"Less Than 10!"

Trump got MAGA riled by stoking baseless culture war against transgender athletes | Letter

Opinion By: Daniel Jacobson
Lake Worth Beach 12/30/2024

There are less than 10 transgender athletes in the NCAA, according to NCAA President Carlie Baker. Was it worth it MAGA?

During the 2024 presidential campaign, in order to keep the fact-denying MAGA base riled up, President-elect Donald Trump used transgender athletics as part of his baseless culture war.

The U.S. Senate, earlier this month, held a hearing on college sports betting that quickly turned to the topic of transgender athletes in sports and their effect on the outcome of games. Former Republican governor from Massachusetts and present NCAA President Charlie Baker was questioned by Illinois Sen. Richard Durbin about how many athletes are in NCAA athletic programs? Baker's answer was "510,000." He was then asked how many transgender individuals participate in NCAA-governed sports? His answer: "Less than 10"!

So MAGAs, you were grifted on inflation, the economy, oil production and immigration. Now you can add "Less than 10" to your hate and bigotry, which will allow Trump and his billionaire buddies four more years to rip you and our country off.

My research: There are 520,000 NCAA Athletes.  0.00001923% are transgender.

Feminine Differential - What boots to wear with a tunic dress?

 

Aug 07, 2020

Amazon Boots

My Note:  The leggings /Jeggings look is quickly becoming one of my favorite feminine styles. My everyday, wear to work look, is black legging over a long black or white top / sweater extending past my bottom. Our dress code require black and white mixed or all one color. The tight fit of the leggings, remind me  of panty hose, (remember those), feel great and are certainly a feminine differential.  

Boots have been my nemesis for many years.  Finding boots that work with my lower leg (below the knee) are always purchases when a return option is available.  I have returned many that could not be zipped or just not allow my foot entry with my high instep. I so want to try boots with leggings and may have found a solution on Amazon. (Mysoft Women's Knee High Boots Chunky Heel Boots with Zipper).    A very reasonable price and the reviews are positive. I will keep you posted with photos if they work.  

Today delivery note:  For the price beautiful boots. Foot, although tight, worked because zipper started at the floor of the heel; easy on.  However, after much effort and tugging the zipper would not zip to the top. It was close with only about 1 1/2 inches to go over the naked calf. Disappointed - Another return.

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From the Site Locker room:  Tunics are such type of clothing that is really versatile and it can be worn in combination with almost anything and still look good. But so are shoes too. A pair of shoes can really brighten or completely sabotage our...

Tunics are such type of clothing that is really versatile and it can be worn in combination with almost anything and still look good. But so are shoes too. A pair of shoes can really brighten or completely sabotage our outfit depending on the design we are going to choose. To avoid spoiling our look we should pick our shoes carefully.

When it comes to mixing styles with boots and tunics our options are endless. Boots are perfect for layering with a tunic dress. They look great when combined with stylish jeggings.

Sylvia at 40+Style has an great post also.  "How to wear leggings over 40 – a complete guide with the best leggings and tops and shoes to wear with them."

How To Wear Leggings With Outfits & Look Stylish & Chic

Political Cartoons 12-29-2024

 

America's fragile environment is for sale.  

MSNBC: Trump promises ‘fully expedited’ permits for investors of $1 billion-plus in U.S.

Life Too Short

 

ETSY

Fashion - Sixty + Me

 

BY SUSAN "HONEY" GOOD : Be Inspired to Live Your Life to the Fullest

My Note:  There is is a great post by Susan Good on her Sixty + Me Blog.  Many article of this type are written for women in "age" transition, not unlike us also in transition. 

The important factor for us to understand is that many of us are truly women in nature.  What applies to women applies to us. We need to stop with all the labels; you know the ones, and accept our reality.  Many of the labels distance us from the life we live or the live we want to live.  These labile have become politicizing and to accept a marginalized category only plays into their "got you" stigmatizing us.  

By us accepting that we are "Women" or "Feminine men" the we have accept that label have no power over us.  As Pop Eye said it best "I am what I am". Bullies love to call marginalized groups by name calling. it reinforces their perceived superiority just as the "N" word keep an enslaved population down. 

Transgender has become the "T" work of the day.  The ACLU is tracking 494 anti-LGBTQ bills in the U.S. all targeted to the "T" community.  According to the Pew Institute about 5% of young adults in the U.S. say their gender is different from their sex assigned at birth with the actual number identifying as transgender being less.

Transgender has become a "Dog whistle" for the conservative right. denoting politically correct (woke)  gone  astray.  Is not putting down a person who want to become / be known or be seen / know as s a woman putting down women.  Is being a women a bad thing?  Feminine men have been around for centuries in all cultures.  If being / becoming a woman is too much for you to accept then accept the fact that you are a "feminine man".  

Bullies use name calling to make you less human and justify their punitive actions.  By accepting who / what we are then we force the masked prejudice and bigotry to the surface.  

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I Love A Success Story - Joshua M. Ricker Model

 

Joshua USA

Occupation Customer Service Manager

Age 36 years old

Joshua M. Ricker 

Who am I?

Each individual person is beautiful in their own way; beauty is being yourself, being confident with who you are, not being afraid to go against the grain and giving yourself your own unique style. Allow your beauty to shine through with how you dress, be bold, be colorful, be the BEAUTIFUL that you are! Beauty is being YOURSELF!

What do I think about The Fashion Hero TV series?

I'm a 6'0" genderbending model with dreams bigger than little city I was raised in by the mountains in Tennessee! I got a city-boy personality with a good ol' southern heart. I am not signed with any agency but I have experience being a freelance model mainly just because I love expressing myself through fashion. I have dreams to become a model- a spokes model, to embrace self-love and to let EVERYONE know that you can be anything you want to be! I am currently employed as a Customer Service Manager for Walmart, 4 years strong! Maybe one day, I can finally end retail work and be walking runways in Europe or posing on front covers of Vogue magazines! Dream big!

Why would I be a great role model for this generation and inspire people as the new face of The Fashion Hero?

I love music. Going dancing. Going out-to-eat with friends and family. I love concerts. I love going on long aimless hikes. I love going shopping, mainly just grocery shopping though. I'd rather buy clothes online! Haha. I love going for car rides around the city or in the mountains. I enjoy making things and writing. I love make-up and watching tutorials. Drag Queens (i.e. Raja, Ongina, Violet Chachki, Aquaria), and fashion icons like, David Bowie, Freddie Mercury, and Perfume Genius are inspirations for my sense of style and fashions. I play a lot of video games! #pcgamer I spend the majority of my time working for Walmart! Stay passionate.

Happy Holidays '24

 

Colony Hotel Palm Beach
2024

Many of you will remember this alternative version of the "Night Before Christmas" from previous Christmas eves. This has become my tradition to you for Christmas.  I hope you enjoy.

Wishes for a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays. May you find good health, peace and happiness in 2025.

 And above all else, Escape; live "your" life!

Cross Dressing Night Before Christmas

Posted to alt.fashion.crossdressing by Shae Guerin 2002-12-23.

'Twas the night before Christmas,

and all thru the house...

I was making my plans to look more like my spouse

I carefully laid out my very best clothes

My bra and my panties, my slip and my hose

My stockings weren't hung by the chimney tonite

They were on me instead, feeling sensually tight

My dress was of velvet, a burgundy red

And on my long nails a new polish was spread

With makeup and jewelry, high heels on my feet

I was looking so sexy, and feeling so sweet

When out in the yard there arose such a noise

That I sprang from my bedroom, forgetting my poise

The moon on the snow with it's brilliant white glitter

Reminds me of lace, to set my heart a-twitter

When what to my long-lashed eyes should appear

But a person in red with a sleigh and reindeer

But I couldn't tell, was it a 'he' or a 'she'

The one with the pack was dressed somewhat like me

There in the sleigh was this 'cutsey' old flirt

With a white wig and makeup, a red blouse and skirt

The reindeer were sparkling, with rhinestones and pearls

And their antlers in ribbons, so they all looked like girls

When s/he stepped from the sleigh, to my eyes were revealed

Her knee-hi black boots with their seven-inch heels

Santa just blushed, but I stood there and smiled

And said, "Hello, my dear, can you stay for awhile?"

"Well you finally caught me", he said with a pout

"At this time on Christmas, folks are seldom about."

"I don't go enfemme very often at home,

Mrs Clause doesn't like it, so I do it alone.

"So when I give out goodies to make others smile

"I like to feel pretty and femme for awhile."

"So I ride off dressed up, from my hi-heels to wig,

"On Christmas eve night while I'm doing my gig."

I said, "Don't worry Santa, your secret is safe

Why don't you come in and just freshen your face."

We sat and we talked and vented our passion

For feminine frills and the latest new fashions

We finally parted with a hug and a kiss

She said, "I must go now, or some children I'll miss"

I went to my party and had a great time

With music and laughter and good food and wine

But when I returned and looked under my tree

I found some new pretties from sweet Santa to me

Lacy panties, a bra and a soft satin blouse

Perfumes and some candles to light up my house

But it wasn't the goodies that swept away my blues

It was knowing that Santa was a cross dresser too

So next time don't judge all the people you meet

By what they are wearing when out on the street

For in being ones self, there's no 'wrong or right' 

The Williams Institure Research

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In a year marked both by support for LGBTQ people by the federal government and opposition to transgender rights by state legislatures, the Williams Institute's research highlights the impact of laws and policies on LGBTQ people. Take a look at how our groundbreaking findings relate to the most significant developments in LGBTQ law and policy this year.

As 2024 comes to a close, we want to thank you for your continued support of LGBTQ data. Without you, we couldn't conduct our rigorous and independent research that informs law and public policy issues.

In appreciation, we give you our annual Data in Review, which highlights LGBTQ news from the past year and summarizes some of the Williams Institute's key findings from 2024.

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Political Cartoons 12-22-2024

 

You Are...

 

A Favorite Look 3.0

 

I Love A Success Story - Mark Bryan

 Mark Bryan isn't just the guy in heels and skirts

Fashion Tue Apr 5 2022 by Orion Scott

Mark Bryan

With a list of accolades that include being a father, engineer and football coach, Mark Bryan has quickly added model and influencer to his already impressive line-up. Known better as the straight man who wears skirts and heels, Mark Bryan has risen to fashion fame over the last year, landing himself exclusive photoshoots in Interview Magazine, CR Fashion Book and Harper’s Bazaar. Remix caught up with the sky-high heel wearing icon to discuss how wearing skirts and heels came about, his style inspiration and what people’s general reactions were to him changing his dress code. 

It’s so nice to meet you, how have you been?

Hello! You too. You know, I'm still working a full-time job as an engineer so that takes up 45 hours of my week. And then the modelling and influencing are kind of like a part-time job. My boss calls it a hobby, but I'm making a little bit of money out of it but not enough where I could quit my other job and do it full time. 

You've been getting some crazy opportunities through your modelling/ influencing and you've kind of blown up!

It's honestly just mind-blowing! A year and a half ago I probably only had 200 followers on my Instagram account and now it’s at 635k so it’s really incredible. 

Who is your style inspiration?

It would have to of course be the one and only Carrie Bradshaw. I've worn some skirts like what she wears some in the show for photoshoots, the giant flowing ones which are probably not very practical for everyday life but make you feel special in the moment. She definitely inspires me and I try to mix it in with what I call my own hybrid style which is a little bit of masculine clothing mixed with the more feminine. 

What prompted you to first start wearing heels and skirts? 

The first time I wore heels was back when I was in college, which was like 40 years ago now. My girlfriend at the time said " Hey, you need to wear high heels" because she was taller than me when she wore high heels. So, for us to be the same height, she suggested I wear a pair of her shoes, and we were the same size, and that was basically my introduction to wearing heels. I was probably only 20 or 21 years old and then about six years ago I saw a woman wearing a pair of Louboutin pumps and I could just see the confidence they gave her and it reminded me of my time in heels way back in college so I figured I’d try it again. My wife and I actually had a Halloween party a few days later where she suggested I wear some heels and a skirt and put on a wig and all that and I got so many compliments that I thought why don't I do this full time? Luckily I am a natural when it comes to walking in heels!

Read more of the interview...

How would you describe your style in three words?

I can do it in one! Hybrid. 

The Shoes That Go With Everything

 

Yes Everything

Carolyn Arentson

Last Updated: August 16, 2024

We love a good staple piece to add to our wardrobe. Something that can be worn time and time again, and will never go out of style. Whether you’re rushing out the door, or simply don’t know what to wear, you know you can always rely on these staple items to look great with everything. When it comes to footwear, you may be wondering, “What are the shoes that go with everything?” Well, the answer may surprise you, but a white sneaker is a perfect addition to your wardrobe. Here’s why – as well as just some of the countless ways you can style white sneakers with all your outfits!

My Feminine Differential - Elegant Sneakers

Why White Sneakers Are the Shoes That Go With Everything

White sneakers are the ultimate fashion chameleons – they blend in with everything! Whether you’re dressing up for a night out or keeping it casual for a weekend brunch, these shoes have got your back. (I mean, your feet!)

Their clean, neutral color means they match any outfit (and wardrobe color palette) without clashing or stealing the spotlight.

Want to wear them with shorts? They look great. A fancy dress? Still looks great!

Plus, white sneakers have this magical way of making you look effortlessly cool, giving you that model-off-duty look. They can dress down a formal outfit, giving that right amount of “I look good without trying too hard” vibe that we all strive for.

And they’re not just limited to one season! White sneakers can be worn year-round, proving to be a must-have staple in any wardrobe, no matter your age, personal style, or body shape.

All in all, they’re the go-to choice when you want comfort, style, and versatility all rolled into one. So, if you’re ever in doubt about what shoes you should invest in, white sneakers are your answer.

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Aldo Sneakers - Love Kiss

It was All A Cruel Smokescreen

Trump Downplays Trans Bathroom Debate After Spending Millions On Anti-Trans Ads

By 

Jennifer Bendery

Dec 13, 2024, 02:32 PM EST

“It's a very small number of people we're talking about,” the president-elect said in an interview with Time

WASHINGTON – In a stunning change of tune, President-elect Donald Trump told Time in an interview published Thursday that the transgender bathroom debate isn’t that important and doesn’t affect many people anyway – despite his campaign and other GOP groups pouring tens of millions of dollars into political ads attacking transgender people.

“I don’t want to get into the bathroom issue,” Trump said in the interview, which took place in late November. “Because it’s a very small number of people we’re talking about.”

He suggested the Supreme Court should ultimately decide whether transgender people can use bathrooms that align with their gender identity, but reiterated that this debate — which was created entirely by Republicans — is not a priority.

“We’re talking about a very small number of people, and we’re talking about it, and it gets massive coverage, and it’s not a lot of people,” Trump said.

Roughly 1.6 million people ages 13 and older identify as transgender in the United States, according to The Williams Institute, an LGBTQ+ research center.

Trump’s latest comments are in sharp contrast to the way that he and his party relentlessly attacked transgender people on the campaign trail, stoking fears about trans people in sports, in bathrooms and in pursuit of gender-affirming care.

As of mid-October, Trump and Republicans had spent more than $65 million on anti-trans television ads in states with competitive races, per an analysis of AdImpact data from The New York Times. By the end of the campaign season, the GOP had spent nearly $215 million on television ads fanning fear and hatred of trans people, according to AdImpact data cited by a Washington Post reporter. That figure doesn’t include cable or streaming ads, either.

One of Trump’s most memorable campaign ads attacked Democratic presidential nominee Kamala Harris for supporting trans rights. “Kamala is for they/them. President Trump is for you,” said the 30-second ad.

The ad was specifically attacking Harris for saying in 2019 that she supported gender-affirming care for people in federal prisons and immigrant detention. This was not an issue that Harris was campaigning on in 2024, but it was a law that Trump followed as president in his first term.

Only two federal prisoners have ever undergone these procedures, and PolitiFact could find no record of any immigration detainees receiving gender-affirming surgeries.

Trump reportedly aired this ad more than 30,000 times in every swing state and spent more money on it than on all the other ads in his campaign combined.

In his Time interview, Trump was also asked about Republican attacks on transgender Rep.-elect Sarah McBride (D-Del.). McBride isn’t even in Congress yet and has already become the target of transphobic attacks by Rep. Nancy Mace (R-S.C.), who introduced a bill aimed at barring McBride from using women’s bathrooms in the House.

McBride has responded to Mace’s attacks by saying there are more important issues to focus on in Congress than bathrooms. When Trump was asked if he agrees with incoming House Democrat McBride, he emphatically said yes.

“I do agree with that. On that—absolutely,” said the president-elect. “As I was saying, it’s a small number of people.”

As for his “Kamala is for they/them. President Trump is for you” ad attacking Harris’ support for trans rights, Trump again downplayed his months of attacks on transgender people and said he is for everyone.

What Does It Mean To Be Feminized?

 It is easier to feminize yourself or have someone else do it?  

What an interesting scenario. I firmly believe that Forced Feminization (FF) only exist in the fertile minds of transgender fiction writers.  Although I am sure that here have been frustrated mothers that have fantasized about turning their unruly boy into a girl. However, not to spoil a good story line, legally in this political climate, an unwilling minor would be considered a victim.

So, long story short, I am an advocate for self feminization. To trap oneself into feminine roles that may or may not provide easy escape routes is a viable option. Still in full control, you have committed to being yourself a little outside of your normal comfort zone.

1993 - Proof of Concept 
Photo shoot

I have used this method to boost my courage when trepidation would have stopped me. On several of my first forays in public as Rhonda, I was amazed that the world did not end, and there were not lynch mobs forming. Let’s do this again. 

What did I do: I made an appointment to get my hair / nails done.  I made an appointment to have a State ID made with my feminine image. I worked with a woman that knew of my crossdressing, and we made a date to be "ladies-that-lunch".  I made an appointment with a professional photographer to have a “proof of concept / look” portfolio done with several outfits.  

See the trap. I had committed to situations where others were involved and felt the necessity to live out the commitment. Never was there a negative experience. 

Stay tuned; I will explain how I have recently  restarted my software business. This time as a female entrepreneur. 

Steph on Quora has the following suggestions:

When I was very young and still living as a guy, I took trips with only women’s clothes in my suitcase. That meant I was all dressed up, in make-up and heels, went to the airport and then I would spend a week in another city. At that point it was clear that I had to pass [be out]. There were only skirts in the suitcase. To get my breakfast in the morning, I had to be presentable as a woman.

Later, I threw away all my men’s clothing. I had shopped women’s thing for a while with quite an impressive wardrobe like many crossdressers. One day I brought everything which looked like man and all unisex pieces to the thrift store. So, it is Monday morning, you need to go to your university class and the only thing in your wardrobe are ladies pants, blouses and feminine tops. No way out, you need to go out like this.

I shaped my eyebrows in a real nice feminine arch. This plus a feminine haircut plus color somehow added another element. You can’t look very masculine with this and you cannot take if off anymore. [trapped]

I build guardrails for myself in this process to guide me away from masculine behaviors. The interesting part here regarding feminization, is something that I call the uphill-downhill effect. At first, feminization is an uphill trip. Every step costs a lot of effort. People and your own mind want to push you back to masculine and you need a lot of effort and discipline to push yourself to feminine. Once you are over the hill, society pushes you towards more feminine. From that point on feminization works on autopilot.

 

Political Cartoons 12-15-2024

 

Cute Shoes and Their Importance

 

I Love A Success Story - The Cheerleader

Brave Teen Transgender Cheerleader

BY: Sarah Francis

My Note:  This is an old (never posted article). 

Teenager Phoebe Cesinaro has fulfilled her dreams and overcome her bullies to become her school's first ever transgender cheerleader.

However, just two years ago Phoebe was presenting herself as a gay male and using her birth name Christian.

Since coming out as a straight transgender girl, the brave sixteen-year-old has faced cruel bullying and been ostracised from her peers.

But rather than hide, the teenager decided to transition and fought for the chance to become the school's first transgender cheerleader.

Despite two failed try-outs, Phoebe, from Kitchener in Ontario, Canada, has since been promoted from the junior squad to the senior squad.

The teen revealed the energetic sport has helped her cope with the bullying and boosted her confidence throughout her challenging transition.

She said: "I tried to get on the team for two years but I just wasn’t good enough so during summer I built my confidence as I had to be happy and confident to get on the team.

"I used to hate being in front of crowds but cheerleading helps my confidence and gave me a place to take out any anger. It makes me feel good."

Despite her new-found confidence the inspiring teen admitted it was hard to be in the public eye of the school and that acceptance has been gradual.

"Cheer has helped bring me such positive energy and I want to help people to be more confident and how them how to be themselves.

It's okay to come out and be the person you see inside.

Holiday Cookie Exchange '24

 

A really fun morning with several ladies clubs coming together to exchange cookies and share the upcoming holidays.

As Trans People, We're Going To Face More Challenges

 Here Are 7 Ways To Get Support.

A second Trump presidency could mean devastating legislative and cultural setbacks for transgender people. Here's how to stay safe and supported.

By Fei Lu

Dec 10, 2024

As LGBTQ+ voters who’ve already lived through a Donald Trump presidency, we are fully aware of the first Trump administration’s anti-LGBTQ+ standpoints, specifically those surrounding transgender rights. And for many transgender Americans, a second Trump presidency could mean devastating legislative and cultural setbacks, such as reversals of civil rights. These may include an executive order to reinstate a military ban on transgender service members, the targeting of antidiscrimination policies that protect transgender students, and the potential rejection of the still-pending Equality Act, which would ensure that sexual orientation and gender identity have the same civil protections as race, ethnicity and other protected characteristics.

In short, the next Trump presidency could further roll back civil liberties for transgender individuals living in the United States.

What’s equally unsettling about this is that in public life, many people who possess hostile views of LGBTQ+ individuals may feel emboldened to act on those attitudes. Being Chinese American and transgender, I’m painfully aware of how unsettling a Trump presidency was and can be.

To help mitigate these shared anxieties and uncertainties, I’ve compiled a list of ways that transgender individuals can find support from legal, health care and community resources. While we can’t predict the next four years, we can stay informed and equip ourselves with the information needed to protect ourselves and our communities.

Read the Seven suggestions...

#7 - Become your own best medical advocate.

Not all transgender individuals may undergo medical transition, but for those who desire to do so, knowing where to start can be difficult. And with the next U.S. administration’s hostility toward transgender individuals already apparent, it may be difficult to access relevant health resources. Organizations like New York City’s Callen-Lorde offer breakdowns of various medical procedures that transgender patients may want to educate themselves on, which could be critical in better pinpointing gender-affirming medical practitioners.

Tennessee law banning gender-affirming Care

Conservatives appear skeptical of challenge banning gender-affirming care for minors

By Josh Gerstein and Daniel Payne

12/04/2024

Transgender-rights advocates seeking to overturn a Tennessee law banning some gender-affirming care for minors got a chilly reception from the Supreme Court’s conservatives on Wednesday. But the silence of one justice in particular may have offered them a glimmer of hope.

Most of the court’s conservatives seemed inclined to leave in place a lower court ruling that allowed the state’s ban on hormone treatments and puberty blockers to remain in place, but the normally voluble Justice Neil Gorsuch asked no questions and offered no public comments during the two-and-a-half hour session.

Gorsuch’s decision to remain mute was particularly notable because he was the author of a surprise 6-3 decision four years ago that found employment discrimination against transgender people illegal under a longstanding federal law banning sex discrimination.

Opponents of the Tennessee law framed their arguments around Gorsuch’s 2020 ruling in Bostock v. Clayton County, contending that denying certain medicines to adolescents based on their sex amounted to discrimination and required strong justification from state officials.

It was unclear why Gorsuch, an appointee of President Donald Trump, chose not to engage Wednesday. With the court’s three liberals all appearing to support the plaintiffs challenging the Tennessee law, Gorsuch’s vote alone would not be enough to form a majority to require closer legal scrutiny for the ban. One more would be needed.

The outcome of the case is being closely watched by people on both sides of the issue because 26 states have passed laws in recent years that restrict gender-affirming care. Many of those laws have faced challenges in court, and the Supreme Court’s decision in the Tennessee case could have implications for the future of the laws in other states.

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In the U.S, more restrictions — and challenges — could be ahead. The incoming Trump administration has promised to reverse measures meant to increase access to gender-affirming care and promote inclusion of transgender people. But several justices also acknowledged that even after this case, a parent might bring a case before the court challenging a ban on care for their child.

Feminine Differential - Feet

 

Men's feet vs Women's feet, what's the difference?

Ermonn Women's Heeled Sandals Velcro

My Note: Just this past week I saw on Amazon a strappy Sandal that works better on my foot than any heeled shoe ever. I have two problems that make both men's shoes and women shoes problematic.  My natural foot tilt at rest is angled as in a female foot which make any shoe with a higher heel (back lift) more comfortable than a flat shoe.  Most of the time when working at my desk, I have a shoe with a heel. A higher heel best accommodated my at rest foot thus providing less foot  and leg fatigue.  

I have a high instep that makes any female shoes that has a strap that crosses the center foot, nearly impossible to get on and unconformable over time. Boots are the worst. These two issues are counter intuitive in that the higher the heel the more elevated the the instep.  As much as I love high heels, finding the  Goldilocks, "comfort vs fashion", shoe has always been difficult.         

The shoe purchased has a 3 1/3" heel, and is adjustable (Velcro) cross mid strap and toe. Very comfortable. Here is the Amazon description: "Ermonn Womens Two Strap Heeled Sandals Velcro Slip On Square Open Toe Stiletto" 

These are not ball-gown Stiletto pumps. However,  are a prefect jeans, shorts, or casual skirt shoe. Both the lower strap and upper (across instep) are adjustable.   

Here is a more scientific discussion on the Feminine Differential of male vs female feet /shoes.

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In the ol' days, work shoes (then work sneakers) were designed by men, for men's use. Later, when women started needing robust shoes for work, smaller "female" sizes were made - but the shoe designs remained based on a men's foot mould. It stemmed from the belief that our feet were just smaller versions of men’s feet.

Modern science has since called BS on that, but fake foot news still exists. Most women are unaware of how history has left us wearing ill-fitting shoes designed for men, so the shoe industry has been slow to change. The hard truth is women’s feet are anatomically different to a man’s - that's just science. And wearing a men’s fit is not good for our feet, legs or lower back.

Reading scientific stuff is not for everyone, so here's the low-down. Basically  researchers normalised foot length measurements so they could compare the genders. Then they discovered:

• female feet and legs are not just scaled down versions of a man's
• there are 11 significant differences in women's lower limbs compared with male anatomy; 2 calf, 5 ankle and 4 foot shape variables 
• women's wider hips create a significantly different pressure load under the foot

Although this article deals mostly with work shoes it highlights the differential well. 

Read more here

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Do not be discouraged in your search for elegant feminine shoes.  There are so many varsities; size, heel height and designs... Finding just the right shoe can be daunting.  However, isn't the sopping and selection part of the fun too. Good luck!   

"High Heels are pleasure with pain" Christian Louboutin