time to express it, and about capturing it in a photograph that will record a moment that cannot be permanently lived, at least not without painful social consequences. Such bittersweet emotions frequently spring from loneliness, but Carmi was careful to portray something often absent from early representations of trans women: a sense of community. Her subjects are seen helping each other with their dress and make-up, smiling and hugging one another, tenderly expressing their love for each other in their bedrooms, or enjoying the embrace of a man.
After meeting a guru in Jaipur in 1976, Carmi founded an ashram in Cisternino three years later and retired from photography altogether in 1984.
Her images of Pound may have remained famous, but her portraits of the previously voiceless trans women of Genoa deserve to be far better known – slowly, the world is starting to see the same humanity in them, and people like them, as did Carmi.
I have been affected. The Government agency that helped with my $2,200 copay for my wet age-related macular degeneration (wet AMD) eye injections has been eliminated. I have been told by my doctor that the copay will go to over $2000 per injection. This is after the insurance pays their part. This is beyond what I can afford each month. I am done.
Google AI: Here are the facts on this treatment: Overall, the cost of wet AMD treatment can range from $8,814 to $23,400 per year, and even $32,491 to $70,200 after three years of treatment. (I have been under treatment for two years using Eylea.)
Filing my taxes this year was limited with IRS filing tools being problematic. Last year it was so simple and straight forward. This year, although I have e-filed and authorized payment, for over two months now there is no verification of acceptance and my ACH payment has not been taken out of my bank. Calling the IRS just drops my call to a busy signal.
How about you? How do you feel about food safety? How about flying with not as many air traffic controllers? Are we better off today than we were a year ago?
Two weekends ago my Mercedes Club visited the Grey Motorsports Museum in Jupiter FL. What a treat with 43,000 sq feet of classic and vintage cars from the early 1900s to a classic '65 GTO, ++, New and vintage Corvettes a plenty and fully restored 1955, 1956 and 1957 Chevys. I did not count all the cars, however, my best guess between 35 and 50.
So, do you have your outfit picked out?
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Kai Schreiber and Liev Schreiber |
“Kai is such a fighter,” he said. “It’s important that she goes, ‘Hey, I am trans,’ and, ‘Look at me.’”
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By the pool on a Florida spring day. |
My Note: The Palm Beach County School System has been bullied into changing its policies. Although they are making an effort to dissuade us into thinking "values and commitment have not changed", the facts of the changes will be evident. I am not blaming the school system. Taking care of kids must be a priority. Loosing 300 million for low income students aid was untannable. Much of this money was to go for free breakfasts and lunches for low income students. Possibly the child's only meals of the day.
The School System's logos states "Educate. Affirm. Inspire". With the change in policy it is the "Affirm" part that will suffer. The Bullies will rule until we stop them. "Where is the humanity"?
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The School District Of Palm Beach County's public statement:
The School District remains committed to supporting all students and staff and to providing a high-quality education in a respectful and supportive environment. That commitment has not changed.
In response to recent directives from the U.S. and Florida Departments of Education, the Palm Beach County School Board was required to take emergency action to update certain District policies. Compliance with these directives is necessary to protect approximately $300 million in federal funding that supports essential services for our students. This includes funding to support students from low-income families, services for students with disabilities, free breakfast and lunch programs, professional development for teachers, and more.
The recent policy updates do not change the core values of respect and opportunity that are expected in our classrooms. They do not impact what is taught in classrooms, the educational opportunities available to students, or the School District’s ongoing commitment to anti-discrimination practices. Please note, an Equal Employment Opportunity Policy (Policy 3.05) remains fully in place and prohibits discrimination in the School District.
As part of the updates, the School Board also updated its policy on Small Business Enterprises (SBE) by adopting a comprehensive small business program into policy. This builds on practices the School District has followed since 2017 and maintains the support provided to small businesses by the School District. In addition, language referencing contracting preferences based on race/gender was removed from School Board policies. We also removed language that used race, ethnicity, and national origin as factors that give an advantage or disadvantage in employment, contracting, student placement, and District decision-making. Our goal is to ensure School Board policies remain aligned with local, state, and federal laws, practices and procedures.
These emergency policy changes are in effect for 90 days and must undergo a rulemaking process before becoming permanent. The values of fairness, opportunity, and respect for every student continue to guide our work.
Thank you for understanding the precarious situation we are in and rest assured that our values and commitment have not changed!
Thanks Rand Hock (Palm Beach County HRC) for including me in the School's less than reassuring communication.
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