I am a "dresses only" MtF cross dresser. Maybe, this video is in the same league as Jamie Farr playing Corporal Klinger on "M.A.S.H." I think a bearded guy prancing around in female garments would be viewed as unbalanced. I don't think society is ready for a man presenting in female attire on an everyday basis. My mindset is to emulate a woman. When my wife would visit our daughter out of state I did have the opportunity to wear nothing but dresses with all the proper undergarments, heels and hosiery, wig and makeup for seven to ten days. Of course, as a retiree, I never had the opportunity to see how it would effect daily interactions with coworkers.
I've been wearing dresses and skirts as a man for a couple of years now with no issues at all in society.
I don't consider it crossdressing any more than a woman wearing pants is cross dressing. They aren't woman's clothes ... they're men's clothes because they're mine. I also wear tankinis, bikinis, makeup, heels, 50s hats, and anything else I want. I mix-and-match skirts with "men's" dress shirts.
All that to say, the world is ready. You might not be. And no shame in that. But as soon as you or anyone is ready, just do it.
That was interesting. They obviously feel like they have to guard what they say, so they dance around certain things. Being a guy (for me) comes with a pressure to obey a bunch of rules. I think that I was taught these rules as a middle school boy (11-13 years old). Boys don't cry. Boys don't prance or skip. Boys don't hold their books this way or walk that way.... Men are strong. Men are confident... I started wearing skirts in public as a guy in ~2005. It was hard and scary. I was breaking "the rules". I was expecting people to point and laugh at me. Some people saw me, pulled back and told their friends, and then they all looked and snickered. That stopped happening eventually. I think culture changed -- instead of my style becoming more impressive, or whatever. The idea of walking into a public place while dressed oddly (be it a dress, or a Halloween costume in June -- or maybe even on Halloween) is tough for me. I have gotten over the dress-wearing fears for the most part. However, I will not wear some things because it is too "girly", such as bell sleeves, flowery prints, or men's colorful socks with pictures on them. I cannot explain some of this.
I think those guys were wearing poorly-selected clothes. They were showing off too much skin. That is uncommon for men to do. The dresses with sleeves and the multi-layer outfits looked much more "right" according to some unknown rubric in my head. Some of it looked too costume-y or even fetish-y.
If they had worn something that fit them well and possibly shaved their faces/chests/legs, so that it did not look very joke-like, it would have been an interesting addition.
I am a "dresses only" MtF cross dresser. Maybe, this video is in the same league as Jamie Farr playing Corporal Klinger on "M.A.S.H." I think a bearded guy prancing around in female garments would be viewed as unbalanced. I don't think society is ready for a man presenting in female attire on an everyday basis. My mindset is to emulate a woman. When my wife would visit our daughter out of state I did have the opportunity to wear nothing but dresses with all the proper undergarments, heels and hosiery, wig and makeup for seven to ten days. Of course, as a retiree, I never had the opportunity to see how it would effect daily interactions with coworkers.
ReplyDeleteI've been wearing dresses and skirts as a man for a couple of years now with no issues at all in society.
DeleteI don't consider it crossdressing any more than a woman wearing pants is cross dressing. They aren't woman's clothes ... they're men's clothes because they're mine. I also wear tankinis, bikinis, makeup, heels, 50s hats, and anything else I want. I mix-and-match skirts with "men's" dress shirts.
All that to say, the world is ready. You might not be. And no shame in that. But as soon as you or anyone is ready, just do it.
That was interesting. They obviously feel like they have to guard what they say, so they dance around certain things. Being a guy (for me) comes with a pressure to obey a bunch of rules. I think that I was taught these rules as a middle school boy (11-13 years old). Boys don't cry. Boys don't prance or skip. Boys don't hold their books this way or walk that way.... Men are strong. Men are confident...
ReplyDeleteI started wearing skirts in public as a guy in ~2005. It was hard and scary. I was breaking "the rules". I was expecting people to point and laugh at me. Some people saw me, pulled back and told their friends, and then they all looked and snickered. That stopped happening eventually. I think culture changed -- instead of my style becoming more impressive, or whatever. The idea of walking into a public place while dressed oddly (be it a dress, or a Halloween costume in June -- or maybe even on Halloween) is tough for me.
I have gotten over the dress-wearing fears for the most part. However, I will not wear some things because it is too "girly", such as bell sleeves, flowery prints, or men's colorful socks with pictures on them. I cannot explain some of this.
I think those guys were wearing poorly-selected clothes. They were showing off too much skin. That is uncommon for men to do. The dresses with sleeves and the multi-layer outfits looked much more "right" according to some unknown rubric in my head. Some of it looked too costume-y or even fetish-y.
If they had worn something that fit them well and possibly shaved their faces/chests/legs, so that it did not look very joke-like, it would have been an interesting addition.
Joey