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Tuesday, July 7, 2020

I Love A Success Story - Dylan Peck

Androgynous model a rising star of gender-fluid fashion, once bullied at school for feminine looks.


From: ABC Gippsland (Australia)
By Rachael Lucas - 
17 Apr 2019

Mode Dylan Peck





There was a time when age, weight, height, body type, disability, race or sexuality were characteristics that could make or break someone's chances of becoming a model.


Nowadays the rules have changed, and what may once have sunk a potential career could be the very thing that sends it soaring.

The diversity movement has both influenced and redefined the worldwide beauty and fashion industry over the past decade — and for Latrobe Valley-based model, Dylan Peck, the shift was perfect.

"I've always had an eye for models and fashion, but it all really came about when the androgyny, gender-fluid thing started to come about some time ago," Mr Peck said:

"At school and growing up I unfortunately got bullied a lot for looking very feminine and naturally like a girl, and then when there was a market for it I thought, 'Well, why not put my looks and natural beauty to use?'
'He's got the face'

Since he started modelling 10 years ago, Mr Peck's beguiling feminine features and chameleon characteristics have graced the pages of fashion magazines including Vogue and Harper's Bazaar.

He has appeared in more than 30 publications — including on three covers — and inspired fashion designers and photographers from Australia and abroad.

"He's got the face and capacity to not be recognized in different photos," photographer Reza Zamani said.

...

He has noticed a 'freeing up' of the traditional modelling standards as the industry becomes more inclusive.

"People are just a lot more carefree and really don't care about what other people are thinking, especially in the LGBTQI community," Mr Peck said.

"People are really starting to find true beauty within themselves, becoming free-spirited in what they're wearing, and showcasing their uniqueness and just using it to their advantage."





Monday, July 6, 2020

Feminine Differential - Pants, What is a gal to do?



There are three items in this layout that I found to be incredibly feminine. We have entered a period where females can exercise femininity, and still wear the quintessential pants.  Even here in Florida where shorts and skirts are climatology more practical, paints reign.  What is a gal to do?

This season's skinny pants and a great starting place.  Add a side zip flat front, pockets be gone) plus a feminine print and you are suitably dressed to fit-in. Of course the right top and either heels / girly flats; your look is set.  

The above pants are Talbots' "TALBOTS CHATHAM ANKLE PANTS - GARDEN DOT" and the fit is amazing; on sale for $29.00 down from $89.00. They make a "no-butt" or minimum butt shapely. The  Talbots' "SABRINA SHELL" in dark blue makes you look like you just stepped off the "Mad Men" set; very retro and flattering.   

To completely seal the feminine deal, throw in the Talbot's polka dot flats shown (sorry sold out) or Amazon's "Polka Dot Round Toe Ballets Slip-on Flat Heel Walking Shoes with Bowknot".  


Saturday, July 4, 2020

Happy 4th



Declare your independence from fear
and "ESCAPE"!  Fireworks optional.  



Friday, July 3, 2020

Catch Of The Day - White Jeans & Venus Sweater


I love white jeans.  There is something cool and "can wear any time any where" about classic white jeans. I am always looking for the perfect top and this is where the fun comes in because almost anything will go with the jeans.  

The above Venus Sweater is on sale this week and they are offering free shipping.  I love the drape shoulder look and it is sexy.  There is Venus's description:


The slouchy cut of this Button Detail Sweater leaves one shoulder exposed to add an alluring edge to your coffee date ensemble! The top button can come undone for a more relaxed vibe while the loose fit and roomy sleeves are perfect for layering over tank tops.


Flats, sneakers, sandals, or heel are a perfect addition to a white jeans outfit; so versatile.


Susan at "Susan after 60" last week had a wonderful post on the style value of white jeans.  We both agree that "White jeans are a staple in our wardrobe". A good read.   




Thursday, July 2, 2020

Changing the World's Perception

Akkai Padmashali asked Barack Obama a question on LGBTQ rights at the town-hall in India.


How do we change the world’s perception of what/who we are?  President Obama at a town hall meeting in New Delhi, India was asked about LGBTQ rights in India by a transgender activist, Akkai Padmashali. 

In India it is criminal to be transgender, lesbian, gay, bisexual. The question was raised “How do I then raise my voice?” 

President Obama response:


It begins with what you just did, which is to find your voice, and articulate your views, your experiences and tell your story. And that's true of any group that is marginalized, stigmatized.

 
Finding that voice and being able to tell a story so that the perceptions that somehow you are different are changed... people start recognizing their own experiences in you, they see your humanity. Once that voice is there, hopefully, others join you.




Wednesday, July 1, 2020

Feminine Differential - Gender Socialization

Rosie the Riveter
 The entrance of women into the workforce






Gender Socialization – The process of educating and instructing males and females as to the norms, behaviors, values, and beliefs of group membership as men or women, usually during childhood development.









Source : Gender Stratification and Inequality


Sociologists and other social scientists generally attribute many of the behavioral differences between genders to socialization. Socialization is the process of transferring norms, values, beliefs, and behaviors to group members. The most intense period of socialization is during childhood when adults who are members of a particular cultural group instruct young children on how to behave in order to comply with social norms. Gender is included in this process; individuals are taught how to socially behave in accordance with their assigned gender, which is assigned at birth based on their reproductive organs (for instance, babies that have a penis are assigned the gender of “boy,” while babies with a vulva are assigned the gender of “girl”). Gender socialization is thus the process of educating and instructing children as to the norms, behaviors, values, and beliefs of membership in their assigned group.

Preparations for gender socialization begin even before the birth of the child. One of the first questions people ask of expectant parents is the sex of the child. This is the beginning of a social categorization process that continues throughout life. Preparations for the birth often take the infant’s sex into consideration (e.g., painting the room blue if the child is a boy, pink for a girl). Today it is largely believed that most differences in gender expression are attributed to differences in socialization, rather than genetic and biological factors.

Gender stereotypes can be a result of gender socialization. Girls and boys are expected to act in certain ways, and these ways are socialized from birth by many parents (and society). For example, girls are expected to be clean and quiet, while boys are messy and loud. As children get older, gender stereotypes become more apparent in styles of dress and choice of leisure activities. Boys and girls who do not conform to gender stereotypes are usually ostracized by same-age peers for being different. This can lead to negative effects, such as lower self-esteem.

In Western contexts, gender socialization is frequently viewed as a binary, or a concept that is exclusively comprised of two parts. In other words, individuals are socialized into conceiving of their gender as either masculine (male) or feminine (female). However, some individuals do not fall into the gender binary. For example, individuals that identify as transgender have a gender identity that does not match their assigned sex. For example, they may have been assigned male at birth because they have a penis, and a gender identity that is feminine. Individuals that identify as gender queer have a gender identity that challenges classifications of masculine and feminine, and may identify as somewhere other than male and female, in between male and female, a combination of male and female, or a third (or forth, or fifth, etc.) gender altogether. These identities demonstrate the fluidity of gender, which is so frequently thought to be biological and immutable. Gender fluidity also shows how gender norms are learned and either accepted or rejected by the socialized individual.

Tuesday, June 30, 2020

Roberta Cowell - Trans Trailblazer, Pilot and Auto Racer


Roberta Cowell in Paris in 1954


Cowell is the first woman known to undergo sex reassignment surgery in Britain. But after a splash in the 1950s, she withdrew from public life and died in obscurity.


By Alan Cowell
June 5, 2020

Overlooked is a series of obituaries about remarkable people whose deaths, beginning in 1851, went unreported in The Times. This month we’re adding the stories of important L.G.B.T. figures.

At the height of Roberta Cowell’s celebrity status, in 1954, her face adorned the cover of Britain’s popular Picture Post magazine. When her story appeared in a newspaper, “I received 400 proposals. Some of them of marriage,” she said in an interview for The Sunday Times of London in 1972. “I could have had titles, money, the lot.”

She achieved this fame when she became the first person in her country known to have her gender reassigned from male to female. Her transition — and all of the yearnings and hopes that came with it — involved hormone treatments and surgeries despite what some regarded in strait-laced 1950s Britain as flouting contemporary laws.

“Since May 18th, 1951, I have been Roberta Cowell, female,” she pronounced in her autobiography. “I have become woman physically, psychologically, glandularly and legally.”

Yet by the time Cowell died in 2011 at 93, her voyage across the lines of gender and social norms had faded into obscurity.


Roberta Cowell March 1954
Americans were perhaps more familiar with Christine Jorgensen, a former U.S. Army clerk who transitioned in Denmark just months after Cowell. When Jorgensen died of cancer in 1989 at 62, the event was recorded in an obituary in The New York Times.

Cowell’s death, by contrast, went all but unremarked upon, even in Britain. Her body was found on Oct. 11, 2011, in her small apartment in southwest London by the building superintendent.  A handful of friends attended her funeral, but, apparently at her request, there was no fanfare for the woman who had helped pioneer gender reassignment at a time when it was virtually taboo.

Only in 2013 — two years after her death — was her passing reported, by the British newspaper The Independent on Sunday.

“So complete was her withdrawal from public life that even her own children did not know she had died,” the article said.

The disclosure of her death inspired a brief resurgence of media interest in her story, focusing partly on what was broadly depicted as the severing of all ties with her two daughters and on the idiosyncratic circumstances of her transition.

After World War II, she developed an interest in the idea of a combination of hormone therapy and surgery to more closely align her body with her gender identity. This had been reinforced by a book called “Self: A Study in Ethics and Endocrinology” (1946) by Michael Dillon, a medical student whom she sought out in 1950.

Cowell wrote in her autobiography “Roberta Cowell’s Story,” that during their meeting, over lunch, Dillon revealed that he had himself changed his gender identity through doses of testosterone and gender-affirming surgery.

Together they agreed that he would help her transition by performing a procedure that was prohibited under so-called “mayhem” laws, forbidding the intentional “disfiguring” of men who would otherwise qualify to serve in the military. If discovered, Dillon would almost certainly have been prevented from completing his studies to become a physician. The operation, thus, was conducted in great secrecy, and its success enabled Cowell to seek medical affidavits to have her birth gender formally re-registered as female.

Soon afterward, Cowell became a patient of Harold Gillies, a pioneer of plastic surgery who had performed gender-affirming surgery on Dillon, according to the book “The First Man-Made Man: The Story of Two Sex Changes, One Love Affair, and a Twentieth-Century Medical Revolution” (2006).

“If it gives real happiness,” Gillies wrote of his procedures, “that is the most that any surgeon or medicine can give.”

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Read the complete article here:  Overlooked No More: Roberta Cowell, Trans Trailblazer, Pilot and Auto Racer


Cowell participating in the women’s race car competition
Sussex, England, age 39.

Monday, June 29, 2020

Fashion Play - Floral Skirt


This is a super fun skirt to play with. First off, I love pencil skirts. It was in the last spring Talbots' collection and does go with much.  In their online catalog it was called:  "Rose Pencil Skirt - Twilight  Blue/Black/White". I did not pair it with anything black however it would be at home there as well as with the light blues, dark blue, and whites shown.  When shopping anytime you can find a versatile piece like this, it is an investment item. Perfect for the spring and summer season.

Even though it it is still full price at the time, you do not have to look to hard to find a Talbots' promotion  Most week they have a sale and many times an e-mail offer every few days. Well worth watching. Talbots' "Misses" sizes to 18, "Plus" to size 24, "Petite" to 16 and "Plus Petite" to 22. Petite size 10 or 12 fits me perfect.  








Friday, June 26, 2020

Disclosure - Laverne Cox Documentary (Netflix)






From executive producer Laverne Cox and director Sam Feder comes Disclosure, a documentary that chronicles over 100 years of trans representation on screen, from silent film to Dog Day Afternoon, The 40-Year-Old Virgin to Pose.

In this documentary, leading trans creatives and thinkers share heartfelt perspectives and analysis about Hollywood's impact on the trans community.

Review from the site Decider:


Netflix’s release of Disclosure couldn’t have been more timely. The documentary — subtitled Trans Lives on Screen — is a Pride Month offering that details the history of transgender representation in film and TV, and arrives just as news headlines report a variety of related developments: The U.S. Supreme Court ruling that workplace discrimination against LGBTQ employees is illegal. The Trump administration’s axing of healthcare protections against trans patients. The murder of two black trans women, part of an ongoing scourge of violence against trans people. The emergence of the Black Trans Lives Matter movement. And an ill-informed anti-trans screed by Harry Potter author J.K. Rowling stirred righteously heated retorts. Disclosure‘s variety of trans voices seems to be exactly what the current conversation needs. 


I have not seen it yet, however,  I do hope to over the weekend.  
Have you seen it? Please comment. 

Thursday, June 25, 2020

Feminine Differential - Ballet Flats Revisit

MINNIE CAP-TOE TRAVEL BALLET FLAT, EMBOSSED LEATHER

Tory Burch ballet flats are wonderfully comfortable. An all day shoe that is feminine, stylish and work for most any occasion. Tory Burch shoes and accessories are absurdly priced and attempt to position themselves into the ultra-designer category, e.g., Gucci and Louis Vuitton. Maybe - Maybe not. What shocks me is seeing young teens in packs wearing $248 Tory flip-flop sandals. How the parents afford these I do not know.  Sorry - enough for the rant.

The above Tory MINNIE CAP-TOE BALLET FLAT had been on sale for about a month.  I had watched and even at the first markdown, I could not justify the purchase. Last week there was an additional 25% off (Code "EXTRA"); although still over priced, they were now justifiable. Note: My experience in purchasing Tory shoes - they run about one-half size small. 


The UK Blog Gabor Shoes posted "How to Wear Ballet Flats: Tips & Styling" - Some great suggestions for this feminine and stylist must have.  

Once the weather starts to warm up and the winter layers gradually start to drop off it’s a clear sign that spring is around the corner. With spring comes lighter footwear and the return of everybody’s favorite flat shoe: the ballet pump.

Delicate, sophisticated and elegant, ballet pumps are the perfect investment for the milder months. But it’s common for those who haven’t yet discovered the joy of these highly versatile flats for there to be a degree of uncertainty on how best to style them. In this post we’ll talk you through how to wear ballet flats to get the most out of the style, including what to wear with ballet flats, what not to wear with ballet flats and how to style them for different occasions.

Ballet Flats Styling Tips

There are, thankfully, not too many ways you can go wrong with this most versatile of shoe styles. Here are our top tips on what to wear with ballet flats and how to wear ballet flats to make them look their best:


  •     Avoid Tights & Socks – Wearing tights, stockings or socks with ballet pumps is a risky business as it creates the possibility for those unsightly pleats and wrinkles around the ankles. If you’re going to brave it, keep a close eye on this area throughout the day, but we think barefoot is always best.
  •     Be Careful With Strap Styles – Ballet pumps with thick ankle straps can visually take a lot of length off your legs. If you have fairly short legs, we would recommend avoiding ballet pumps with straps or lace-up around the ankle and lower leg to keep the legs looking as long as possible.
  •     Go Nude – OK, so not literally of course. Nude-coloured ballet flats create a fantastic leg-lengthening effect when worn with bare legs, so invest in a pair of simple nude flats to take advantage of this simple visual illusion.
  •     Show Some Skin – Ballet flats look most flattering when the lower leg or ankles are showing. Try to keep dresses and skirts above the knee or wear with cropped trousers that show your ankles for a super on-trend look. If you do want to pair with below-the-knee dresses and skirts, we recommend you go for loose, flowing skirt styles to set the look off best.
  •     Accessorize it Big – The simplicity of your ballet flats could always benefit from a touch of balancing-out. To achieve this, complete your outfit with several statement accessories such as chunky necklaces, a large clutch or a bold belt.


 Inspired? Now you know the secrets of how to wear ballet flats, it’s time to do some shopping! Explore our latest collection of ballet pumps here at Gabor (UK pricing) and pick the perfect style for your new outfit creations.


Wednesday, June 24, 2020

I Love A Success Story - Rebekah Bruesehoff (13 Years Old)

This 13-Year-Old Girl Is Out To ‘Change The World’






BY: Dawn Ennis
Contributor Diversity & Inclusion

Rebekah Bruesehoff
Think back to when you were in school. Ten, 11 years old, and you’re called to speak before the class, about who you are.

Rebekah Bruesehoff did that before a crowd of 200 strangers when she was 10. The following year, she traveled to Houston and did it again, in front of 31-thousand people, at the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America Youth Gathering. Her father is a Lutheran minister.

“I’ve learned that by being who God has called me to be, and by telling my story, hearts and minds are changed,” declared the 11-year-old girl in hot pink pigtails. “I can change the world!”

And what she wants to change about the world most of all is how it sees girls like her. Clearly, Rebekah is not just any ordinary girl, and yet that is exactly the message she conveys at every opportunity.

“Transgender kids are just like other kids,” she told the gathering. Rebekah is transgender.

Now 13, Rebekah already has quite the resume. She’s a straight A student, plays clarinet, loves to dance ballet and is also on the field hockey team. Given the lockdown because of the coronavirus pandemic, she’s spending every day at home with her parents and two younger brothers in Sussex County, N.J. “It’s pretty bizarre,” she said, “not getting to go anywhere.”

But the lockdown has not diminished her activism. In April she led a daily online storytime session on Instagram and Facebook Live, reading LGBTQ+ books to younger school children, alongside her mom, writer and speaker Jamie Bruesehoff.

Late last year, Marvel Comics chose her as the inspiration for a new transgender superhero, Mighty Rebekah, as part of its Marvel’s Hero Project. The idea is to highlight everyday kids who are doing something extraordinary. Not only did the artists create a comic book that focused on her bravery as an activist, Rebekah and her family were featured in a Disney+ documentary.

And just this week, another crowning achievement: Rebekah was named a GenderCool Champion, in an announcement on the group’s Facebook page and on Twitter.

Read more...

Thanks Caitlin for sharing this article.  






Tuesday, June 23, 2020

10 Ways To Part Your Hair




I will wager that many of you may not have change their hair part since you gave up the "Flat Top".  Until the point of me growing my hair that was my plight.  Now that many of you are hair cut deprived, why no experiment/play with a new look. This works for your wigs too.

The Zoe Report described it this way:


 If you’ve been imagining a big, confidence-boosting change for your hair, but aren’t quite ready for the pixie, never fear. The quickest (and easiest) way to change up your look for spring is actually also the go-to trick  -  Change your part.

“Your part plays a big role in the vibe of your overall look,” says Christine Symonds, a Los Angeles-based celebrity stylist who works with high-wattage stars such as Chelsea Handler and Kaley Cuoco. “Part changes are a quick fix to make you look and feel different,” agrees Gracie Odoms, a Los Angeles-based hairstylist at the Andy Lecompte Salon.
Watch the video above and have fun.  

Monday, June 22, 2020

Unapologetically Transgender


There are just a few that do not know I am transgender. The family discusses the BLOG among themselves and occasionally mention a post. They always preference it by whispering “You know we read it….”  My physical appearance with long white hair, if not announcing, surely provides questions and whispers. Complete strangers smile like we are sharing a secret that only the two of us are privy. I smile back.  

As another blogger stated: "I dare to do something that many do not. I live my life the way I like and I am happy! I am not ashamed to be transgender. Frankly, I am incredibly proud that I can do something so special that other men can not nor dare to do. I do not hide anymore".  My sentiments exactly.

I am also happy that I can write this blog. I am happy that that there are readers. I hope in some small way I may have helped one person to live an unashamed full life; a well engineered escape.   


Like most of us, getting to this point has not been easy.  


Early in my life due to family sickness/death/divorces I learned to bury my emotion/feeling. Things I did not understand were compartmentalize. How could I, as a boy, like a feminine aspect of life?  did I want to be a girl? You bet. I quickly found that life was infused with imponderables, e.g., why people get sick and die and religion says one thing and people do the opposite? 

I made an enlightened discovery about age 14 that I was not alone in my transgender feelings. This helped, although still not understanding the why. I thought that maybe becoming a girl would be a solution and prayed intensely for that to happen. Yes, "a miracle" and I would wake up changed. Doesn’t god answer prayers? That is what I was taught in Sunday School. After a few years of asking god to help with my mother's cancer and no response, I gave up on the prayer/girl thing as well. 
Christine Jorgensen 1954

There were whispers back in the fifties about a soldier named Christine Jorgensen actually changing her "sex".  Nothing scared me more than when I learned becoming a girl was possible through surgery; no miracle needed. I guess I was not as committed to that idea as I thought. 

I was called "sissy" and although I did not like being called that, I knew deep inside it was true. Now at adolescent crossroads, I decided to become the best boy I could. If I was not going to just wake up one morning as a girl, then boyhood was for me. Put all this silly girl stuff behind me. 

Luckily, I got a growth spurt early in puberty, (like girls). Unfortunately, it stopped as quickly as it started. However, for a while I was the largest boy in my sixth grade and this gave me a shot of boy confidence. 

Reveling in this shot of confidence, I played rough and tumble boy stuff with the best. I was good at football (all-county and team co-captain) until good sense dictated a smarter course. Everyone else got bigger - I did not. By eleventh grade, I was both skinny and short compared to my peers. I compensated by being studious, a good leader and gregarious. To my surprise, people liked me in spite of my well-hidden secret. I guess I had the "girl" thing under control.  
  
Also, I had to compartmentalize being dyslexic. Kids teased me and called me “retard” because I could not read well out loud. Plus, my spelling was awful (still is). Oh, how I hated getting a paper back from my teachers with all the red marks. It looked like someone had bled out on my homework.


Fortunately, deep inside, I  knew I was OK. I chose to listen to my internal self.  

As an adult, I found that my internal self to be my best guide. I have made the effort to fix what I could; deal with the other stuff and be the best father, provider, husband and even church leader that I could. Overall I think I did OK. 

Personal note: I have stepped away from religion because of the gross hypocrisy that abounds therein. I am no longer religious.  

Compartmentalized obstacles, cannot stay ignored and hidden forever. Like items in a closets, obstacles/realities must be dealt with and the objects sorted - keep/tossed. An item/attitude although perfect at one time, may no longer fit; be out of date/style. Yes, a new attitude will fit me better.   

I do not see my being transgender going away. The "until death, do us part" thing. This feminine aspect is as much a part of myself as blue eyes, right-handed and being dyslexic. I am transgender and part of the larger LGBTQ community. I am proud and see no need to apologize.




Sunday, June 21, 2020

Happy Father's Day '20





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We now return the regularly scheduled program
Rhonda's Political Week In Review 6/21/2020










Hypocrisy:

  1. A pretense of having a virtuous character, moral or religious beliefs or principles, etc., that one does not really possess. A feigning to be what one is not or to believe what one does not.
  2. Behavior that contradicts what one claims to believe or feel.
  3. A pretense of having some desirable or publicly approved attitude.




Friday, June 19, 2020

Catch of The Day - I Love Being A Girl



I am not of the time period where the whole outfit needs to match. However, there are times when a combination just jumps out and begs for a second look. The "I Love Being A Girl" goes back to my very first post on this blog nearly five years ago.  Where did the time go? What a ride.

Today's fashion layout is Lauren Ralph Lauren Floral Jersey Surplice Dress from Macy's, on sale this weekend (when does Macy's not have a sale). It is more than one-half off at $53.19. I love the fit of the Lauren Jersey knits. The color is listed as "Cream/Pink Floral".

The Pink Floral shoes are Coach and I have been watching these all season. The Coach site sold out long ago, but I found them, new, on e-Bay and in my size. The "Coach Womens Waverly Leather Pointed Toe Classic Pumps" do fit me perfectly. 

The Tory Burch Cap Toe Pumps were an addition of about 6 months ago and although listed as nude are very nearly pink. 

I will keep you posted on how this "maybe too put together" outfit works out.  Stay tuned for photos.  


Why do we do this: "Because We Love Being A Girl"!






Thursday, June 18, 2020

Your Voice



I wrote this over a year ago.
 Never has it seemed so appropriate as today.

 


Wednesday, June 17, 2020

I Love A Success Story - Thank you Aimee



Aimee Stephens, before her death, shared the following when discussing a possible ruling in her favor by the SCOTUS: 



“Firing me because I’m transgender was discrimination, plain and simple, and I am glad the Court recognized that what happened to me is wrong and illegal. I am thankful that the Court said my transgender siblings and I have a place in our laws—it made me feel safer and more included in society.”  

James Esseks, Director of the ACLU’s LGBTQ & HIV Project had the following response: "We celebrate this victory as the Supreme Court ruled employers cannot discriminate against LGBTQ people. This ruling moves our country forward and affirms legal protections in the workplace, housing, and health care – but, as Aimee Stephens always advocated for, we still have work to do... Congress must affirm today’s decision and update our laws to ensure comprehensive and explicit protections for LGBTQ people and all people who face discrimination.” 


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I want to thank Aimee for her bravery and standing up for us all. Let's all now commit to honor our hero, by voting this coming fall to honor Aimee's memory by making sure that congress, and the next president know that discrimination is wrong and now illegal. 



Tuesday, June 16, 2020

A Victory!



The News of The Day




Finally we have been granted legal protections under the he law.  After so many years of mean spirited "Executive Orders", Politico describes our victory this way:

 LGBT rights advocates triumphed at the Supreme Court Monday, winning a sweeping decision from the justices that protects gay, lesbian and transgender employees from being disciplined, fired or turned down for a job based on their sexual orientation.

Read the whole article entitled "With LGBT ruling, Supreme Court hands liberals a surprise victory".




Monday, June 15, 2020

I Love A Success Story - Her Father's Love

A Daughter's Journey

Jamie Vallas and her Dad.
BY : Michael Golden 







You’re transitioning from one body to another. From one gender to another. But it’s more than that. I’ve always been the same up in my head. Deep inside I’ve always been the same person. But my body - it was just different. And I wanted to make corrections. I wanted to change myself so I felt more comfortable. And I felt more comfortable in a woman’s body. And that’s who I truly was. I wanted to bring out my inside and reveal it on the outside.” - Jamie Vallas





Earlier this year, 21 year-old Jamie Vallas underwent sexual reassignment surgery. Happy and healthy, Jamie is now speaking out about her transgender journey - and how her family has made all the difference. Jamie, and her father Dean, were recently interviewed on The Golden Mean podcast. Edited excerpts from our conversation: 

Jamie: I used to listen to a lot of female singing artists. Like Celine Dion, or Hannah Montana. All this stuff that most little boys wouldn’t listen to. And I would lip sync the words and pretend like I was singing them. I used to dress up all the time. I used to borrow my sister’s ballet clothes, and I used to dance around to that music with those dresses on. I used to put towels and shirts over my head and pretend I had long hair. Or put t-shirts on to pretend they were dresses. I went all out! 

And I also played with my sister’s Barbie dolls. I used to be made fun of around my neighborhood. They used to call me Barbie boy. It was really degrading at the time because I didn’t think what I was doing was wrong. I mean, this is me and I was expressing myself. And I thought I was not doing anything wrong, but I guess I was an oddity to other people.

I was so feminine. I was overly feminine and I didn’t like my body. And I thought, gay men are comfortable in their own bodies. I wasn’t. And I found the term transgender, and it just changed my point of view and my way of thinking. And I was like, that’s me. 


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Don’t let other people bring you down. You are who you are. You’re your own person. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t take what someone says and blame yourself and think, “oh, this is who I am because this person said that.” No. You don’t need to be yourself through other people. You don’t need other people’s validation to be yourself and to be happy and to be you. You should always do your best to be yourself. Regardless of what other people try to say about you. Don’t be afraid to be who you are just because other people don’t like you. That’s their issue, not yours. You did nothing wrong. It’s okay to be happy.


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With Father's Day coming, do yo have any touching father's Day stories you can share?  






Sunday, June 14, 2020

Rhonda's Political Week In Review 6/14/2020













Thanks again Velma for sending this one along...