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I Love A Success Story - Hailey Davidson

Begins quest to become first transgender woman to earn LPGA card at Q-School

By - Beth Ann Nichols
August 19, 2021 

The par-4 fifth at the The Dye Preserve in Jupiter, Florida, used to be a juicy risk/reward hole for Hailey Davidson at about 290 yards with a cut driver. Now Davidson jokes that she could get the luckiest bounce off a concrete path and still not reach the green. Six years into her gender transition, Davidson reckons she’s now shorter off the tee than the Korda sisters.

“Lost another half a club of yardage,” bemoaned Davidson earlier this month. “I thought I was done losing yardage.”

This week Davidson, 28, becomes the second transgender woman to tee it up in the first stage of LPGA Q-School. The first, Bobbi Lancaster, was a 63-year-old physician from Arizona who earned Symetra Tour status in 2013, but ultimately spent her time traveling the country as a human rights advocate.

Now Davidson, who earned a scholarship to play on the men’s team at Wilmington University, an NCAA Division II school in Delaware, before transferring to the men’s team at Christopher Newport, an NCAA Division III school in Virginia, begins her journey toward trying to become the first transgender player to earn status on the LPGA.

Davidson began undergoing hormone treatments on Sept. 24, 2015, a date that’s tattooed on her right forearm, and in January, underwent gender reassignment surgery, a six-hour procedure that’s required under the LPGA’s Gender Policy.

On May 13, Davidson won her first professional title on the NWGA tour (National Women’s Golf Association), beating several LPGA players in the process including Paula Creamer and Perrine Delacour. She is believed to be the first trans woman to win a professional tournament in the U.S. and now owns three titles.

On June 8, Davidson received confirmation from the LPGA that she was eligible to compete in tour qualifying school, after having met the tour’s criteria of at least one year of hormonal therapy and gender reassignment surgery. The 72-hole event, held at Mission Hills Country Club in Rancho Mirage, California, is being staged Aug. 19-22 and a minimum of 95 players and ties will advance to Stage II out of a field of 339.

Davidson knows that any kind of success she might enjoy on the LPGA will be laced with controversy. Her quest comes at a time when anti-transgender legislation is being passed and debated across the United States.

I guess that’s what frustrates me the most. If I play bad, then people will feel justified – ‘Oh well, she played bad and wasn’t good enough.’ – If I do anything good, it won’t be because of the fact that I put my whole life into this … it would be because I’m trans.

See Hailey's Blog "Becoming Hailey" and read more here.

Feminine Differential - The A-Line White Dress

StyleWe
Urban Daily Loose Plain Shirt Dress

I know, a lot more that just a differential; a full blown feminine presentation. Something called out to me with its cool summer look; it's shortness and understated elegance. I can see this being worn for an outdoor cafe  lunch or just a mall trip. Most any heels or sandal would turn this into a statement dress.  A little bit of a retro-look from my teen years.  

I purchased similar dresses from Macys, and two from Amazon.  Neither were anything close to the look shown here. So did purchase from StyleWe and it does look just as good in person as with the model.    

One reviewer stated: "Cute and versatile, this dress can be dressed up or down effortlessly."   I completely agree. 

It is cotton that has substance, a crisp feel (not thin), shirt collar and comes in small to XXL.  

For me a change from my, oh so typical, jeans, tee and sneakers. Enjoy.   

Musical Interlude - You Belong With Me

 

You Belong With Me - Song by Taylor Swift

Cute … 

"She wears high heels, I wear sneakers..."

Feminine Differential - Pairing Shoes to Jeans

A Woman’s Guide to the Best Shoes to Wear with Jeans in 2024 | ShoeTease

By: AuthorCristina Ehm  February 18, 2024

Welcome to ShoeTease: The shoe & style blog that brings shoe lovers together! Learn all about ShoeTease on our About page.

 With many women stepping back into their jeans from a long hiatus (you know, from sweats and leggings!), a recap on how to style jeans – specifically what shoes to wear with jeans, is in order!  

My Note:  I am not a slave to fashion rules.  Like the rule.  "no white after Labor Day", etc. However, sometimes suggestion make sense and add just the right "Feminine Differential".

Enjoy:

PBCHRC Summer Soirée

 

Political Cartoons 8-25-2024 - A Musical Sunday

Classic TV Theme: Gilligan's Island

The Addams Family Theme song

Sunshine, Lollipops And Rainbows

The three Cs

 

Florida's Official Tourism Website...

Quietly Scrubs 'LGBTQ Travel' Page

The removal is being called "yet another deliberate step in making Florida a hostile environment for LGBTQ people." 

By Nina Golgowski
August 21, 2024

A billboard welcoming visitors to
"Florida: The 'Don't Say Gay or Trans' State"

Florida’s official tourism website has quietly scrubbed a page promoting local LGBTQ-friendly travel destinations, in what has been widely interpreted as another in a long series of steps meant to intimidate, persecute and marginalize the LGBTQ+ community under the state’s conservative governor, Ron DeSantis.

VisitFlorida.com’s “LGBTQ Travel” section ― which featured links to the state’s “top 10 gay beaches” and information about LGBTQ chambers of commerce and LGBTQ road trips ― was last documented as being operative in mid-April by the internet archive site Wayback Machine, as first reported by NBC News on Monday.

“SUNSHINE FOR ALL,” the page had declared when it was active. “There’s a sense of freedom to Florida’s beaches, the warm weather and the myriad activities ― a draw for people of all orientations, but specially appealing to a gay community looking for a sense of belonging and acceptance.”

An official reason for the page’s removal was not immediately clear. Representatives with Visit Florida did not respond to HuffPost’s calls and emails seeking comment. The website’s calendar of events still includes listings for upcoming LGBTQ-themed events across the state.

Visit Florida is not a government agency, but it receives public funding in a public-private partnership with the state legislature, which has worked to strip and limit LGBTQ+ rights throughout the state under DeSantis’ leadership.

These policies include the so-called “Don’t Say Gay” law (which was recently amended under a settlement), as well as laws regarding public school bathrooms, books and children’s sports. Indirectly, there was also a recent summer ban on cities lighting up bridges at night with colors other than red, white and blue, after a county commissioner objected to a rainbow display on a Tampa Bay bridge, as The Washington Post reported.

Nadine Smith, executive director of Equality Florida ― which issued a travel advisory last year for the state, as did other civil rights organizations ― said the removal of the tourism page “is yet another deliberate step in making Florida a hostile environment for LGBTQ people.”

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The survey ― published by the IGLTA Foundation, the philanthropic arm of the International LGBTQ+ Travel Association ― also found that 53% of respondents said they would not attend an LGBTQ+ event in Florida because of the state’s laws and policies.

Worldwide, about 47% of those surveyed perceived the Sunshine State as somewhat unwelcoming or very unwelcoming for LGBTQ+ travelers. Within the U.S., 80% of respondents said the same thing.

When asked what might prevent them from visiting the state, an overwhelming 84% of respondents cited DeSantis’ statements or legislative priorities. The same percentage cited the state’s unfriendly laws and policies toward LGBTQ+ people.

What should you wear to work if you’re nonbinary?

 

According to Mx. Olivares, government needs
 to embrace the idea of people wearing
“whatever makes them feel powerful
and confident
and secure." Credit...


Clement Pascal for The New York Times

How nonbinary professionals thread the needle of getting dressed for the office.

By Shane O’Neill

It may not be the most pressing question that gender-nonconforming people face on the job, but with approximately 1.2 million L.G.B.T.Q. Americans identifying as nonbinary, employers and employees alike are exploring what professional attire can look like.

“I think people treat me with more dignity when I dress more masculinely, but people are way nicer to me when I dress more femininely,” said El Layla Johnson, 33, a former restaurant server who is now a therapist.

For Mx. Johnson, getting dressed for work has been a struggle since adolescence.

“I just feel like there’s a manual or rule book that people receive and that my copy got lost in the mail,” said Mx. Johnson, who, like many nonbinary people, uses the pronouns they and them.

Mx. Johnson recalled regularly crying while getting dressed for work at an upscale restaurant in Seattle. It wasn’t just that they found the restaurant’s dress code to be ugly (though they did). Mx. Johnson had a hard time finding clothes that fit at all.

“I’m six feet tall, I’ve always had really big feet and wide shoulders but a small waist and a really big butt,” they said. “And so it is not easy for me to find clothing in the men’s section or the women’s section that fits me well.”

Cooper Howell, an actor and bartender
 who sometimes opts for a kilt instead of jeans 

Now, as a therapist who works with L.G.B.T.Q. patients, Mx. Johnson finds that their own agender identity can be an asset. “The fact that I have a rat tail and piercings and tattoos, I actually believe that people might feel more comfortable with me or relate to me more easily,” they said.

Deciding what’s appropriate for work can be fraught for employees of any gender, especially in this post-lockdown-but-still-Zooming “power casual” moment. But many nonbinary people report unique pressures that accompany choosing a work outfit.

For video call sessions, Mx. Johnson usually opts for simplicity. “I pick one shirt and I wear it all week and I hang it on the back of my office chair,” they said. “And that is great because it just takes so much of the consideration out of it.”

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“The nonbinary people in your workplace have so much to give,” Mx. Dunham said. “Don’t let stumbling over pronouns or the dress code make it difficult for what are going to be some of your best employees.”

Musical Interlude - Those Were The Days

Lauren, Remember those good old day /nights in Tampa. 

Those were the days with April and Edie at BJ's and Baxter's.  

 

Those Were The Days - Mary Hopkin {Stereo} 1968

Phil Donahue Dies At 88

Phil Donahue, talk show host pioneer dies at 88

My Note:  One of my first viewed mainstream discussions on Cross dressing  occurred on his daytime show.  In the show below he even cross-dressed himself.  He was respectful and the show was informative. This was not his last show on the seldom discussed subject.  Thank you Phil.  See my 2016 discussion on the show. 

Phil Donahue, an innovative TV host who rose to fame in the late 1960s after being the first person to interact with a studio audience and bring new ideas into American living rooms, died Sunday, his family said. He was 88.

"Groundbreaking TV talk show journalist Phil Donahue died Sunday night at home surrounded by his wife of 44 years Marlo Thomas, his sister, his children, grandchildren and his beloved golden retriever Charlie," said a statement from his family

History Repeating - 1933 / 2024

 

Florida College Discards Gender Studies Books Ahead Of New School Year. The tiny state-run college endured a hostile takeover by Gov. Ron DeSantis last year.

2024

When hundreds of books got hauled away in a dumpster from the library of the New College of Florida on Thursday, the tiny liberal arts college with a governing board dominated by appointees of Republican Gov. Ron DeSantis once again found itself at the center of the state’s culture wars.

“We abolished the gender studies program. Now we’re throwing out the trash,” Christopher Rufo, a DeSantis appointee to the Sarasota college’s governing board, posted Friday on X, formerly Twitter.

The American Civil Liberties Union, meanwhile, condemned the college for “a brazen act of censorship.”

“These actions are nothing short of a cultural purge, reminiscent of some of history’s darkest times, where regimes sought to control thought by burning books and erasing knowledge,” Bacardi Jackson, executive director of the ACU of Florida, said in a statement.

Both sides were responding to accounts spread through social media that officials at the campus of roughly 700 students had sent a large collection of books from the college’s recently shuttered gender studies program to a local landfill.

But a statement by New College administrators said people were confusing two different batches of books. It said volumes taken away by dumpster came from a routine culling of the main library’s collection, largely to get rid of old and damaged books. Books related to gender studies, it said, were also placed outside the library and “were later claimed by individuals planning to donate the books locally.” [still taken away from the University]

1933

Beginning on May 10, 1933, Nazi-dominated student groups carried out public burnings of books they claimed were “un-German.” The book burnings took place in 34 university towns and cities. Works of prominent Jewish, liberal, and leftist writers ended up in the bonfires. The book burnings stood as a powerful symbol of Nazi intolerance and censorship.

On 6 May 1933, the Institute of Sexology, an academic foundation devoted to sexological research and the advocacy of homosexual rights, was broken into and occupied by Nazi-supporting youth. Several days later the entire contents of the library were removed and burned.

The institute was initially occupied by The German Student Union, who were a collective of Nazi-supporting youth. Several days later, on 10 May, the entire contents of the library were removed to Berlin’s Bebelplatz Square. That night, along with 20,000 other books across Germany, they were publicly burned in a symbolic attack by Nazi officials on their enemies.

Founded in 1919, the institute had been set up by Magnus Hirschfeld, a world-renowned expert in the emerging discipline of sexology. During its existence, thousands of patients were seen and treated, often for free. The Institute also achieved a global reputation for its pioneering work on transsexual understanding and calls for equality for homosexuals, transgender people and women. Hirschfield himself was a passionate advocate for homosexual rights and had long appealed for the repeal of Paragraph 175, the law that criminalised homosexuality in Germany.

Jewish, gay and outspokenly liberal, Hirschfeld was an obvious target for the Nazis, and the seizure and destruction of the institute on 6 May took place only three months after Hitler was made Chancellor of Germany. During the attack and subsequent book burning, Hirschfeld was working in Paris. He saw the burning of his own library in a news report at the cinema. Among the texts thrown onto the bonfire at the Bebelplatz was Heinrich Heine’s Almansor, in which the author noted:

‘Where they burn [destroy] books, in the end they will burn [destroy] humans too’.

Political Cartoons 8-18-2024

 

Dear Beautiful You...

 

ETSY

You Can Be Both

 

Don’t Be So Worried

My Note:  Casual with the bent to androgynous is my daily look.  I am "Ma'am" more than "Sir" and enjoy every moment as both. With that said, nothing beats an elegant event or evening out in Palm Beach. However, being myself every day is all about living a full life.  You can be both.  

By Candie Hart

I would say that the single biggest feeling holding girls back from expressing just a bit more girliness than they currently are is worry/fear. Girls are worried that strangers that they have never met, nor will ever meet again will see the girliness and judge them for it.

The truth is that the vast majority of people that you encounter on a day-to-day basis are consumed by their own world behind the screen of their own worries and fears. As a result, they won’t even see the pink lip balm, nude eyeliner, or clear nail polish that you are too afraid to try out.

Girlfriend, here is my challenge to you. Make a list of three small/subtle girly things that you have avoided while going out into the world. If you are a new girl and can’t think of three things, then use my list in the paragraph above (pink lip balm, nude eyeliner, and clear nail polish). Next week you will pick 3 days and on each of those days do just one of those girly things that scares you.

I am sure that nobody will even notice or make any remark. After each of your outings, I want you to come back and share the girly thing you tried and what the response was so that other girls can see that they don’t have anything to worry about.

By the way, I do a variation of this exercise with the girls I work with directly as a way to help grow their girly confidence. Hugs.

This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.

In the same way that a girl can be boyish, boys can be girly.  I realize that our modern society, though sometimes archaic, doesn’t necessarily view it that way.  And yes, there are countries that strictly forbid it, sadly.  Yet, you are free to be both male and girly.  It’s your decision because it’s your right to choose how you portray yourself.  From the way you dress, to the way you act, to the way you talk, to the way you think.

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About three weeks ago, I took a personal road trip to a nearby town to do some liquor shopping.  I love Irish Whiskey and Scotch, sometimes a fine sipping Rum, but the local stores are ridiculous in pricing.  I decided to be a little less manly.  It wasn’t over the top as if I were a drag performer.  Some neutral girly jeans and top paired with a cowl neck hoodie, some cute sneakers and socks, and panties and bra underneath.  It was the typical androgynous outfit of some of my other girly outings.  You could say that it was my tomboy outfit (lol).  But it wasn’t just the clothing.  I needed less of a manly presence about myself.  So, it was a practice in the way I carried and presented myself.  The only encounter that I expected to make me nervous was at the liquor store where I am a loyal customer.

By the end of the day and the experience, I felt foolish–foolish for being the least bit worried.  Nobody paid a lick of attention.  Nobody cared.  And even if there was somebody who happened to notice that I was dressed in girl clothing, no one sneered or remarked.  No one cared.  Even the store clerk with whom I always interact about tastings and options, never batted an eye to my less than boyish mannerisms.  With the liquor store stop, a gas stop, and an eventual supermarket run, the outing was in the books and I was reminded of the very thought behind this caption.  I’m allowed to be me–a girly boy.  This experience was no different than any other outing.  People just don’t pay that much attention.

I share this semi-girly experience to simply say, that whereas there can be a fine line between what is tolerated and what is mocked, that line is blurrier than you might imagine.  Don’t be so worried.  Stretch your limits a bit and let your girly self enjoy some time, even if it’s casual and more androgynous.  You can be girly and be a boy–and enjoy being you!

Much love to ya!

CandieHart   

Feminin Differential - The Jumpsuit

 

Amazon - PRETTYGARDEN Women's Casual Long Sleeve Jumpsuit Crewneck One Off Shoulder Elastic Waist Stretchy Romper ($34.99)

I saw this on Amazon a few days ago and decided to try the look. I love the off-the-shoulder look and the elastic waist and leg opening works for my petite height. I am hoping that the waist has enough elastic to be held slightly above my natural waist to great a "blousey top" look. Although Amazon also called it a Romper, it has long legs and is technically just a jumpsuit.  

The site, The TrendSpotter says this about jumpsuits:

If you’re looking to add some serious style to a casual event, you can’t overlook a casual jumpsuit. Relaxed, super comfortable, and oh-so-chic, the casual jumpsuit is the perfect item to get you out of your jeans and T-shirt rut. Choose from cotton and denim varieties in a range of silhouettes to find the one that suits your style. In particular, loose fit jumpsuits that feature an elasticated or drawstring waist tend to be universally flattering and perfect for jumpsuit virgins. If you plan to wear flats with your jumpsuit, remember to make sure you pick a cropped style boot or lace-up sandal that finishes at or slightly above the ankles. This will help create balance and keep the look lengthened and slim. [I like the heels with clutch bag look best.]

There is one other addition to the look that I think will add; a blazer.  I will keep you posted and will post photos when I have an outing wearing this Jumpsuit.  

Here is another take on a feminine jumpsuit.  I have never tried one so look forward to getting the above layout jumpsuit.  

Follow-up: The jumpsuit did not work for me.  That is why I wrote this a few months back and never posted it. My reasoning; I am to short and it made look dumpy!  Your mileage may vary...

I Love A Success Story - Joy Ladin

"Overview of My Work"

Joy Ladin

From Joy's Wordpress Site. 

I am a teacher, widely published essayist and poet, literary scholar, and nationally known speaker on transgender issues. In fall 2019, Keshet recognized my work with a Hachamat Lev award. In April 2020, I began a weekly conversation show, “Containing Multitudes,” discussing identity, religion, and literature with a wide-range of guests (recordings available at the link above).

For recent and selected videos of talks and readings, including my TEDx talk, “Ain’t I a Woman?“, my “On Being” interview with Krista Tippett, and “Beyond the Tower of Babel: A New Approach to Inclusive Policy,” a webinar offered through the Sol Price School of Public Policy of the University of Southern California, click here.

I am the author of eleven books, including the revised second edition of The Book of Anna (EOAGH, 2021);  2018’s The Soul of the Stranger: Reading God and Torah from a Transgender Perspective (Brandeis UP), a finalist for both a Lambda Literary Award and Triangle Award that received a starred review in Publishers Weekly; Through the Door of Life, a memoir of gender transition that was a finalist for a National Jewish Book Award and winner of a Forward Fives Award; and nine books of poetry, including last year’s The Future is Trying to Tell Us Something: New and Selected Poems (Sheep Meadow Press) and Fireworks in the Graveyard (Headmistress Press), Forward Fives award winner Coming to Life, and two Lambda Literary Award finalists, Transmigration and Impersonation. I have been awarded a National Endowment for the Arts writing fellowship and two Hadassah Brandeis Institute Research fellowships.

I hold a Ph.D. in American Literature from Princeton University, where I was awarded the Porter Ogden Jacobus Fellowship as top graduate student in the Humanities, an M.F.A. in Creative Writing from the University of Massachusetts (Amherst), and a B.A. from Sarah Lawrence College. Since 2003, I have held the David and Ruth Gottesman Chair in English at Stern College of Yeshiva University. My scholarly work has been supported by a Fulbright Scholarship and an American Council of Learned Societies Research Fellowship. (You can find links to my dissertation, “Soldering the Abyss: Emily Dickinson and Modern American Poetry,” as well as essays on poetry and transgender issues on my page on Academia.edu.)

Since coming out as transgender in 2008, I have become a nationally recognized speaker on transgender issues. I have been featured in many National Public Radio interviews, most notably “On Being with Krista Tippett,” which has been rebroadcast three times, as well as numerous interviews and profiles in numerous publications.

I have given invited talks and readings at many universities and colleges, including Harvard, Columbia, Princeton, Boston University, George Washington University, the University of Arizona, the University of Connecticut, the University of San Francisco, Mount Holyoke College, and Smith College. (Here is a link to a talk I gave at Hebrew College:  docs.google.com/file/d/0Bz2ZlrMDNbY1Z0p5Wm1vWVA1ams/edit.) 

I have also been a featured speaker outside academia, including delivering keynote talks at the 21st World Congress of LGBT Jews, and the 2015 Asanbe Diversity Symposium at Austin Peay State University. I have spoken to dozens of Jewish communities around the country, and served as scholar-in-residence at a number of synagogues. I am a member of the Board of Keshet, a national organization devoted to full inclusion of LGBTQ Jews in the Jewish world.

Please contact me at joyladin@gmail.com if you are interested in engaging me as a speaker. For details about and examples of my work, please click on the relevant tabs.

Read more here - Becoming Joy

Musical Interlude - Jax - Victoria’s Secret

 Official Lyric Video

I Love A Success Story - Geena Rocero

Why I must come out

When fashion model Geena Rocero first saw a photo of herself in a bikini, "I thought ... you have arrived!" As she reveals, that's because she was born with the gender assignment "boy." In this moving talk, Rocero tells the story of becoming who she always knew she was.

Activism (Wikipedia)

In 2014, Rocero launched Gender Proud, "an advocacy & awareness campaign that aims to advance the rights of all transgender individuals". On March 31, 2014, in honor of International Transgender Day of Visibility, Rocero came out as transgender while giving a TED talk in Vancouver, Canada. On September 19, 2014, excerpts of Rocero's TED talk were featured on NPR's TED Radio Hour podcast.

Rocero is the founder of Gender Proud, which is a media production company that tell stories about transgender and what it means to be gender nonconforming. Rocero and her production company have produced and presented "Beautiful as I want to Be", which talks about transgender youth. Another film is called" Willing and Able", which talks about transgender employment and athletes. The two-film won a GLAAD Media award. She's a board member of NY LGBT Center and An Ambassador for The Stonewall.

Political Cartoons 8-11-2024

 

Do More...

 

Tim Walz Has Spent Decades Championing LGBTQ+ Rights

 

Minnesota Gov. Tim Walz

By Lil Kalish

When Minnesota Gov. Tim Walz introduced himself at a rally Tuesday night — his first public appearance since becoming Democratic presidential nominee Kamala Harris’ running mate — he imparted a bit of Midwestern wisdom to the Philadelphia crowd.

“In Minnesota, we respect our neighbors and their personal choice that they make,” he said. “Even if we wouldn’t make the same choice for ourselves, there’s a golden rule: Mind your own damn business.”

Walz, a former high school teacher, football coach and military veteran, has upheld these values of personal freedom as a core tenet during his two stints as governor, signing laws to protect access to gender-affirming care and abortion, to ban conversion therapy and to block libraries from banning books that include LGBTQ+ characters.

Last year, Walz issued an executive order to safeguard trans people’s ability to receive gender-affirming care. The order protected out-of-state patients, their families and medical providers from being punished by other states for seeking that care. He did so just as a slew of nearby Republican-led states, including North Dakota, South Dakota, Nebraska and Iowa, enacted laws banning gender-affirming care for minors.

Soon after, Walz signed a law with broad protections that supporters said would make Minnesota a “trans refuge.” The legislation barred the use of subpoenas to investigate doctors providing gender-affirming care for their patients. It also allowed Minnesota courts to assert “temporary emergency jurisdiction” if a minor has come from another state to obtain gender-affirming care.

Together, these policies have made Minnesota an attractive option for many families of transgender youth and other LGBTQ+ families that are living in other states. In 2023, a record number of bills were introduced barring access to gender-affirming care for minors and the ability of trans kids to participate in school sports or use school restrooms and facilities because of their gender identity.

See: Trump attacks Tim Walz as ‘very into the transgender’

White Jeans Jacket

 

I am a trans woman and not a real woman

 BY: Shizuka Sterns Morishita

Shizuka Sterns Morishita

My Note:  WOW! This one should set off some alarms bells.  And it did.  Read her follow up here: I Am A Trans Woman: Take 2

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I’ve been thinking after that piece I wrote about Brittney Griner, the feedback given and doing a lot of research on the science of transition, trans issues and especially how conservative pundits like discrediting any real information (happens on the left too all the time). People who are trans, who unfortunately use transition as a mockery and parody like Dylan Mulvaney, bizarre as in the case of Jeffrey Marsh, outright dangerous as pseudo trans predator Chris Chan, or those uncomfortable with themselves using opposite gender pronouns without therapy making really strange TikTok videos, brings forth my own gender dysphoria. I went to bed last night after watching a lot of videos from both sides of the issue over several days, including right wing bigots like Matt Walsh, as well as interviews with various transgender women in Thailand, I fought the urge not to tear up. The lack of humanity, courtesy and decency expressed, particularly from the right exacerbate feelings that I think would be on an even keel for myself if the community and tenor of the scene online were not so toxic.

My dysphoria particularly manifests when I see either trans women or biological women with a body type I desire, I cannot stand the fact I have a pronounced shadow after shaving, and look forward to when I move transferring my insurance so my insurance covers hair removal Before transition I had heavy chest hair I always thought was so ugly, ditto arm and leg hair — — that’s natural, everyone grows it but it feels not right for me. I also wonder if 10 or 20 years down the line, will HRT wreck my body? I’m looking at academic papers at the National Institute of Health about cancer risks, there are issues with bones, and blood as time goes on — granted I think genetic makeup has to do with HRT effects on the body, right now I’m fine but I wonder about the future. I will never get bottom or facial feminization surgery because the risks are too great. For sure the fact I do have cerebral palsy and use a wheelchair and how cerebral palsy effects me have limited how my body language can emulate femininity to a degree. I mean if I didn’t have the disability I’d be to express the body language better, there’s a few things I’ve adopted like sitting posture, but my late mother said I always sat that way, but I roll (no pun intended) with what I can do.

I am a trans woman and not a real woman. That’s the reality. What do I mean by that? Although I am on hormones three years this summer and now have secondary female sex characteristics I am biologically male and always will be as is every other trans woman in existence. Although sex and gender are two separate things, gender is coded at birth in the brain but for whatever reason I’ve always learned towards feminine. I’m not sure why, it just happened that way, I always felt more comfortable with women, when I was a child and teenager all my friends were girls. Listening to Buck Angel interview Mina Caputo, she is INCREDIBLE and refreshing.

I may never be viewed as a woman by many and that’s ok. Is my long hair, wearing makeup and clothing a costume? Perhaps in the minds of some. I am not an autogynephile or cross dresser, I am trans woman different from a woman. I do not get a sexual rush putting on my clothes or makeup, it just feels natural. However there are things a biological woman goes through I will never understand. I will never have a period, give birth or have an idea of the trials some women go through growing up. That said, having spastic quadriplegic cerebral palsy, I have an idea in a different sense having gone through barriers continuing to the present. I am a trans woman, a different category, living my truth but I do go through hell every day knowing I’m not a biological woman. I wish I was; but I am not and that’s ok. I could have been content pre transition being a feminine man who likes watching combat sport, into hi-fi stereos, collects jazz CD’s, makeup, clothes, and knowing I had that diverse interest set but I never did feel presenting as a man, ever.. 

I always wanted to be born a woman. I’m ok being a trans woman and realizing that’s just a different category.

Donald Trump and the Transgender Miss Universe Contestant

More than a decade ago, Donald Trump was an unlikely LGBT ally – and his stance might affect him now

By Katie Kindelan April 4, 2012

ABC News 2012 - Donald Trump has fired back at Jenna Talackova, the Canadian transsexual beauty queen who mired his Miss Universe pageant in controversy, and her high-powered attorney who is demanding the beauty pageant be open to all contestants, even those born male.

Jenna Talackova

"I think Jenna should focus on running up in Canada and seeing how she does in Canada and then, if she does well, she has a chance to become what many, many young women all over the world want to be and that's Miss Universe," Trump, whose company owns the Miss Universe and Miss USA pageants, said today on " Good Morning America."  "That should be her focus."

Talackova, 23, was selected as one of 65 finalists in the 2012 Miss Universe Canada competition but was disqualified Friday because she was not a "naturally born female."  The Vancouver-born Talackova was born a male but had sexual reassignment surgery at age 19.

Days after the disqualification drew worldwide headlines, the Trump organization Monday said it would not attempt to keep Talackova out of the competition.

"The Miss Universe Organization will allow Jenna Talackova to compete in the 2012 Miss Universe Canada pageant provided she meets the legal gender recognition requirements of Canada, and the standards established by other international competitions," Michael D. Cohen, Trump's executive vice president and special counsel, said in an email statement announcing the change.

But the change was not enough for Talackova and her attorney, Gloria Allred, who called the statement "confusing" in a high-profile news conference Tuesday in New York.  Talackova wants pageant organizers to go further and drop eligibility rules she calls discriminatory.

"Mr. Trump, admit that you are wrong and get rid of your Trumped-up rule," Allred said during the news conference.

"I did not know that she had a lawyer and especially Gloria Allred," Trump said today.   "In fact, had I known it was Gloria Allred, I probably would not have reversed my decision because, you know, Gloria is easy to beat."

"The fact is we went by the laws of the country and the laws are very clear and, based on that, about two days ago, we decided to let her compete," he said of his organization's decision.

The winner of the Miss Universe Canada title, who will be crowned May 19 in Toronto, will go on to represent Canada in the Miss Universe Pageant later in the year.

Because the international nature of the pageant means future transgender contestants would have to abide by laws in their respective countries, Trump acknowledged the organization might have to, in the future, cede to Talackova and Allred's calls for a blanket policy that would supercede all laws.

"We'll probably have to open it up … because if it's in Canada and if it's in the United States, in terms of their laws, and if other countries don't necessarily have those laws, it wouldn't be fair just to take certain countries," he said.  "So we'll probably decide - we haven't made that decision yet - but we'll probably decide to open it up."

Talackova and Allred avoided questions during Tuesday's news conference of whether she will compete if the rule is not eliminated before this year's Miss Universe Canada pageant.

The blonde beauty's birth certificate, passport and driver's license reflect that she is a woman, Allred said during the news conference. They believe that should be enough for the competition.

"I want Mr. Trump to state that this rule will be eliminated because I do not want any other woman to suffer from the discrimination that I have endured," Talackova said during the news conference.

The beauty queen has not tried to hide her past. In a 2010 YouTube video for Miss International Queen, a transgender-transsexual competition in which Talackova was a contestant, she stated that she began hormone therapy to become a female at age 14.

"We're going by the laws of Canada and the laws of the United States and they're really very clear," Trump said.  "I hope she does well."

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“President Trump’s campaign has been very clear for over a year that Project 2025 had nothing to do with the campaign, did not speak for the campaign, and should not be associated with the campaign or the President in any way,” Trump spokespeople Susie Wiles and Chris LaCivita said in a statement.

“Reports of Project 2025’s demise would be greatly welcomed and should serve as notice to anyone or any group trying to misrepresent their influence with President Trump and his campaign — it will not end well for you.”

But reporting indicates that the ties between Project 2025 and Trump’s campaign run deep. At least 140 people who worked in the Trump administration — including six former members of his cabinet — have been involved in the project, according to an investigation by CNN. At least 31 out of 38 people named as authors or editors on the 900-page plan are tied to Trump, USA Today reported.

There is evidence that, if elected, Trump and his vice presidential pick, Sen. JD Vance (R-Ohio), would permit or even encourage the type of Orwellian surveillance described in Project 2025.