Sunday, June 16, 2024

Political Week In Review 6-16-2024


A vehicle is driven through a flooded street in Hallandale Beach, Florida, on Thursday.

Massive flooding in Florida is bringing new attention to the climate change denial of Gov. Ron DeSantis and his Republican allies in the state legislature.

In May, DeSantis took steps to deprioritize climate change resilience, a truly reckless and cruel decision considering the existential crisis climate change poses to the state.

Florida state Sen. Shevrin Jones criticized DeSantis’ climate approach and said the impact of flooding and other climate disasters is felt most by vulnerable communities. 

"Florida refuses to acknowledge 'climate change,' despite streets turning into rivers and @GovRonDeSantis vetoing crucial infrastructure projects in vulnerable communities,"

With much of Florida underwater now, it’s glaringly apparent he had no clue what he was talking about. 

Saturday, June 15, 2024

Friday, June 14, 2024

A Very Uncomfortable Truth - Reality

Jon Stewart Smashes the Myth of Corporate Morality in Pride, BLM, and Beyond | The Daily Show

It’s Pride Month! While some corporations like Target are hiding their pride for the sake of loud conservatives, others are doing everything they can to virtue signal to consumers. Jon Stewart rips off the mask of corporate “values” and examines how corporations will perform caring about issues like DEI, climate change, or patriotism, as long as it means bigger profits, and how quickly they backtrack on those moral stands when it no longer suits their bottom line. 

Thursday, June 13, 2024

I Love A Success Story - Nes

12-Year-Old Boy Finds Instagram Success by Posing as a Girl

 A 12-year-old boy from Thailand has managed to reach celebrity status and make enough money to build his family a new house by showing off his makeup and cross-dressing skills on Instagram.

Nes (@nes_tyyy), a boy from Thailand's Phang-Nga province, reportedly started playing with his mother's makeup at a very young age, but instead of discouraging him, his parents not only supported his hobby, ut also started giving him tips.

Today, the 12-year-old boy has over 280,000 fans on Instagram alone and is able to support his family by posting makeup tutorials and photos of himself cross-dressing as a girl on the popular photo sharing platform.

He recently made news headlines all over Asia after posting a photo of the new house he managed to build for his parents.

"Nes is only 12-years-old, but Nes is able to build a house for his parents," the young Instagram star wrote on his profile. "To all the generous people, thank you".

Although Nes isn't the only boy posting makeup tutorials online - it's actually becoming a strong trend all over Asia - what sets him apart is his ability to use his skills to make himself look like a girl. He often poses in lavish dresses, wearing impressive wigs, fake eyelashes and expertly done makeup that puts some professional makeup artists to shame.

According to SETN, Nes is sometimes ridiculed by his schoolmates for his hobby, but he doesn't care, as this is what makes him happy.

Nes' talents have not only earned him hundreds of thousands of loyal fans on Instagram, but also lucrative promotional deals and invitations to various events, both in Thailand and in foreign countries like China.

Wednesday, June 12, 2024

Federal judge strikes Florida ban on gender-affirming care for children

The judge also blocked requirements that would make accessing care harder for transgender adults.

06/11/2024 02:52 PM EDT

TALLAHASSEE, Fla. — A federal judge has ruled that Florida’s new restrictions on gender-affirming treatment for children are unconstitutional, and that Gov. Ron DeSantis and other Republican lawmakers who supported them were not acting in the interest of public health.

By refusing to allow children to access treatments, Tallahassee-based district court Judge Robert L. Hinkle wrote in a ruling handed down Tuesday that DeSantis and Republicans who voted for the measure responded in a way that was similar to racism and misogyny.

“Enforcing this moral view is not, however, a legitimate state interest that can sustain this statute,” Hinkle — an appointee of President Bill Clinton — wrote, partly borrowing from arguments that lawyers for the plaintiffs gave during trial in December.

The ruling is a major win for a coalition of human rights groups that filed the federal lawsuit arguing the ban violated equal protection rights. “Today’s ruling affirms the principle that individuals should be able to make informed decisions about their own personal medical treatments without discrimination by the State,” Thomas Redburn, the lawyer representing the plaintiffs, said in a statement.

In response to Hinkle’s ruling, Jeremy Redfern, a spokesperson for DeSantis, said the court was wrong to override the wishes of the people, which were conveyed through their elected representatives, and the state of Florida will appeal.

“We disagree with the Court’s erroneous rulings on the law, on the facts, and on the science,” Redfern wrote in a text. “As we’ve seen here in Florida, the United Kingdom, and across Europe, there is no quality evidence to support the chemical and physical mutilation of children. These procedures do permanent, life-altering damage to children, and history will look back on this fad in horror.”

Hinkle’s ruling also struck down restrictions for adults that were included in FL SB254 (23R), which DeSantis signed into law just over a year ago. They include requiring that only doctors, as opposed to other medical professionals, prescribe medicine for gender-affirming treatment and requiring annual x-rays without regard for circumstance.

The law was the result of a presentation that Florida Surgeon General Joseph A. Ladapo gave to the state boards of Medicine and Osteopathic medicine in 2022 that compelled the two boards to approve similar restrictions by making new rules. DeSantis then asked the Legislature to codify the board rules, saying that gender-affirming care includes castrating and sterilizing children, and mastectomies for girls. Hinkle noted in the ruling that surgeries on minors are extremely rare.

In the ruling, Hinkle wrote DeSantis’ comments about castration were false, and they proved that the governor’s intent of the measure was not to protect the public.

“Whether based on morals, religion, unmoored hatred, or anything else, prohibiting or impeding a person from conforming to the person’s gender identity rather than to the person’s natal sex is not a legitimate state interest,” Hinkle wrote.

The plaintiffs in the case were four transgender adults and seven parents who appeared on behalf of transgender children, and it was the second major lawsuit filed against efforts by Florida to block transgender care. Hinkle in June of last year issued a separate ruling striking down rules made by the state Agency for Health Care Administration that banned Medicaid from covering gender-affirming care.

Hinkle in June 2023 had also issued a preliminary injunction in the case he decided Tuesday that blocked part of the ban on transgender treatments for children for the plaintiffs. The state appealed that ruling and that decision is pending, although Hinkle’s more expansive ruling could make that appeal moot.

Tuesday, June 11, 2024

Dressing Tips To Slim Heavy Calves and Ankles


Personal Note:  My calves and legs are not my best feminine asset.  I wear pants whenever I am not wearing heels and the only boots that I can wear are ankle boots. I was ahead of a woman on stairs a few years ago and she stated "You must be a dancer".  I knew immediately what she was referencing.  Genetics rule in the development of my calves/legs and not long hours on the dance floor or gym.   

This is an expanded post from 2016.  It is such as issued for me thought a revisit would be helpful as I have expanded the suggestions.   

I appreciate that this is not just my unique issue and welcome the suggestions that Debora has collected for those of us that welcome help.  

As Deborah states: "You may not be able to change the muscular legs or heavy ankles mother nature gave you, but you can make them a lot less noticeable. Here are 10 Dressing Tips to magically slim, heavy calves and thick ankles."

1. Avoid Flat Shoes

You may love flats, but they don’t love you. Flat shoes emphasize big calves and ankles and make you look squat. You’re better off with a medium-height heel, which tricks the eye into making your legs look longer and leaner.

Also, the wider your legs, the sturdier your heel should be. A  thick, chunky heel balances out heavy legs. A sturdy wedge or platform shoe works well. Avoid skinny stilettos, spike, or tiny kitten heels, which create too much contrast and exaggerate large calves.

If there’s no way you can wear heels ( even low ones), then a d’Orsay flat or peep-toe flat is a good option. The open part of the shoe exposes more foot elongating your legs and emphasizes heavy ankles and legs.

2.  Stay Away from  Ankle Straps

Any strap around your ankles or ties lacing up your calves (i.e., tie-up espadrilles) draws attention to these trouble spots making legs and ankles look extra large. The best shoes are open at the ankles.  A slingback shoe that wraps at the back of the ankle instead of in front is fine too.

3.  Pointy Toe is Perfect

Round toe shoes make legs look shorter and heavier, while pointy toe ones visually slim and elongate.

Ricky Lake

4.  Low Vamp Helps

The lower the vamp, the longer and slimmer your leg will appear.

5.  Nude Shoes Slim

When you match the color of your skin to your shoes, your legs gain a few inches.

6. Wear Dark Tights

Dark opaque tights worn with matching dark shoes make your legs look slender. Add a black skirt or dress into the mix, and your legs will appear to go on for miles.  Please stay away from contrasting or patterned tights as they will become an unflattering focal point.

7.  Full Skirts Slim

Heavy legs and ankles may make you feel like you can’t wear a skirt, but it’s simply not the case.  The general rule is the wide the hemline, the slimmer your legs look. Narrow pencil skirts that taper inward or any skirt that clings will emphasize the size of your lower legs. Instead, opt for swingy full or A-line cut skirts. These are the perfect dresses for big legs because they make your calves and ankles seem narrower by contrast.

Helen Mirren

As for the best skirt length? It’s just around the knees, either just above or slightly below, wherever you’d say is the narrowest part of your leg. It’s best if the hem is plain with no fancy stitching or embellishment.

Some women prefer a tea-length skirt to cover muscular calves, and this can sometimes work so long as 1) the skirt doesn’t stop right before or right at midcalf (emphasizing the problem spot) 2. you wear your tea-length skirt with a modern shoe, as this length can sometimes look frumpy.

Other skirts or dresses for thick legs are maxis that cover the problem area altogether. A maxi dress that ends at the ankle and has a high side slit adds some allure.

8. Direct Attention Up Top

Another good old dressing trick is: If you don’t want people looking at your legs, distract them. Wear dark colors below your waist and highlight your top half by wearing lighter colors near your face. Restrict prints to your upper body, and use fun accessories like scarves and jewelry to draw the eye up and away from thick calves and ankles.

9. Step into Long Pants

Hillary Clinton has made pantsuits her trademark, and it’s no wonder. Pants are perfect for hiding her famous “cankles” ( thick calves fused at thick ankles).  Your best bet is solid-colored pants in a dark color, but make sure they’re not too skinny. Tight pants will emphasize your calves. Bootcut or wide legs pants help hide the problem. And no cropped pants and capris. They draw the eye to the fullest part of your calves and ankles and make your legs look stumpy.

10. Get a Pair of Tall Boots

For large calves –  a tall dress boot or a riding boot is excellent. Knee-high boots with some detail at the top like stitching, a stud, or a tassel will draw the eye up and away from thick ankles.

Yes, you can wear booties, a little higher than the ankle is better and with matching, stockings or pants in the same color as your booties is best.

Don’t let your heavy calves or ankles drag you down! Many of the world’s top athletes, ballerinas, and celebrities have thick legs, but that doesn’t stop them from looking fabulous, so don’t let it stop you either.

Monday, June 10, 2024

Feminine Differential - Capris (I Hate Them)

 Why I Hate Capris (and What to Wear Instead)

How terrible
Of all the articles I’ve ever written, this one about my dislike of Capris, written on a whim a few years ago, is my most popular. 

Today, it’s been read by over one million women. 

And it gets people fired up, which was never my intention, but I guess that’s just the nature of the world. 

If you’ve been part of our community for some time now, you know it’s not my style to tell you what to wear. Instead, I like to give suggestions and advice that help you find what works best for you. 

But the Capri pant is the exception. 

It is the most unflattering, frumpy-dumpy, ugliest piece of clothing designed for women in modern history. 

Here’s the deal.

Retail doesn’t care about women. So no one is sitting in an office, deciding on the next season’s inventory assortment, asking themselves:

  • Is this the best option for our customers? 
  • Is it flattering? 
  • Will it work with what they already have? 
  • Will she feel confident in it?”
  • They are not trying to advocate for us. 
  • But I am. 

The basis of my entire business is to sort through the mess you see in stores and online and highlight the best options each season while providing inspiration and practical tips.

So, today, I will show you why capris are so unflattering and offer better alternatives.

We Deserve Better Than Capris

Why I Hate Capris

Today, to help prove my point, I purchased two pairs of capris. One in denim and one in khaki, both sold as “capris” for about $40 each from a mainstream retailer. 

There are a lot of angry comments about how these are not capris. Yes, they are. They have the word “Capri” on the tag. 

For context, I am 5’10, and I wear a solid size 8. I paired them with a simple white tee, a long necklace, and wedge sandals to make them look as okay as possible. 

I swear to you that these “fit” me. They are not too tight.

They both look so terrible on me; I can’t believe I’m putting these up for all the internet to see.

Read more at "The Well Dressed Life"

Sunday, June 9, 2024

Political Week In Review 6-9-2024

Donald Trump Is Proudly Bought and Paid For By Big Oil and Gas

NEW: Donald Trump asked Big Oil and Gas CEOs to give $1 billion to his campaign and vowed to immediately roll back environmental regulations if reelected.
Washington Post: “What Trump promised oil CEOs as he asked them to steer $1 billion to his campaign”

Trump's words:

“You all are wealthy enough, that you should raise $1 billion to return me to the White House. 

At the dinner, he vowed to immediately reverse dozens of President Biden’s environmental rules and policies and stop new ones from being enacted, according to people with knowledge of the meeting.

Saturday, June 8, 2024

Thursday, June 6, 2024

I Love A Success Story - Katy Montgomerie

I'm a trans woman and I used to be TRANSPHOBIC!

By:  Katy Montgomerie

Katy Montgomerie

Wednesday, June 5, 2024

Feminine Differential - Puff-Sleeves


Every now and again an item will scream out that "this will look good".  Styling an outfit is almost as much fun as wearing it.  With a white skirt of pants / jeans, I believe this will look great. I just ordered it on Macy's "One-Day" almost every day sale.  I have more than a few items this will go with and a great look for both spring and summer. Plus my fav - Polka-Dots. 

Macys - LAUREN RALPH LAUREN - Women's Puff-Sleeve Polka-Dot Tee $55.65

Tuesday, June 4, 2024

Lip Fillers 2.0

Lisa At Dr. Pinsky's Office
I have Lips again!
In July 2021, I had lip fillers at Dr. Pinsky's Cosmetic Surgery Center Palm Beach Gardens. Most all fillers are not a permeant enhancement. The quoted longevity for the lip fillers, 12 to 18 months. 

This past week, almost three years later, I had a re-do / touch up.  The amazing part of the first procedure, there was still some residual good results left. Lucky me. See my original (no-lips) post. 

Because I attended a paid holiday party in December, I had a credit with Dr. Pinsky. So to make sure it did not expire I had my lips procedure.  

Many times it is the small detail that make us feel whole and better about our overall presentation.  

With numbing cream placed on the lips, it is an almost painless procedure taking less than 30 minute with and after precautions only last 24 hours. I highly recommend you find a qualified provider and take advantage of this feminine differential.  

Here are my lips before the most recent procedure and I will post better photos once the swelling subsides. I have a follow-up in two weeks.  At that point I will have a more natural desired look. From what I can see now, I am very satisficed with this marked improvement. The photos above with Lisa is after as I was leaving the office.


Several hours after with no makeup.
There was minimal bruising and no pain after.  

Monday, June 3, 2024

A Model In A Bra

Has got people riled and we don’t understand why

Gregory Robinson
Published Feb 8, 2024

Mikey, who uses they/them pronouns,
 wears a two-piece bikini
 for the Bonds campaign
Horrific statements about non-binary people and the LGBTQ+ community are swirling once again after underwear brand Bonds unveiled its new campaign.

The Australian retailer launched a well-intentioned limited-edition Pride campaign, featuring gender-free underwear modelled by people who identify as non-binary and use they/them pronouns.

Pictures of a bearded model named Mikey has sparked outrage because they’re sporting a two-piece bikini on the Bonds website — and in typical form, trolls aren’t happy.

It didn’t take long before calls to boycott the brand spread on social media, all because of its inclusive campaign. 

Bonds site has been flooded with negative and transphobic comments from anonymous people.

In a one-star review, with the title ‘insulting towards women’, the writer complained: ‘A once sporty, good quality, underwear brand is going about gender inclusiveness in all the wrong way. By insulting women you are not being inclusive. Rather you are being disrespectful towards women. Good idea, wrong execution. Bonds owes women an apology’. 

Another hateful comment, titled ‘men don’t have breasts’, reads: ‘What happened to Bonds? Completely insane that they think men wearing these bikini tops would be a selling point.’

A third angry person declared: ‘And that’s the end of that! Never buying Bonds again.’

But as customers vow to ditch the brand, chances are they won’t be missed if they follow through with their threats. We’ve heard it all before, customers pledging to ditch brands after they embrace inclusivity. 

Last year Nike came under fire for using trans model Dylan Mulvaney to showcase a sports bra.

The Pride campaign
includes non-binary models
(Picture: bonds.com.au)

Adidas faced similar backlash in 2023 after unveiling a Pride swimsuit, which was designed by queer South African designer Rich Mnisi in collaboration with non-profit Athlete Ally, which works to end homophobia and transphobia in sports.

Both sports brands were accused of being ‘woke’ and ‘erasing women’ with their choice of models, but it seems to be business as usual despite calls for boycotts from a loud but seemingly small community.

Another Australian retailer, lingerie label Honey Birdette, was forced to defend its decision to feature a non-binary model in its campaign following anti-LGBTQ+ backlash. 

The campaign, which featured French model Jake DuPree wearing a three-piece lingerie outfit, attracted a lot of attention on Instagram last year. It was met with similar boycott threats and the company issued a statement, which said: ‘We will continue to use our voice to empower and support the LGBTQ+ community, women and anyone who wants to feel fabulous in our lingerie.

‘While thoughtful and constructive discussions are important to push culture forward, hate speech and bullying will not be tolerated.’

Sunday, June 2, 2024

Political Week In Review 6-2-2024

Sorry Donald


By Zippia Team - Apr. 19, 2022

No, Dick's Sporting Goods does not hire felons. From our research, we have found little to no evidence of Dicks Sporting Goods hiring felons. This may be, in part, because it sells firearms.  Criminal background checks are done for leads, CSSs, cashiers, and lodge associates when hired or promoted to one of these positions. Check with your state and local laws to see how far back the background check goes.

Saturday, June 1, 2024