Thursday, November 30, 2023

How are women’s jeans different from men’s?

I personally do not own a pair of "Men's" designated jeans.  I am not sure when the tipping point occurred. Some are overtly feminine, others are just jeans that have a woman's designation. Several are of a color that only a woman would wear (teal / orange), others are of a skinny cut that are absolutely feminine. Several are pull-on with no zipper.  My favorites jeans are skinny cut, high-rise, pull-on.

My go-to-everyday jeans are the brand "Not-My-Daughter's-Jeans" (NYDJ). One is boot-cut the other slim ankle cut.  Both are derriere hugging and have a tapered / tight  front (female) cut.  Both are at least 10 years old, faded and unmistakably feminine.

The simple truth is that women's designated  jeans fit me better physically and psychologically. They are softer, cost less and on my short legs, baggy guy's jeans make me look even shorter.  .  

How to Wear Cropped Jeans:
7 Cropped Jeans Outfits
Just a few day ago I purchased at Talbots, (still have my employee discount) a pair of Crop Jeggings.  These are jeans material, and shorter (22" petite) than typical jean with a slim/tight leg and back cut. With heels these make quite a feminine statement; somewhat  retro. See: What Shoes to Wear With Cropped Jeans

Below is a Quora question, answered quite well, as to the differentiation on male, feminine designated jeans.  I know here in Florida, jeans are the uniform of-the-day, so why dress in a boring manner when a statement can be made?

Do your wear "Women's  "designated jeans"? What style is your favorite? 

Quora answered by Victor Lavigne: As a person who owns both mens and women's jeans, I can tell you the differences most obvious to me.

Those are the biggest differences that I personally notice. Hope this helps.

  • Women’s zippers are shorter. Men need a longer zipper to take care of…. you know, toileting business. The zippers for women are too short, you have to unbutton the jeans and lower them to do your business.

  • Pocket differences. Men’s are bigger, more functional. Women’s are smaller, and front pockets are sometimes more for looks that function.

  • Length. On average, a regular cut women’s jean may - depending on brand and style - have an inseam length that is 1 or 2 inches shorter than men’s.

  • Waist to hip ratio. Now this is really confusing. We all know that women naturally have a larger hip size to waist than men. For a woman to have hip size about 10 inches larger than waist is not unrealistic. Versus a man, in my case my waist is 31 vs hips of 36. So you would naturally think that women’s jeans are cut so the hips are proportionally bigger than the waist. Well, in my experience this is not so. My men’s jeans, where the waist fits me fine, tend to be baggy in the butt. Compared to women’s jeans, where if the waist fits me then the butt also tends to fit fine. Now, I do not have a woman’s build, as I already mentioned with my measurements. The only conclusion that I can give on this perplexing situation is that mens’ jeans are intentionally cut baggier in the butt/groin area. This does make some sense, considering that the manufacturer needs to leave room in the crotch area for, errh, the goods. But it also goes to explain why a sizable number of men find that women’s jeans just fit better overall.

Wednesday, November 29, 2023

Messy Bun - Plan "C"

Who Wore It Best?  

Amazon Messy Bun

For an event several nights ago, I had a hair appoint scheduled before hand. Upon arrival, I learned that the appointment had never been booked and my stylus did not has an open slot left.  Plan "B"?  

I really did not have enough time to shampoos, set, and dry my hair and still make it to the event. Plan "C"?

Several months ago I purchased from Amazon  a "Messy Bun Hair Piece Tousled Updo Hair Buns Extension - Scrunchie";  seen here.

The "Silver Grey"  color was a perfect match. I had worn my hair up in a ponytail to the hairdresser, (my everyday style) so half of the YouTube steps were done. After many attempts, tucking the pony tail in, then out, then in again, and using many bobby pins, I had it!  Not exactly as the model on Amazon, but close. 

All went well until about halfway through the event and I felt my bun sliding down and nearly off. To a quiet restroom I headed. There was another woman working on her dress at one mirror and she said, "I am having a wardrobe malfunction". She looked at me and said, "you are having a hair malfunction."  We both laughed and went about our mutual repairs.

Sufficiently re-tied and re-pinned the malfunction / disaster was averted. I returned to the party. Lesson for next time;-use more bobby pins!

This photo above is after returning home. I like the look and will do it again;  maybe as, "Plan A" next time.  


Side View of Plan "C'


Tuesday, November 28, 2023

I love A Success Story - Miss Benny

Miss Benny Is Glamorous—And Transgender

Mini Bio from IMDb:


Miss Benny is a non-binary performer born in Dallas, Texas. They began studying and professionally working as an actor at the age of eleven. Finding success in fields such as sketch comedy, improv comedy, and stand-up comedy, they created a YouTube channel in 2010 where they gathered an audience of hundreds of thousands of followers. Their music debut came in 2014 (as 'Benny'), reaching viral success with the self-produced music video 'Little Game' - they have since worked as a songwriter and recording artist by the name of 'Miss Benny'.


Benny - Little Game (Official Video)


Story by Miss Benny 

It’s currently the long-awaited sunny turn of a particularly gloomy spring in Los Angeles, and I’m killing time by doom-scrolling about the future of trans healthcare in America while a controversial blue pill dissolves under my tongue. The gap is quickly closing between now and June 22: the day that my television series Glamorous will come out on Netflix. And along with it, I too will come out as the transgender woman I’ve been privately living as for the last few years.

Miss Benny
I’m a proud person, but admittedly it’s still a bit daunting to say those words publicly. To list the reasons why could sway “heavy,” and even “depressing as hell,” so in an effort to keep it light and tight… let’s just say I’m one of those girls who grew up in a religious Texas household where queerness was totally not the vibe. I was homeschooled so as to not be exposed to anything that might tamper with the Christian faith my parents raised me in. But by 8 years old I was praying every night to wake up and somehow be like my sisters. In the morning I would wake up in the same body, and cry. Over time I became highly aware of how unwelcome LGBT topics would be in my hometown. And so I kept my head down and looked for an immediate escape.

I moved to L.A. when I was 14 as a way to get out of Texas, establish my own identity, and, hopefully, make a career as an actor. But I instead endured years of rejection in auditions because it “wasn’t time for someone like me.” I entered relationships where my femininity was subject for negotiation. And over time, I learned to quiet the colorful parts of myself and make peace with my dreams remaining dreams.

When I was 19, I was stuck and figuring out what to do next with my life. I was assisting on a Madison Beer photoshoot when I got a phone call. My manager told me, “There’s this show in development called Glamorous and the producers have you in mind for it.” The show was a coming-of-age comedy about a gender-nonconforming queer Latino makeup fanatic. In a fabulous reference to Mia’s audition in La La Land, I recall thinking, “No, this one will kill me.”

Read more here

I credit transgender actors, artists, and personalities like Elliot Page, Gigi Goode, Isis King, Dylan Mulvaney, Michaela Jae Rodrigeuz, Kim Petras, Chiquitita, Tommy Dorfman, Josie Totah, the cast of Veneno, the cast of Rupaul’s Drag Race, and so many more for showing me through the years what trans excellence and celebration can look like. And I hope to contribute the same.

Related: Kim Cattrall's new Netflix show Glamorous is imperfect, but perfectly timed

Monday, November 27, 2023

Ride For The Cure


The Pink Ride for the Cure was a sponsored bike (motorcyle) event at the Treasure Coast Harley store.  

We all met there, signed in, paid our registration fee (donation) and waited for the morning group ride to start. I had never done a group ride, not even with my smaller bikes. There was some apprehension; especially after I saw the large group there. I did gave myself a few minutes to decide if I was really going to do this.  I hung out in the store and with the group for almost an hour before we did "Kick-Stands-Up", at 11. Right on schedule.  I fell in with the long line heading out. 

OMG, what have i gotten myself into?  

With my bike 
I wore a pink t-shirt with a jeans type top over it. Many had gone all out with pink and it was fun hanging out with all of us taking photos.

Some Guys Will 
Think of Any Excuse 
to Wear A Bra
Riding was to be two-up, staggered, with tight spacing, altogether in a line; not easy to maintain. We had local and county police escorting / leading the group and at all stoplights / stop signs we were cleared to keep going.  

Many locals along the route came out to wave as the long, noisy line went by. I am sure all the pink outfits gave away the cause of the day.  Also there was a good number of women rides that day.     

The line was well over 2 miles; 280 bikes. From my position (mid-pack), I could not see the lead riders.

We did a circle loop from Stuart to Vero Beach, heading north along the ocean drive A1A. The return south from Vero was on side-streets along the west, river, side of the inter-coastal.  A beautiful ride both ways. 

The total rides was near 100 miles and with the group's moderate speed, almost three hours long. One very positive that day, was the weather; temperatures around 80 and bight sun.  A beautiful Florida "fall" day for a ride. FYI, we do get to ride all year with our beautiful South Florida  weather.  

After I got back, I was happy to get off the bike and walk for a while. I was not expecting a three hour ride. 

On our return, there were hot dogs, hamburgers, soda and beer for all.  A nice touch - Thank you Treasure Coast Harley.  

I felt good about the cause, my mother died of breast cancer, and I did get to hang out with other women rides. Some that day were breast cancer survives. I believe that the man in the pink bra, wife is survivor and they did have matching bras for the event.    

Next challenge: The "Woman's morning bike ride at Dayton" this March. I was signed up last year, but it was cancelled because of bad weather.  I did not go to Daytona. 

Crazy as it may seem, I fit in.  A fun and interesting bike day; "Escape".


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Sunday, November 26, 2023

Political Week In Review 11-26-2023


Former Gov. John Kasich of Ohio, who ran for the Republican presidential nomination in 2016 against Mr. Trump:

He’s absolutely ratcheting it up, and it’s very concerning. There’s just no limit to the anger and hatred in his rhetoric, and this kind of poisonous atmosphere has lowered our standards and hurts our country so much.”

Friday, November 24, 2023

"High Ho it's off to work I go" - Updated

My Soma
For the holidays I am working again at my favorite Palm Beach Gardens Mall lingerie store, SomaSee my post "Lingerie Shop Girl."

Nothing instills the holiday mood like listening to X'mas music non-stop for 8 hours.

 With that kidding aside, I do enjoy the shopping spirit, with everyone finding gifts and in the shopping mood. We do provide gift boxes and special holders for the gift cards. 

This is the time of the year when we get men in the store, shopping for PJ sets, and gift cards. Only the brave shop for lingerie. 

Sir, and what size does your girlfriend / wife wear. "About the same my size I am".  Like you have never said that?  

Our store has many holiday specials running from now to after the holiday. Check on-line. The enormity of the merchandise arriving daily that we put on the floor is amazing;  large boxes of mixed bras, panties, and sleep set.  When not selling at the registers or working with customers, we keep the floor stocked.  Oh no, not another box of panties.  

So...  if in the areas this coming Friday (Black Friday), stop in the store to say hello or get a bra fitting. See you soon and a happy holiday shopping season.  .   


FYI - Your prolific blogger does love gift cards and will put them to good use. If anyone is interested in bestowing one, any amount works. I will provide the needed information to call my store direct.    Happy shopping.    

Thursday, November 23, 2023

Can't We Just Be Thankful Without Hate?

Macy’s Parade Shuns Boycott Demands From Anti-L.G.B.T.Q. Group

A right-wing group that has been designated a hate group is planning to protest the Thanksgiving parade because of the inclusion of two nonbinary performers.

By Stefanos Chen

An anti-L.G.B.T.Q. group is organizing a boycott of Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade over performances by nonbinary Broadway actors, in the latest attempt to force companies to reverse course on social issues that some far-right groups consider too liberal.

The parade’s response: march on.

Similar campaigns have led brands including Budweiser and Target to cave to activists’ demands. But the parade has long had close ties to Broadway, one of the most L.G.B.T.Q. friendly industries in the city.

Transgender musician Kim Petras
performed at the parade in 2021
The group, which is called *One Million Moms, says it has drawn about 33,000 signatures in support of its boycott. But it appears to have overplayed its hand, said Scott Galloway, a professor of marketing at New York University Stern School of Business.

“I think this is the easiest ‘no’ in the history of Macy’s,” Mr. Galloway said. The protesters “have vastly overestimated their leverage here.”

One Million Moms is protesting the participation of two nonbinary actors: Alex Newell, the Tony Award-winning performer who stars as Lulu in “Shucked,” and Justin David Sullivan, who plays May in the musical “& Juliet.” Both are likely to take part in musical acts during the event, along with hundreds of other performers from Broadway and elsewhere.

Macy’s declined to comment on the petition, but reaffirmed its plans to proceed as normal.

“We look forward to celebrating this iconic Thanksgiving tradition again next week,” a spokeswoman said in a statement.


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*One Million Moms [a designated hate group] has continuously campaigned against any form of LGBTQ+ representation in entertainment or the media, previously condemning companies - from confectionary like Skittles for their packaging to the Barbie movie for including a transgender actor.


Wednesday, November 22, 2023

November 22, 1963 - Where Were You?

John F Kennedy
35th Presiden

60 Years Ago

Tenth grade:  I was between fifth and sixth period heading up the stairs to my last class of the day, history. At the top of the stairs someone shouted the president has been shot. I rushed to my class only a few doors down the hall from the stairs 

Few classes in my high school has televisions but my history class that day had one. It was on. I took my seat and the room filled with other teachers. More student also filtered in as we watched in silence as the events unfolded. Before the end of the sixth period it was announced the Kennedy was dead.   

The events of that day are still vivid. If you were of age then, I am sure that you also remember where you were as well. 

What I remember seeing on TV that day.

Yes, 60 years ago today. Below is a synopsis of the the event that started earlier that day November 22, and continued over the weekend. The days before Thanksgiving November 28, 1963, a shocked America burred a popular president.


Shortly after noon [CST] on November 22, 1963, President John F. Kennedy was assassinated as he rode in a motorcade through Dealey Plaza in downtown Dallas, Texas.

By the fall of 1963, President John F. Kennedy and his political advisers were preparing for the next presidential campaign. Although he had not formally announced his candidacy, it was clear that President Kennedy was going to run and he seemed confident about his chances for re-election.

At the end of September, the president traveled west, speaking in nine different states in less than a week. The trip was meant to put a spotlight on natural resources and conservation efforts. But JFK also used it to sound out themes—such as education, national security, and world peace—for his run in 1964.

On to Dallas

The presidential party left the hotel and went by motorcade to Carswell Air Force Base for the thirteen-minute flight to Dallas. Arriving at Love Field, President and Mrs. Kennedy disembarked and immediately walked toward a fence where a crowd of well-wishers had gathered, and they spent several minutes shaking hands.

The first lady received a bouquet of red roses, which she brought with her to the waiting limousine. Governor John Connally and his wife, Nellie, were already seated in the open convertible as the Kennedys entered and sat behind them. Since it was no longer raining, the plastic bubble top had been left off. Vice President and Mrs. Johnson occupied another car in the motorcade.

The procession left the airport and traveled along a ten-mile route that wound through downtown Dallas on the way to the Trade Mart where the President was scheduled to speak at a luncheon.

The Assassination

Crowds of excited people lined the streets and waved to the Kennedys. The car turned off Main Street at Dealey Plaza around 12:30 p.m. As it was passing the Texas School Book Depository, gunfire suddenly reverberated in the plaza.

Bullets struck the president's neck and head and he slumped over toward Mrs. Kennedy. The governor was shot in his back. 

The car sped off to Parkland Memorial Hospital just a few minutes away. But little could be done for the President. A Catholic priest was summoned to administer the last rites, and at 1:00 p.m. John F. Kennedy was pronounced dead. Though seriously wounded, Governor Connally would recover.

The president's body was brought to Love Field and placed on Air Force One. Before the plane took off, a grim-faced Lyndon B. Johnson stood in the tight, crowded compartment and took the oath of office, administered by US District Court Judge Sarah Hughes. The brief ceremony took place at 2:38 p.m.

Less than an hour earlier, police had arrested Lee Harvey Oswald, a recently hired employee at the Texas School Book Depository. He was being held for the assassination of President Kennedy and the fatal shooting, shortly afterward, of Patrolman J. D. Tippit on a Dallas street.

On Sunday morning, November 24, Oswald was scheduled to be transferred from police headquarters to the county jail. Viewers across America watching the live television coverage suddenly saw a man aim a pistol and fire at point blank range. The assailant was identified as Jack Ruby, a local nightclub owner. Oswald died two hours later at Parkland Hospital.

Read more here



Tuesday, November 21, 2023

Palm Beach Endless Summer – Grand Opening Reception

Featuring  Palm Beach Resort Wear

Where Winter Comes to Summer

Endless Summer Reception

This season the Richard and Pat Johnson Palm Beach County History Museum presented its first-ever Grand Exhibition. Endless Summer explored the impact Palm Beach made on resort fashion over the last 129 years, as it solidified itself as one of America’s premier luxury destinations, "where winter comes to summer". 

In this top fashion hub, brands such as Gucci, Chanel, Philip Hulitar, and St. John, as well as iconic fashion influencers such as Jacqueline Kennedy, Lilly Pulitzer, and others adopted fresh new looks, ingenuity, and a philanthropic spirit.

A grand exhibition deserves a grand opening! In celebration of Endless Summer: On the evening before its public opening, the Historical Society of Palm Beach County hosted an opening reception.


The Photo Wall

Wow, this was a fun evening with about 250 in attendance. The weather was perfect for an indoor / outdoor (tent) event in downtown West Palm Beach. It was held at the Palm Beach County History Museum housed in our restored early 1900's County Court House. 

All the beautiful people were in attendance with every  type of dress from cocktail to long evening gowns. Many of the dresses were over-the-top beautiful, showing up the historic gowns on display.  The Tease - Palm Beach Illustrated Magazine used this event to find models for upcoming covers, so many models were in attendance, auditioning.

I don't think I made the cut?  

Palm Beach has been a resort wear, "must-be-seen" venue of over a 100 years. Historically, many designer of the past staged elaborate fashion shows during the Palm Beach resort season at our hotels. Current designer (some living in Palm Beach) contributed their latest designs for this evening's event. Amazing how the draping of fabric has not change over the years; elegance always rules!

There was champaign, cocktails, live music, dancing, fashion displays, guided tours, and videos showing the influence that Palm Beach has garnered on resort and event wear.  Everyone was taking photos and this was a prominently female event. it was so much fun to be in attendance at such a beautiful display of feminine, historic and live beauty. 

Current Lilly Pulitzer fashions 




Monday, November 20, 2023

Transgender Day of Remembrance = 2023


GLAAD: Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) is an annual observance on November 20 that honors the memory of the transgender people whose lives were lost in acts of anti-transgender violence.

The Human Rights Campaign is both saddened and infuriated by the deaths of at least 26 transgender and gender non-conforming people whose lives have been tragically and inhumanely taken through violent means, including through gun and interpersonal violence, in 2023.

Since 2013, the Human Rights Campaign has tracked incidents of fatal transgender violence— the same year the Federal Bureau of Investigation began reporting on hate crimes motivated by anti-transgender bias— and providing action items that can help end the violence.

These victims, like all of us, are loving partners, parents, family members, friends and community members. They worked, went to school and attended houses of worship. They were real people — people who did not deserve to have their lives taken from them.

As HRC continues to work toward justice and equality for transgender and gender non-conforming people, we mourn those we have lost in 2023:

See the 2023 list of those to remember

Sunday, November 19, 2023

Political Week In Review 11-19-2023


Journalists Warn of Speaker Mike Johnson’s Plan to “Pervert the Constitution” and “Make America Into a White Christian Theocracy”

Several articles have recently been published warning of the dangers that far-right evangelicals, such as newly elected House Speaker Johnson, pose to the American Constitution and democracy. While dredging up some of Johnson’s extreme past behaviors and statements, many argue that it is all part of a larger plan to turn the nation into a “White Christian Theocracy.”


Saturday, November 18, 2023

Friday, November 17, 2023

The Threat of Cross-Dressing

In 1920's Britain - The Man Woman 

My Note: It is hard to imagine 100 years ago female cross-dressing was seen as a threat to society.  Today no one blinks at seeing a woman wearing, pants, and a man's tuxedo on a woman is seen as the ultimate fashion statement. 

Female cross-dressing 100 years ago did not destroy society.  Maybe take a chill pill; Today, M2F cross-dressing is not going to destroy "society as we know it" either.    

Society did not crumble, The article concludes with this last paragraph: 

Some women cross-dressed only for liberty and not to express their sexuality...
A History Lesson

Female cross-dressing in the 1920s was subject to varying reactions from the public, the law and in expert discourse. It was seen in the light of its nineteenth century incarnation as ‘adventurous’, and yet its regulation and condemnation throughout the decade illustrates its increasing threat as it came to be associated with sexuality. Female cross-dressing has to be considered here as in part different from the cross-dressing of men as that was how it was viewed by contemporaries; it was not implicit that all female cross-dressers were homosexual, as it was with male.

Still modern after all these years
Marlene Dietrich’s ageless charisma

Historians such as Laura Doan and Angus McLaren have argued that female cross-dressing was not a threat; Doan propounds the masculine woman’s ‘arrival’ as ‘applauded’[1] while McLaren suggests it did not undermine femininity[2]. The sources, however, reveal something else; the suppression of the lesbian novel The Well of Loneliness and the highly publicised prosecution of cross-dressing women on ambiguous grounds suggest the perception of female cross-dressing as a threat by the authorities, precisely in its sexuality and challenge to masculinity.

As the sexual passivity of women was still viewed in this period as largely the norm in the eyes of the public, female cross-dressing was less – although not unentirely – connected to homosexuality. Yet its threat came in another form. The position of women as socially, economically and politically subordinate to men persisted beyond the Great War, despite significant movements towards greater freedom in women’s public agency. The ‘masculinisation’ of women in the 1920s was part of the perceived breakdown of sex division and roles, manifested in the figure of the ‘mannish’ lesbian, and in fashion or the pursuit of liberty. Like male cross-dressing it was the expression of deviant sexuality and transgressed rigid boundaries of male and female, but it also represented the movement of women out of their ‘place’ and into the public arena. By dressing and acting as men, women afforded themselves more agency in employment, in public and in relationships than they held as recognised women. This is perhaps the greatest threat of female cross-dressing in the 1920s.

Representations of female cross-dressing existed in the 1920s across popular culture, in fiction, film and the press. While Laura Doan has argued that this proves that there was little threat from the female cross-dresser to the public, as stories were told with delight and accepted without question, it appears that the apparent frivolity with which these stories were treated is also peppered with criticism and subtle concern.

Diana Mayo in The Sheik – arguably the most popular desert romance novel of the early twentieth century – illustrates the threat of women dressing in masculine clothes for liberty. ‘For liberty’ can be defined here as in the attempt to gain or enact the privileges afforded to men by emulating or impersonating them. Diana rejects her brother’s support and chooses to travel into the desert unaccompanied; in this novel Diana’s clothing represents her independence and agency. By choosing to wear male clothes she affords herself the authority to fulfil her own wishes. The threat is in her daring to go beyond the bounds of her sex. While at once ‘function’, ‘provocative’ and ‘erotic’[3] as propounded by Angus McLaren, Diana’s cross-dressing was also transgressive and audacious. The contrast between Diana’s riding breeches and the flowing robes of the Sheik illustrates potential panic surrounding the identification of class and race when gendered clothing becomes confused; the effeminate nature of the Sheik in the novel and on the screen reflects, as perceived by contemporaries, the deviance of the foreign body. Diana’s cross-dressing disguises her inner femininity, which is revealed as the story progresses; the disastrous events of the novel suggest to the reader the negative consequences of ‘masquerading’ as something one is not. While the story is not a direct comment on cross-dressing, it does illuminate the depiction of the activity in highly popular literature and that this portrayal was not always positive or treated with nonchalance in mainstream culture. Both Diana and the Sheik’s true selves are revealed when Diana expresses her hidden femininity and becomes the woman she really is, and the Sheik sheds his robes for English masculine dress. This transformation is the ‘happy and right’ conclusion, reflecting a desire to right the wrongs of cross-dressing and gender confusion even in fiction.

1920's Flapper
Some women cross-dressed only for liberty and not to express their sexuality, but did not mean they were not a threat. Flappers were described, as in Quentin Crisp’s memoirs, as “boyish”[4]; new masculine styles of clothing became fashionable for women in the 1920s, with cropped hair and close tailoring. It can be argued that the source of public concern with the nature and activity of the flapper and her masculine style was in what her image represented: greater freedom for youth socially and sexually, and greater ability to engage in the public sphere, to be unchaperoned and to live freely. The association of the flapper and her clothes with the lifestyle and dress of young men meant that she was a symbol of modernity and the breakdown of traditional values, youth behaviour and propriety that existed before this decade.

Thursday, November 16, 2023

The Price is Right / Wrong - Ankle Boots

Match the Boots with the prices below 

The pricing of women's fashions is so arbitrary it makes me wonder if the prices are not set by some dart-board approach of what the market will bear.  “Charge what the market will bear.” Think about that answer for a second. What does it mean? Are we not the market? 

The underlying sentiment is positively spot-on. We [merchandisers] should set prices based on what our customers are willing to pay, not based on our costs. However, what is “the market” and how much “will it bear”? (from Indeed: What is “What the Market Will Bear”

We are rabid consumers of female fashion and I am always looking for something fashionable without overwhelming my perceived budget. Only several times have I succumbed to "designer pricing" for something of a special occasion dress, shoes, or purse. The "sale" and "half-price" tag is typically my starting place. Plus, I try to avoid emotional purchases, often returning to the store or shopping cart after I have waited an hour or day.

The booties above all seem similar and I do have the least expensive, Amazon Soda Ankle Booties. This style looks great with jeans, pants, and for the true fashion rebels, dresses. See my post on "Ankle Boots With Skinny Jeans

Which one is your favorite?  Have fun guessing the pricing.     

Amazon - Soda Glove - Ankle Boot w/Lug Sole Elastic Gore and Chunky Heel $24.62

Nine West -  Tobin Dress Booties (on sale 1/2 off 74.50)

Cole Haan - Women's Remi Platform Bootie $220.00

Neiman Marchus - Christian Louboutin Marchacroche Leather Red Sole Booties $1195

Tuesday, November 14, 2023

Feminine Differential - Being Your Real Self Takes Courage

 Five Button Jeans 

I feature "Feminine Differential" looks to encourage fearless dressing in your everyday choices.  Most of us know how to put together a killer club look.  That was our first Escape.   But what about a going to the movie, running by Starbucks, having a casual lunch at an outdoor cafe?  A successful outing among civilians is empowering and builds confidence.  .

Five button jeans are a nice differential.  Seldom seen in men's jeans and typically cut to enhance the figure; form fitting on top with slim legs/ankle.  A nice addition to you jean's collection and can be dressed up/down depending on your comfort level; anything from heels to sneakers. 

In my case I have always seen more subtle smiles than the other; especially from women.  And, women will ask where you got certain items as well.  Several times at work I have gotten that question on the pink daisy sneakers.

Today's suggestion: Try additions to your daily wardrobe that build your courage. Give something like this a try for your next casual / everyday escape. 

 Being your real self takes courage. Be proud - Escape! 


Purchasing note: The top is Macy's "CeCe Women's Short Sleeve Eyelet-Embroidered Knit Top", in bright rose. (markdown $33.00)   The white jeans are Amazon's: "Umgee Women's White High Rise Button Front Skinny Jeans with Knee Cutouts and Raw Hem with Side Slits", (30.09)

This model above from Styled Adventures was not wearing "5 Button Jeans". I add the look to emphasize how the style enhances jeans.  See the real image at Styled Adventures. What a beautiful look. 



Monday, November 13, 2023

Fashion Instinct


Fashion Instinct is inherent in most females and is my most enjoyable aspect of being a woman. Endless choices, moods, and visual challenges.  Vogue defines "Fashion Instinct" this way:

Fashion has been used as a tool by many people to express their identity, culture, lifestyle, profession, and more.

When we observe new things (such as a new outfit going viral on tik tok), the gray matter in our brain tends to react fondly and induce a reward system. The ventral tegmental area of our brains, a group of neurons in the middle area of our brains responsible for controlling the reward system, is activated when we are exposed to new stimuli, and it is in our evolutionary traits to analyze these new stimuli. When experiencing a rewarding experience such as partaking in a social trend, dopamine centers- which release feel-good hormones, in the ventral tegmental regions in our brain release dopamine in the nucleus accumbens.

I love Pinterest.  All of the women that live there wear makeup, dresses / skirts, and teeter in heels.  A few days back I saw the above model wearing a black stripe "A-Line" skirt.  My Fashion Instinct told me that this could be a good look so my search began.  I finally found it on the on-line store Chicwish. The listing "ADORABLE STRIPE PLEATED A-LINE MIDI SKIRT". ($39.90) Chicwish also has it in a shorter version, "CONTRAST STRIPES A-LINE SKIRT". ($34.90)

When not wearing jeans or leggings my skirt of choice is typically short (above the knee) and pencil. Something drew me to the "Feminine Differential" aspect of this outfit. The top on the right is Venus Ruched Detail Top (t-shirt $17.99) and the other top is from Amazon, One Shoulder Ruched Ruffle Short Sleeve Blouse ($22.99).  I wore this top to my high school reunion dinner.  

My fashion instinct tells me this will be a great outfit for "Escape" evening in Palm Beach. All dressed up with some place to go.  Stay tuned.