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Thursday, May 14, 2026

How Would You Wear It?


 I found this adorable graphic-t on Amazon a few weeks ago at $14.99.  It is so versatile with jeans, shorts, or even a denim skirt. I ordered large to make sure it would fit off-the-shoulder.     

Amazon - Off The Shoulder T Shirt for Women Oversized Graphic Tees Daisy Hibiscus Flower Shirt Aesthetic T shirt Summer Tops

I have several graphic-t shirts now and see them as a great feminine differential piece. Just stay away from the team log stuff. 


See my "Feminine Differential - Life Imitating Art" post. 

Wednesday, May 13, 2026

He Does Not Care...

Trump Says Americans’ Economic Pain Is Not a Consideration for the Iran War 

What happened to America First







Asked whether Americans’ financial situation was motivating him to make a deal, President Trump said bluntly, “Not even a little bit.”




Yet as Americans suffer financially
Does anyone know what is going on? 

The White House: Iran’s Nuclear Facilities Have Been Obliterated — and Suggestions Otherwise are Fake News

Facts as we are told: In March, the US intelligence community assessed that Iran was “not building a nuclear weapon.”

As of May 2026, President Donald Trump has repeatedly claimed that U.S. military strikes, specifically beginning with Operation Epic Fury on February 28, 2026, and a previous campaign in June 2025, "obliterated" Iran’s nuclear program and stockpile.

Secretary of Defense Pete Hegseth: “Based on everything we have seen — and I’ve seen it all — our bombing campaign obliterated Iran’s ability to create nuclear weapons. Our massive bombs hit exactly the right spot at each target and worked perfectly. The impact of those bombs is buried under a mountain of rubble in Iran; so anyone who says the bombs were not devastating is just trying to undermine the President and the successful mission.”

Secretary Rubio: “Everything underneath that mountain is in bad shape … There’s no way Iran comes to the table if somehow nothing had happened. This was complete and total obliteration. They are in bad shape. They are way behind today compared to where they were just seven days ago because of what President Trump did.”

Institute for Science and International Security President David Albright: “Overall, Israel’s and U.S. attacks have effectively destroyed Iran’s centrifuge enrichment program.  It will be a long time before Iran comes anywhere near the capability it had before the attack.”



The big question - Is there no way to stop this madman? 

The Price is Right (Wrong)...

Mall Shopping

 


Last week I had a business lunch and after went by the mall.  A beautiful day to shop. Having worked at Soma, and filled in at Talbots and Chicos I always have shops and friends to visit. I had time to kill and after an exchange at LOF, checked in at Talbots with a $20 coupon that needed to see some love. 

The above Talbots Gingham dress is so retro. First, "Gingham" that never seems to go out of style and being a cotton, shirtdress, it reminded me of something my mother had. I loved the look and fit. The store was not at all busy on a Tuesday afternoon, so I took my time and played, trying on several other dresses and a skirt. I love being a girl. 

I had been watching the dress online and found it to just as appealing in person.  From my very first look to actually trying it, there is a problem; the cost. The full price ranges is from $179 to $199 depending on size. 

Can I make that work? No, not even at a sale price. Maybe this is a tariff laden price or just the new normal. Either way, even loving it and at a sale price, it seemed so over priced for a self-described "imported" dress. Talbots is not an exclusive boutique.  

On the other side of the above layout there is a TEMU - Summer Party Dress with a Plaid Print And Short Sleeves Featuring a Split Design. This style I like a little better with a square neck, puff sleeves and shorter length. Who knows, maybe the same manufacture, but, likely the same point of origan. However, for me it had the same appeal. Now the best part, price $12.97 with $2.99 shipping. What is not to like here? 

Yes, I did order and so far still going to pass on the Talbots dress. I will keep you posted and write more when the TEMU option arrives. I have high hope and low expectorations. 

What I know is that if we are willing to accept outrageous prices and unjustifiable price increases, then that is what the sellers will keep giving us.  



Tuesday, May 12, 2026

Femininity - Not An Act

 

There is a paragraph in a Fictionmania story that is so relevant. The story is "The Candidate's Wife - A Short Story By Maryanne Peters


Femininity should not be an act, but a way of life," she explained. You can adopt for an evening out, or for a week or two, or for the rest of your life, but you live it - you don't act it."

 

Maryanne, I hope you do not mind me using the quote. Even in my early crossdressing days, on escapes to group meeting, or out to a restaurant for an evening, I lived being "how I presented".  It was never a costume and as Maryanne described it, not an act.  


Understanding this helps us to live in a word void of excuses and weak justifications. Femininity is our reality. Escape and be who you are, for an evening out, or for a week or two, or for the rest of your life. Live it - You don't act it.





Monday, May 11, 2026

Shameless Rationalizations

Today I am going to venture into the hated realm of politics.  If you feel any remorse for voting for Trump or need intellectual proof to his hate filled inadequate leadership, continue to read.  

Bear in mind this was written before Thump's latest "boondoggle / lie war" or grift to cheat the American tax payers out of one billion dollars for a, never needed, never ask for ballroom.  Such a boldface lie told from day one.  

First I need to define three Greek words used in the below opinion editorial:

Logos (Greek for "word," "reason," or "discourse") is a term in philosophy, rhetoric, and theology referring to divine wisdom, rational structure, or logic. It commonly represents an argument's reliance on facts, figures, and logical reasoning.

Ethos is the characteristic spirit, guiding beliefs, or fundamental values that define a person, group, or culture. Derived from the Greek word for "character," it is frequently used in rhetoric to describe a speaker or writer's credibility, trustworthiness, and authority used to persuade an audience.

Pathos is a rhetorical device and mode of persuasion that appeals to an audience’s emotions, particularly by evoking feelings of pity, sympathy, tenderness, or sorrow. Originating from the Greek word for "suffering" or "experience," it is one of Aristotle’s three modes of persuasion, alongside ethos (credibility) and logos (logic).

I continue with the Opinion piece:

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 "The Most Unfit Man To Occupy the White House – Ever"
written by  BARTH KECK, February 9 2026.

Greek philosopher Aristotle was a master orator who understood the power of words. To that end, he developed what became known as the “Aristotelian triangle” in which he identified three specific ways a speaker can appeal to an audience: logos, ethos, and pathos.

As a writer, I lean heavily on logos, which employs reason to make an argument. A message is thus organized in a logical fashion and supported with rational evidence. I also try to build my own credibility – or ethos – by ensuring that my evidence originates from reliable sources. Some may argue with my reasoning and evidence, which comes with the territory when writing opinion pieces, but my aim is to make reasonable and credible claims in my op-eds.

The one appeal that I usually shy away from is pathos – the appeal to emotions – because I feel it can often sidetrack a claim and neglect the original point. Witness the typical “debates” on social media filled with rancor and rage. I prefer to stay on point and address facts rather than feelings.

But this op-ed is different. The best way to approach the issue I’m about to address is with pathos – instant, honest, and naked emotion. In fact, I fear the typical “level-headed” and “reasonable” manner journalists and politicians have typically taken when analyzing the behavior of Donald Trump ignores what is now, to me, an obvious fact: The man is a cruel and selfish boor unfit to lead any country in the world, let alone the United States of America.

I don’t write those words lightly. They sound partisan, divisive, and yes, emotional. But so be it. All of the man’s antics, insults, and lies since he first ran for office in 2016 – a mountain of evidence that qualifies as logos, actually – undeniably demonstrate that Donald Trump is indeed a cruel and selfish boor unfit to lead any country in the world.

The event that sparked this emotional response from me was Trump’s insult-laced attack on CNN reporter Kaitlan Collins during a White House press conference last week. While asking the president for his reaction to the recent release of additional Epstein files and the survivors involved, Trump said this to Collins:

“You are so bad. You are the worst reporter. No wonder CNN has no ratings because of people like you. You know she’s a young woman. I don’t think I’ve ever seen you smile. I’ve known you for 10 years. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a smile on your face. You know why you’re not smiling. Because you know you’re not telling the truth. And you’re a very dishonest organization. And they should be ashamed of you.”

It certainly wasn’t the first time he berated a reporter. Trump, in fact, prefers to insult women journalists, whom he has called “nasty,” “piggy,” “terrible,” “ugly” and “incapable.” The man, essentially, has normalized misogynistic rhetoric. How else to explain this dismissive explanation from White House spokesperson Abigail Jackson?

“President Trump has never been politically correct, never holds back, and in large part, the American people re-elected him for his transparency. This has nothing to do with gender – it has everything to do with the fact that the President’s and the public’s trust in the media is at all-time lows.”

Sorry, I’m not buying it. Unfortunately, too many other people continue to believe such shameless rationalizations – or at least they’re giving the man a pass because of the office he holds. Or they’re afraid of receiving the same retribution he has imposed on the many others who dared to question him. Or they want to ride his political coattails.

Gutless. That’s the best way to describe Americans who refuse to hold the president of America to account for his unseemly and vulgar behavior. Why did the journalists present not support Collins at that moment, even if it was to ask a similar follow-up question? As for the politicians surrounding Trump in the Oval Office, the best they could do was squirm as they held on tightly to the red “America Is Back” hats their dear leader had just given them.

The entire scene would be comical – fit for a Saturday Night Live skit – were it not so enraging and, ultimately, sad. What has happened to America? Where has our sense of personal pride and decency gone? I don’t care if you’re a Republican, Democrat, Independent, Libertarian, whatever – this type of behavior from an American president should be unacceptable, at a minimum.

To be sure, America is riddled with problems much deeper than the crassness of its president. I get that. I’ve written about many of those issues in a much less emotional tone. Logos and ethos dominated those op-eds. But my emotions have gotten the best of me this time. Pathos is my natural response to a president who continually spews hateful, self-indulgent rhetoric. Why it doesn’t affect so many others in a similar fashion befuddles me.

Just as I was completing the first draft of this op-ed, Trump was at it again. On social media, he posted a clearly racist AI-generated clip of former President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama as apes. The White House initially “dismissed criticism that the video was racist, and said it is from a meme depicting Trump and the Obamas as characters from The Lion King.” After considerable backlash, the post was taken down – 12 hours after it first appeared. The White House conveniently blamed a staffer who “erroneously” made the post.

For his part, Trump declined to apologize, saying the post focused on voter fraud and “nobody knew that [the offensive clip of Barack and Michelle Obama] was at the end of the post.” 

Uh huh. Sure. Whatever. Just another day in Trump’s disreputable and hate-filled America.



Sunday, May 10, 2026

Saturday, May 9, 2026

Thursday, May 7, 2026

Feminine Differential Ballet Flats (maybe not)

 The Best Ballet Flats for Men


From the Ballet Flats for Men site:

I thought I might take some time to rank order some of the ballet flats that are out there and that I think make great options for men. If you are a guy who is considering trying out ballet flats for the first time or if you already wear flats but are looking for something different, hopefully this post will help. I own many of these flats and have at least tried on many others. This list includes a few that I think will also work but I have not yet had the chance to try them on.

My main criteria in developing this list, in order of priority, are as follows:

Comfort – guys really are more about having shoes that are comfortable.
Style – needs to have smooth, clean lines with a unisex look.
Sizing – needs to be available in larger sizes for men.
Price – when it comes to ballet flats, you usually get what you pay for, but it still needs to be reasonable.

Read More and see a good list to start. 



Conclusion

[The site] is not an exhaustive list of possible ballet flat options for men. In fact, I have several others in my closet that I have not even mentioned here. I welcome others to post their favorites in the remarks to this blog page. In the future, I will start writing more extensive reviews of some of the flats that I own.





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My Note: I have ordered a pair of the Amazon Essentials ($22.10) in wide. Amazon has over 83,000 reviews and some appear to be from men. I have several pairs of Tory Ballet Flats and other brands. I do not wear them regularly because I have never been one-hundred percent happy with the width. I am looking for an everyday pair of flats, to wear with jeans and be a dressy alternative to sneakers. 

After receiving the Amazon Essentials Flats, it is love at first wearing. They are 
comfortable and practical. I am going to wear these for a few days and see how they work. Maybe, a not-so "feminine differential" after all.  

See my post "Feminine Differential - Ballet Flats Revisit" from 2020 and my Guest Post "I LOVE ballet flats" By Brian

Do you have any ballet flats that you wear on a regular basis? Any reactions?  A feminine differential - Maybe not.  Let's start a trend! 



Wednesday, May 6, 2026

Met Gala 2026

The Most striking Red Carpet Looks

Sam Smith caps a dramatic sleeved gown
with a single feather.
Lanna Apisukh for CNN

See all the gowns. There is always one that warms my heart. 

Wikipedia: Samuel Frederick Smith (born 19 May 1992) is an English singer and songwriter. In 2012, they[a] rose to prominence when they featured on Disclosure's breakthrough single "Latch", which peaked at number eleven on the UK Singles Chart. The following year, they featured on Naughty Boy's single "La La La", which became a number one single in the UK.

Smith's numerous accolades include five Grammy Awards, three Brit Awards, three Billboard Music Awards, and an American Music Award, as well as a Golden Globe and an Academy Award. On the UK Albums Chart, In the Lonely Hour was the best-selling debut album of the 2010s and the sixth best-selling album of the decade, while collectively Smith's albums spent the fourth-most weeks at number one in the 2010s, behind Ed Sheeran, Adele and Eminem. Smith is the first openly non-binary musician to both release a song that reached No. 1 on the Billboard Hot 100 and to win a Grammy Award.

Tuesday, May 5, 2026

A Great AI Image and Question...


From a practical prospective, there are so many things wrong with this AI image. 

But who cares!


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I have questions: Yesterday (Monday) my non-robot views were near zero. OK not zero but only about 10% of my typical loyal reader views; you, the readers I value. I have few "Followers" compared to other blogs. Have I run my course? Do my views only come from secondary clicks on Femulate and t-Central? Maybe my content is no longer relevant, although I try and keep it varied. 

Doing a everyday post is a lot of work. I am a big girl, so please be honest on continuing? Maybe all blogs have run their course? I knew this, "To be or not be?" moment would come. So I ask, should I continue?   

Monday, May 4, 2026

Daisy Duke and The Dukes of Hazzard



 

Gingham Top White Jeans

I have always loved the feminine differential of gingham. Maybe my inner Daisy Duke is calling.  Or, the "I am ready for a picnic" look.  For those who have no cluse who Daisy Duke is:

Catherine Bach as Daisy Duke

Daisy Duke is a fictional character from the American television series "The Dukes of Hazzard". A TV show from 1979 to 1985. Daisy, played by Catherine Bach, is the cousin of the protagonists, Bo and Luke, and all three live on a farm on the outskirts of Hazzard County with their Uncle Jesse.  

Catherine Bach:

 I can't think of another character who is responsible for creating their own fashion accessory namesake."


The show plots were not of the highest intellectual calling, although it ran for seven seasons and a total of 147 episodes. Many of the episodes followed a similar structure "out-of-town crooks pull a robbery or commit a crime or scandal, Duke boys blamed, spend the rest of the hour clearing their names. The General Lee flies and the squad cars crash.



The General Lee (sometimes referred to as simply "the General") is an orange 1969 Dodge Charger driven in the television series The Dukes of Hazzard by the characters the Duke boys, Bo and Luke.

 

Saturday, May 2, 2026

Friday, May 1, 2026

Why Not 4...


An easy look. In fact I wore almost the exact outfit to a Doctor's office last week. This is such an easy casual outfit with heels optional. I wore platform sneakers (trainers).  And yes, took my leather every-day bucket-shoulder bag.   

I have worn this look many times with the white shirt worn out, almost as a tunic. With high-rise jeans and belt, shirt tucked in with balloon sleeves; what a nice look. 

I love the little ankle cuff, turn up, on the skinny jeans. 
A skinny pair of jeans with a fringe ankle bottom would also work. Plus, button fly in place of a zip front. All not obvious, but subtle feminine differentials. 

Why not.....