10 Things You Should Never Wear Over 50

 I bet you are thinking this is fashion advice; only one.  

  By Iva Ursano August 6, 2022

Because being a woman is hard. We’re already up against so many challenges and for years we are supposed to act and behave a certain way. And we have for the most part. Not all of us. But many of us.

When I hit 50 I tossed out all the rules, stopped listening to and following the masses and stepped into my own personal power. It was exhilarating, liberating and effin beautiful.

Iva Ursano
I don’t follow rules

I found my vibe, dumped my old tribe and my old life, found my voice (and used it ALOT) and started really loving and embracing life. When they say life begins at 50 they mean it. And I get it. I totally get it.

Without further ado, here are some helpful tips and 10 things you should never wear over 50

1. The opinion of others

Can you live your life for you please? Does it matter what others think of you? Most of them don’t even think highly of themselves. Let them point, stare and whisper, I say. Give them something to talk about, I say!

2. Baggage from the past

Drop all the big ugly heavy bags. They don’t look good on you. They are weighing you down and, if I might add, aging you quickly. Do yourself a favour, get rid of all your emotional baggage. We’re moving forward in life, not backward. None of the stuff from yesterday matters today or tomorrow.

3. Jealousy

So Margaret looks good for her age and “you’d never know she was a day over 50!” they say. Who cares? Good for Margaret. She’s beautiful and you know what, so are you! There’s no need to be jealous of other women. We’re all beautiful and amazing in our own unique ways.

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4. Fear of getting old

Yes we’re getting older. Life goes on. We’re not 25 anymore. But life is what you make it. You’re not dead yet and you have no idea when you will die. Live it up now babe. Time’s flying by! Do things you always wanted to do, try new things, travel, live out loud.

5. The doormat

Seriously, stop wearing (or being) the doormat. You’ve worn it for far too long. You are no one’s b****. Find your voice, start using and start saying NO to all these people who have been taking advantage of you all this time. Tell more people to f off!!

6. Cattiness

Time to grow up. We’re not in high school anymore and besides, that catty look looks horrible on you. Disgusting if you will. Life isn’t a competition. We’re all in this together. Put your pointy finger down and stand tall with your sisters! Lift a sister up, don’t put her down. The world is already a heavy place to be in.

7. Judgement

If you’re still judging others, stop it. You are no better than anyone else and no one is better than you. Judging others makes you ugly no matter how beautiful you are on the outside. In case you missed the memo, your poop stinks just as much as the next guy.

8. Regret

Like baggage, regret also ages you. So you didn’t do this or that, so you never told so and so something, so you never went to that place. So what? Regret does nothing to enhance your life and only makes you sad and miserable. Dump it.

9. Crocs

Crocs

Burn them. Have a croc destroying party. Donate them if you want but get rid of them!!  [I could not agree more/]

Haha I’m kidding. Girl we need comfy shoes. I feel ya. For me, the perfect shoe is a pair of flip flops. I own way too many and I love each pair. But listen, you can wear crocs all you want. 

10. Worry

It’s time to turn that worry frown upside down and make it a smile. Life is short and we’re over halfway through our lives. There’s no time to worry or hold back or not live the life you deserve and desire. Smile at strangers, eat the cake, go to foreign lands, say hi to the cute boy….go do things and stop worrying if it’s right or wrong or if people will talk.

The Un-civil War 2.0

Are We A United States?

BY: Rhonda Williams 9/1/2022

The old dividing line was called the Mason-Dixon Line which divided states along geographical borders, generally north/south. The dividing issue, some states allowed involuntary relocation (AKA slavery), others not. Even the Supreme Court of the day (SCOTUS) allowed for this divisional inequity. 

*The slaveholding states saw a threat to their existence coming. Thus giving into their minority wealthy constituents (slaveholders), politicians hardened their policies to protect the slaveholders. Sound familiar?  In 1861 a bloody Civil War ensued. 

The soldiers on the two sides were pawns in a social justice / protection  movement. More American died in the Civil War than World War I, World War II and Vietnam combined; 620,000. (American Battlefield Trust)

The issue then: The "states right" to perpetuate slavery. Sorry - "involuntary relocation".

Jan 6 - Capital Riot

This was not the first time States' Rights vs Federal authority came into question. The Whiskey Rebellion of 1794 was the first test of federal authority in the United States. This rebellion enforced the idea that the new government had the right to levy a particular tax that would impact citizens in all states. Thus Federal Laws, when at odds with States, held force. We were the United States with a central government. The Whiskey Rebellion is considered one of the first major tests of the authority of the newly formed U.S. government. History.com. https://www.history.com/topics/early-us/whiskey-rebellion

See MSNBC commentary for the latest: "Far-right threaten civil war after FBI searches Mar-a-Lago"

The dividing lines are now Red vs Blue states. As with Roe v Wade, the SCOTUS is now giving the states the political will to do as they please thus dividing the nation agan. What will be next on the SCOTUS docket?

Ted Cruz recently said, "...that the landmark case establishing nationwide LGBTQ marriage rights 'was clearly wrong' because marriage was always an issue that was left to the states. The court [in 2015] said, no, we know better than you guys do and now every state must sanction and permit gay marriage."

In the landmark 2015 case Obergefell v. Hodges, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that all state bans on same-sex marriage were unconstitutional. Could this and other set-in-law precedents change?  The threat is real. 

Ted Cruz is pandering, not just to the base of the Republican Party, but to the worst kind of bigotry in the Republican Party. The Texas GOP has already passed a party plank saying that gay marriage is abnormal.

Fact - Equal protection under the law was not something left up to the states; it is a constitutional mandate; The 14th Amendment.

We are already seeing what overreaching state legislature with an autocratic governor can do.  Governors like Florida’s DeSantis and Texas governor Abbott are seeing which can out “mean” the other as to transgender rights. 

Just as in slavery, individual states have historically proven they only will act in only their selfish interest; not in the best interests of the majority or the United States in general. In years past we could count on a reasonable SCOTUS; not now. 

Just as congressional districts have been drawn (gerrymandered) to protect a party the SCOTUS ihus is stacked to provide an explicit political view.

What is legal in one state now could become illegal in another. Arrest could occur at the borders.  This occurred pre-emancipation to slaves crossing from free to slave states.  

The next Un-civil War will be red vs blue – Republican vs Democratic. A reasonable majority in Americans must wake up before this get completely out of hand.

A opinion piece written by Adam Charlton summarized this perfectly:

But the tragedy of modern America is that it is mired in a civil war. Two political tribes, talking past one another, which has supercharged a now violent culture fueled by the idolization of guns.

We need to decide soon. Are we "Americans" living in a United States? 

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* Note: Also read "Red states are building a nation within a nation".

Donald Kettl, the former dean of the public policy school at the University of Maryland and author of the book, "The Divided States of America" stated:

"The only time I can recall in American history even remotely like this [divergence] was after the Civil War when the separate but equal doctrine began to emerge" across the South as a backlash against the attempts of the 13th, 14th and 15th Constitutional amendments to ensure equality for the freed slaves. [Currently] it's a multifront war with very sharp swords."