How Do You Want To Be Remembered? (A Followup)

I Suspect My Father Died With A Big Secret. I Regret Never Asking Him For The Truth.

This is a bit of a followup of a my Post from Nobember 3, 2021; How Do You Want To Be Remembered?  In the following Huffpost article a son states this:

The author (right) and his father

I thought about all those times I sat in his study across from him, aching to ask him if he needed to tell me anything before it was too late. I’d open my mouth, but the words never formed."

By Jamie Brickhouse

When I saw the movie ”Beginners” about a 70-year-old widower who comes out like a bolt of rainbow-colored chiffon to his adult son, my husband Michael turned to me and asked, “Earl?”

Earl was my 81-year-old father.

I’m Dad’s only child, James Earl Brickhouse, junior to his senior, living proof that he and my mother had sex at least once during their 44-year marriage. My mother’s death in 2009 opened the door for us to get to know each other better, deepen our relationship and maybe trade some secrets.

I had a book-full of my secrets — literally. I was under contract to write a memoir about my alcoholism and my relationship with my mother, “Mama Jean,” as I call her in the memoir. Dad was so excited, he ended almost all our phone calls, “Hurry up and finish! I want it to come out before I die!” I almost wished he would die before it came out, so he’d never read it.

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Read the whole article and give the whole concept of holding family secretes serious consideration.  How, do you want to be remembered?

 

Feminine Differential - The French Tuck (and what it is!)

My Note: I love this look with jean and a contrasting skirt. 

I’m not going to lie, there are some fashion secrets that you have  probably overlooked most of your life.  And the french tuck, is one of them.  So here’s how to do a French tuck, and achieve that effortless, sophisticated look.

Certainly people have been casually half-tucking their shirts for a while now, but Tan France from Queer Eye decided to give this sophisticated style hack a name- The French Tuck.

What is a french tuck?

Coined by Queer Eyes Tan France, the “french tuck” is a styling technique that involves tucking the front of an oversized, billowy, or looser top into a higher rise bottom and letting the back of the top be untucked. 

When done properly, this provides an easy french style sensibility and a casual air to your outfit. It also helps elongate your proportions and emphasizes your waist. 

What do I need to do a french tuck?

For your top you will want something that is long and loose.  Oversized sweatshirts, men’s shirts, loose tees, and billowy tops all work for the french tuck. 

For your bottom you will want something mid to high rise so that it creates the most flattering proportions and your top has something to tuck into.  This creates a waterfall look from the front (tucked portion) to the back (untucked proportion). 

How to do a french tuck (for every top style)

So there are many techniques to properly accomplish a french tuck.  Here’s a video to show you some of them in action. 

Full French Tuck

Button your shirt to right above the top of your pants (or skirt).  Take the end of one blouse and tuck into the opposite side of the shirt, crossing over your belly button.  Repeat with the other side, overlapping the first tuck. Next, gently tuck the overlap until you reach the side seam of your pants.  From there, adjust the “poof” of the shirt, either pulling a little more shirt out or tucking more shirt in along the front to create a flat tuck. 

T-shirt French Tuck

For a t-shirt french tuck make sure your t-shirt has enough length.  Then, tuck in the front section of your t-shirt at your belly button. Gradually tuck in less as you reach the side seams of your pants, and let the back of t-shirt hang out (or waterfall).

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