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Thursday, July 19, 2018

My Alumni Magazine




By Erica Naone
Alumni Communications Specialist

Posted on July 17, 2018 by VCU Alumni



Rhonda Williams (A.S.’68/En) has lived a life of dramatic change. She left Halifax County in rural Virginia after high school for the bustling state capital, Richmond. Over the years, she forged a career in the then-nascent field of software engineering, pursued a new path as an entrepreneur, came out as transgender and discovered new skills as an activist for diversity and inclusion.



Her alma mater, Richmond Professional Institute, has gone through many changes, too. Williams’ Class of 1968 was the last to graduate from RPI before it merged with the Medical College of Virginia to become Virginia Commonwealth University. Though well-known  buildings such as Ginter House remain, RPI’s campus, now the VCU Monroe Park Campus, has vastly expanded and changed.

Williams, however, tends to look beyond the surface. “Although it’s changed so much, so radically, over the last 50 years, it’s still got the same spirit,” she says, describing it as artistic, alive and unique.

She believes that she has kept the same spirit, too. A desire for adventure and escape motivated her long before she turned down the chance to take over her grandfather’s rural Virginia general store and instead moved to Richmond to attend the School of Engineering Technology at RPI.

After graduation, her engineering degree helped her land a position with Westinghouse Electric Corp., where she received on-the-job training in computer programming. In 1980, she started a software company, which designed PC TaxCut, the first PC-based tax preparation system, as well as the first PC-based human resource system. The HR system’s customers included Ford Motor Co., NASA and many others.

In her time studying engineering at RPI, the class included only one female student, who wasn’t Williams. (Her classmates knew her as “Tom.”) Though Williams says she spent a significant amount of her life questioning her gender identity, she began to work and interact as female much of the time just in the past two decades.

Williams likes to say she’s “all dressed up with somewhere to go.” For her, the saying is about gaining confidence to enjoy life in public despite the fear that prevents some transgender people from presenting as their preferred gender.

Williams now frequently socializes as Rhonda. “One of the reasons for being out as much as I am is to have people meet and know someone who is transgender,” she says. “Many people can be prejudiced toward a concept, especially if they don’t understand the concept. But it’s a whole different experience when someone actually has to be prejudiced or bigoted against someone who is a person that they know.”  

Williams has encountered issues professionally that seem related to being transgender, though she says she’s fortunate to have avoided some of the other types of discrimination transgender people face, such as physical abuse. As a well-qualified engineer, while presenting male, Williams says, she never went on a job interview without being offered the job. Presenting as Rhonda, on the other hand, she says, it took 51 interviews over two years to get an offer — and then for a position as an unpaid intern. 

She hopes her persistence can inspire and encourage others. Having benefited from support groups in the past, she founded one in 1995 in Tampa, Florida, and later started a second group in West Palm Beach. Now living in nearby Jupiter, she launched the blog Rhonda’s Escape in 2016. The blog has about 2,000 views a day and total views exceeding 2 million.

“I think her story is so empowering,” says Fred Wayne (B.A.’70/H&S; M.S.’86/HP), who retired from VCU in 2003 as a special assistant to the president and has been a friend of Williams since meeting her about 10 years ago at an RPI reunion. “I know that in my own life, there are things that I would like to have done, that I could have done, that I should have done, that I did not do. And I see Rhonda and I think, you did it. I am so happy for you.”

Wayne says that in today’s politically strained climate, Williams’ welcoming, open personality combined with confidence in herself are sorely needed.

Williams’ next chapter is another entrepreneurial adventure, this time offering corporate diversity and inclusion training. “My hook will be ‘Going through the glass ceiling — the opposite way,” she says, referring to the special understanding she’s gained by experiencing the corporate world as both male and female.

RPI, she says, laid the foundation for the entrepreneurial spirit she’s embraced throughout her life. She still comes to campus anytime she’s in the area. On her most recent trip to VCU for Reunion Weekend in April, she visited the new Institute for Contemporary Art with a group of friends and was delighted to discover a large sign that read, “You belong here.”

More than 50 years after leaving Halifax County to attend RPI, Williams is still showing the world that she belongs anywhere she chooses to go.


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Note:  This interview and article came about after my 50 Year Reunion that took place in April. Thank you Erica for your hard work in putting this together.  I am flattered and honored to be included in the newsletter.  

Wednesday, July 18, 2018

Unintended Consequences

Be careful what you wish. I seem to be moving ever so far down the rabbit hole of a social transition, although I have never seen myself as a completely female-identified person. From youth, I have gone back and forth between effeminate to tomboy playing the role that was needed. My clothing and mode of dress reflects the role.  

The role of a student, successful businessman, parent and professional was always clear with no mistaken identity or consequences. Getting older has allowed me to relaxed and feel less constrained by expected societal standards; the necessity to play a role. Oh, what a wonderful luxury.  

That is why I have come to feel that the term “cross-dressing” no longer applied. I am not crossing any boundary other than being myself. Apparel is neither male or female (articles of clothing do not have a gender) and the items are none other than my clothes. I selected and purchased the items with the full intention of wearing. Retail designations are arbitrary.   

What precipitated this full WTF moment, was a recent stop at Home Depot. Yes, females do shop there, however along with the auto parts store they constitute as much of a retail man-cave as one can visit. I was passing down the center aisle heading for checkout when a somewhat older orange aproned man appeared out of the plumbing section.


With a huge smile, he said, “HI – May I help you?” This was not a man-to-man greeting! I gave my typical “no thank you” and continued. About three steps past this encounter in dawned on me – HE WAS FLIRTING.  

Even when not making a conscious effort, I seem to be giving off some form of feminine signals. Maybe the smile (OK - I am happy person) or the androgynous look/hair. I don't know. I am flattered and have no problem being misgendered. However, I am starting to question which one is the “mis”. 


It is one thing to have a door opened (happens a lot), but this went to a new and unexpected level. I can flirt with the best when in a Rhonda social environment, however this flirt was totally unsolicited and a new experience. 


Be careful what you wish.