Wednesday, May 18, 2022

Arresting Dress

 A timeline of anti-cross-dressing laws in the United States

In November 2014, an appeals court in Malaysia overturned a state law that barred Muslim men from dressing as women in a historic victory for the country’s transgender women.

The court found the law unconstitutional, characterizing it as “degrading, oppressive and inhuman.” The verdict was heralded by human rights organizations worldwide as a step in recognition of modern human rights.

But some similar landmark rule changes in the United States were only a few years ahead.

In fact, a person perceived as male who dressed in clothing customarily designed for women could technically be arrested in New York for “impersonating a female” as recently as 2011 — the remnants of a 19th century statewide law prohibiting wearing “the dress of the opposite sex.”

In Columbus, Ohio, where one of the earliest ordinances was instituted, an 1848 law forbade a person from appearing in public “in a dress not belonging to his or her sex.” In the decades that followed, more than 40 U.S. cities created similar laws limiting the clothing people were allowed to wear in public.

The wave of laws in the 1850s represented a “new development specific to gender presentation,” according to Susan Stryker, an associate professor of Gender and Women’s Studies at the University of Arizona.

Book By Susan Stryker
Available on Amazon 

In effect, the anti-cross-dressing laws became a flexible tool for police to enforce normative gender on multiple gender identities, including masculine women and people identifying as transgender or gender non-conforming.

But as time progressed and fashion evolved, it was increasingly difficult to even define what “cross-dressing” entailed from a law-enforcement perspective, Stryker told PBS NewsHour.

The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation organization defines cross-dressers specifically as heterosexual men who occasionally wear clothes, makeup and accessories culturally associated with women.

“By the time the counterculture was in full bloom, cross-dressing arrests were routinely getting thrown out of court,” she said. “Arresting cross-dressing people was mainly just a form of police harassment.”

MY Note - Could these laws return under the current Republican transgender madness? 

Tuesday, May 17, 2022

At Work Shoes, The Bane of My Existence


To say that something or someone is “the bane of my existence” means that the person or thing is a constant irritant or source of misery.  The shoes I wear at the lingerie shop (Soma) can make-or-break my day.  

On my first day I wore my most comfortable 3" heels. The ones I previously bragged that I can wear all day - NOT.  I was going to make a statement that I am a "Shop Girl see me walk".  At the end of that day I was doing the end-of-day store cleaning, barefoot; near tears. 

That was a lesson learned.

Tory Burch Flats 

Next I tried ballet flats; no support.  Although the ballet flats did not cause excessive pain while standing /walking all day, they did cause leg fatigue lasting even past the work shift. 

Next, sneakers, which are a success story.  My every day shoes are a platform sneaker that provides a little feminine differential and all-day comfort. Luckily, retail has become super casual with few dress code requirements enforced. This is likely fueled by the readiness to fill positions with any willing worker that has a pulse. My part-time self included in that last statement.  

I am so happy that my existence does not depend on working retail. It is thankless, hard work and seldom provides a living wage. Did I mention hard work. Always be kind / understanding to the retail associates that serve you. A smile and a thank you go a long way in making their day bearable.   

My mall Coach store is having a buyback promotion and will give store vouchers  for older leather "vintage" bags. Legacy purses are being sought-after items that  Coach reconditions for resale. I had one that fit that criteria and took it by the store. 

Yes, a worth while amount was negociated. To use my store voucher, I purchased a pair of  their "Citysole Platform Lace-Up Logo Sneakers".  The fit was super and were so comfortable I choose to size down. Below are my new Coach platform sneakers and the "no name", internet platform sneakers that are my everyday shoes.  Similar here at Bloomingdales

I will keep you posted on the long term wearability of the Coach sneakers. So far so good.  


Monday, May 16, 2022

Let There be Censorship

“[The “Don’t Say Gay” bill] is oppressing students, and it has not even gone into effect yet,” says Zander Moricz, his high school’s first openly gay class president

Zander Moricz 
This post is from
NBC News and the Rollingstone.

Florida high school senior Zander Moricz was called into his principal’s office last week. As class president his whole high school career — and his school’s first openly LGBTQ student to hold the title — this was a fairly routine request. But once he entered the administrator’s office, he said, he immediately knew “this wasn’t a typical meeting.”

His principal — Stephen Covert of Pine View School in Osprey, Florida, roughly 70 miles south of Tampa — warned Moricz that if his graduation speech referenced his LGBTQ activism, school officials would cut off his microphone, end his speech and halt the ceremony, Moricz alleged. 

I am the youngest public plaintiff in the “Don’t Say Gay” lawsuit. I am my Florida high school’s first openly-gay Class President. I am being silenced, and I need your help. — zander moricz (@zandermoricz) May 9, 2022

“He said that he just ‘wanted families to have a good day’ and that if I was to discuss who I am and the fight to be who I am, that would ‘sour the celebration,’” Moricz, 18, recalled. “It was incredibly dehumanizing.”

Covert did not reply to NBC News’ questions concerning his alleged warning to Moricz. However, he released a statement through his employer, Sarasota County Schools, saying he and other school officials “champion the uniqueness of every single student on their personal and educational journey.”

In a statement, Sarasota County Schools confirmed Covert and Moricz’s meeting, adding that graduation speeches are routinely reviewed to ensure they are “appropriate to the tone of the ceremony.”


Moricz plans to give his speech as anticipated, and hopes to use his voice to speak up for other LGBTQ students like himself, especially after growing up in a community where he didn’t necessarily feel welcome to come out.

“Sarasota, as a community, has been a hateful environment to grow up in. Since my role in the lawsuit went public, we have had people run into my parents’ place of work screaming about me,” he says. “I’ve received death threats, both in person and online. I don’t go to the grocery store alone, because I typically get someone trying to debate or trying to threaten me and it’s really wild.”

Sunday, May 15, 2022

Rhonda's Political Week In Review 5-15-2022


And the award for "Hypocrite of the Week" goes to Justice Clarence Thomas.

Justice Thomas on SCOTUS decisions: People need to live with outcomes we don’t agree with. Thomas noted that as a society, “we are becoming addicted to wanting particular outcomes, not living with the outcomes we don’t like,” Reuters reported.

His statements come after it was revealed in March that his wife, Ginni, sent several text messages to former White House chief of staff Mark Meadows urging him to find a way to keep former President Trump in office, leading up to the Jan. 6, 2021, Capitol riot.


Saturday, May 14, 2022

Friday, May 13, 2022

How To Be More Feminine...

 Tips To Act More Ladylike

by Pearl Nash 
May 3, 2021

Being feminine can mean different things to different people because each culture has its own notion of what it means to be female.

In the west, the concept of femininity is tied heavily to gender norms.

Traditionally, being feminine or girly means being gentle, nurturing, sensitive, sweet, passive, empathetic, or devoted — to name a few traits.

As people continue to realize that gender norms are a little outdated, we now think that being feminine is more of a style choice (although positive feminine traits are still good to emulate).

So how do you become more feminine?

Achieving a girly “look”, adopting ladylike mannerisms, and getting in touch with the female mindset can help you take on a more feminine image.

In this article, you’ll learn how to embody the grace, politeness, and competence which define the female attitude.

My Note - Each of these is expanded in the article and I have listed the most relevant to us.  A good read:


1) Take care of your hygiene

2) Dress in a girly style

3) Wear makeup

4) Try “feminine” hairstyles

5) Embrace your sexy side

6) Practice proper posture

7) Cultivate good manners

8) Speak like a lady

9) Avoid masculine behaviors

10) Spend more time with women

11) Read women’s magazines

12) Own your confidence and unique charm

13) Empathize with others

14) Be more expressive

15) Be more carefree.

16) Learn how to compliment people

17) Receive compliments graciously

18) Compliment yourself

19) Work on your social skills

Thursday, May 12, 2022

The 'Coastal Grandmother' Trend

Here's how to capture the vibe — even if you don't live anywhere near the coast.

By Emma Stessman

When I first heard the term "coastal grandmother," I had no idea what it was — but I immediately knew that it sounded like a trend that I could get behind.

The phrase brings to mind images of relaxing days spent lounging on a chaise, crisp linen outfits and houses with expansive farmhouse-style kitchens. And, essentially, that's what it is. TikTok user @lexnicoleta, who has been credited with coining the term, said in a video that those who love coastal vibes, recipes and cooking, cozy interiors and more might fit the "coastal grandmother" aesthetic. And no, you don't have to be an actual grandmother to be a coastal one, "it's for anyone and everyone," she said.

For those not lucky enough to live in a beach house with a big garden, you can still capture the spirit of the aesthetic by simply dressing for the role. "I would describe it as very neutral, classic staples in light shades ... it's very crisp, very clean," said New York City-based personal stylist Samantha Brown. "It's sort of like a nod to this timeless, moneyed — but not flashy — coastal grandma."

From A WellStyle Life Blog
Brown said that while the "coastal grandmother" aesthetic may appeal to a slightly older generation, it's also great for those who have become accustomed to the cozy and fuss-free outfits that made up the majority of our wardrobes over the last couple of years, but still want to look put-together. "It's a step above wearing leggings and a sweater, but it's still very, very easy," Brown said. "It almost comes back to that capsule wardrobe feeling, like really nice basics in neutral colors that can be easily interchanged with each other."

According to personal stylist Christina Stein, to nail the trend, you want to stick to earthy tones, like blues, greens, creams, white, beige and light pinks. Essential pieces include cotton long-sleeve shirts, sweaters, cargo pants and hats. Brown added that things like white button-downs, jeans (but not the skinny versions), casual trousers and high-quality tees are other staples.

Works for me!

Wednesday, May 11, 2022

Transgender Medication Banned in Alabama

Law Banning Transgender Medication For Alabama Kids Takes Effect

HuffPost - By Nina Golgowski

It's now a felony, punishable by up to 10 years in prison, for medical providers in Alabama to give puberty blockers or hormones to those under the age of 19.

Alabama Gov. Kay Ivey

It's now illegal to provide gender-affirming care for transgender youth in Alabama after a federal judge failed to rule on a motion Friday that could have temporary halted the unprecedented law from going into effect.

As of Sunday, the new law makes it a felony, punishable by up to 10 years in prison, for medical providers to give puberty blockers or hormones to those under the age of 19 to help affirm their gender identity.

This enforcement is a first for a state. The Arkansas Legislature passed a similar measure last year but a federal judge blocked it from going into effect while a lawsuit challenging the prohibition plays out.

Alabama Gov. Kay Ivey (R) signed her state’s bill early last month, prompting lawsuits from the U.S. Department of Justice and from the National Center for Lesbian Rights, Southern Poverty Law Center, and Human Rights Campaign on behalf of local families.

U.S. District Judge Liles Burke last week considered a motion seeking to temporarily halt the ban while the lawsuit is pending but ultimately did not make a decision.

He did not indicate when he will rule on the motion, according to local outlets.

See my post "Gender-affirming Care, A "Crucial"' Process".  Why do you think that 19 year olds will be the stopping point?  

Tuesday, May 10, 2022

After Speech Stop


Unwinding after the commencement speech at the
  Graduate Hotel Roof-top bar and restaurant.  
What a beautiful after event evening watching the sunset over downtown Richmond.  Dinner with a friend followed in the lobby 
restaurant. A beautiful end to a beautiful day.  

Monday, May 9, 2022

The Lavender Celebration at Virginia Commonwealth University

The Lavender Celebration, celebrates the achievement of LGBTQIA+ undergraduate, graduate, and doctoral candidates. Lavender Celebration began in 1995 on the campus of the University of Michigan and has since expanded to universities around the country. Each graduate receives a commemorative rainbow cord to symbolize their academic achievement. (From the VCU Lavender Celebration page.) 

The Virginia Commonwealth University (VCU) Lavender Celebration took place Friday evening, April 29 on campus. I was the keynote speaker for the ceremony that evening. 

Speaking at the VCU Lavender Celebration
The Rainbow Chords are on the table to my right. 

That evening was special for all and I was treated wonderfully with a driver picking me up at my hotel. The day before, there were meeting with VCU's LGBTQIA+ campus leaders. And, after the ceremony, there was a reception where I got to talk with many of the graduates.  Beautiful kids!

The graduates got to wear their caps, gowns and had family / partners, walk and sit with them during the ceremony. Attendance was good; more than I expected.  

Each LGBTQIA+ graduate received a rainbow cord and pre-graduation certificate. What was most heartwarming - as the graduate's name was called, their parent / partner came forward and placed the rainbow cord around the graduate's neck. God bless supporting parents! 

Hugs, kisses, and tears were well on display with many in the audience tearing with emotion; me included. What an honor to speak before these graduates. This was a super special evening that I will never forget.  

Several have asked for the text of the speech so I have included it below.  If a video becomes available I will post a link. 


 My Lavender Celebration Speech

Congratulation – Your generation is part of one of the most successful non-commercial social media “projects” of its time; a global movement.  

Not Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.  The “It gets better project”.

In 2010, LGBTQIA+ people and their allies all over the world uttered three words “It gets better”.  More than 70,000 people shared their stories to provide hope and encouragement to other young LGBTQ+ people around the world. 

Here is one of those stories:

This is part of what Janet Mock, a transgender woman, model, actress, writer, producer, director, and activist said:  

”I promise it gets better -  I know - because I am you. I love you and can’t wait to see you on the other side”

You are a part of the generation that has had the privilege of living “It Gets Better.”  

First I want to thank Archana Pathak for inviting me to speak today. Especially I want to thank my friend Joycelyn Mahone who has been a supporter of my becoming more involved with VCU. My history here goes back a while. I was part of the last graduating class of RPI; the next year you became VCU.  You may have seen the RPI historical market near Shaffer Court.  That was 1968 and I will save you doing the math, I am 74. 

I have done some pretty cool things, had some amazing experiences, and intend to carry on doing so for as long as I am able. I can wish, for you, the fun, amazing, special, challenging, ordinary life, I have enjoyed.    

Rainbow honor cords are used to honor the
 leadership of members of the LGBTQ+

Next congratulations to all of you for your academic achievements that earned you your seat in this audience tonight.  Your intelligence and bravery are on display.  You choose a wonderful University that I knew was special well over 50 years ago.  For a country gal that grew up on a farm, when I got to Richmond I was light-years away from my grandparent's general store. 

I was so encouraged to be in such a diverse culture; even then.   

Let’s get back to my theme – “It gets better”.  Let me assume as in my case, “it did get better”.  Many of you were confused in elementary and in middle /  high school were bullied/harassed.  I buried the ever-present, fact that I was transgender to blend in.  Denial ran deep for many years.   

Your “it gets better” experience began likely on your first day on campus.  Here was an LGBTQ, safe place where you could be with other members of our community.  A place to hang out, know you were accepted, and start to thrive.   A place to make friends.  For you, it had “GOTTEN BETTER”.  

However, I need to give you a challenge!  

The advancements we have all seen over the last 20-plus years plus are at risk.  According to the ACLU, lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people in America continue to face discrimination in their daily lives.  

Nationwide, Republican lawmakers have filed nearly 250 state bills this year (2022) that seek to erode protections for transgender and gay youth.  They have moved beyond bathroom issues. 

Today, at least 166 measures to restrict LGBTQ rights are still pending in state legislatures — nearly quadruple the number of similar bills introduced just three years ago, according to data from Freedom for All Americans, an LGBTQ advocacy group.  

Florida Governor Ron DeSantis, last week, signed into law measures that prohibit any discussion on gay or gender subjects occurring in school through the third grade.  Children's books are being banned.  

Iowa put into law a discriminatory bill against transgender youth, who play sports preventing them from being a part of a team and socializing with their friends.  Although Iowa is known to have only three transgender athletes.

Here is a brief history that provides hope.

On December 1, 1955, Rosa Parks, a seamstress,  became an advocate; called "the mother of the civil rights movement," Rosa Parks started the struggle for racial equality when she refused to give up her bus seat to a white man in Montgomery, Alabama.   She was arrested. Her lonely act of defiance began a movement that ended legal segregation in America.

Blacks rallied around strong leaders and became advocates. Martin Luther King Jr. wrote: “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”

The Dixiecrats (now Republicans) lost the fight to keep blacks in the back of the bus. 

Gays become advocates. In the 1970s  Anita Bryant was the face of the "Save Our Children" campaign. A campaign to repeal a local ordinance that prohibited discrimination based on sexual orientation in Dade County,  Florida. The initiative ultimately suffered a massive defeat at the polls. The Republicans lost the fight to send gays back to the closet.

Drag queens became advocates and staged a six-day riot / protest against police harassment.  The date, June 28, 1969, is a day now celebrated as “Pride day”.  The Stonewall Riots also called the Stonewall Uprising, began when New York City police raided the Stonewall Inn, a gay club located in Greenwich Village.  (Fifty years later, Police Commissioner James P. O’Neill admitted the police department enforced discriminatory laws and apologized  for targeting  gay people.)  

Do you see a pattern here?  Let's remember, that the purple / lavender stripe on the rainbow flag symbolizes the spirit of the LGBTQ community. 

We must become advocates. 

What can you do?

So we need to design innovative comprehensive strategies and work together in our alphabet soup community.  

This means: empowering and funding local LGBT groups

Talking to faith-based leaders

Pushing legal changes through the court system

Encouraging a more positive representation of LGBTQ in the media

Reminding companies of their responsibilities to LGBTQ employees

Carrying out public campaigns to challenge stereotypes

Building coalitions with other human-rights causes.  

Most important - VOTE!
             (not just for president; all local/state/national elections)

Be an activist

Let us make sure that “It gets better” continues for the next generation!


I would like to share a poem by Martin Niemöller written in May 1952.  He spent the last seven years of Nazi rule in a concentration camp.  He was not Jewish.  He was not homosexual.  He was not a labor organizer nor a person with a disability. He was not Polish, Russian, or black -  all people Hitler considered worthy of eradication. 

He was a Lutheran pastor who dared speak up.  He penned this poem to remind us of our social responsibility:

"First, they came for the Communists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Communist

Then they came for the Socialists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Socialist

Then they came for the trade unionists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a trade unionist

Then they came for the Jews
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Jew

Then they came for me
And there was no one left to speak out for me."

Sunday, May 8, 2022

Friday, May 6, 2022

Shine Today...


Feminine Differential - The Square Neck


Venus Square Neck Sweater

V-neck, turtle-neck and crew-neck can be unisex. Even Boat-neck (also called a bateau neck) for a brief time had unisex privilege.  However, a low-cut square neck screams, "Feminine". I love it.  Several of my bras provide excellent cleavage and plays quite well with square neck tops.  Like you don't look when the opportunity arises?

This was an impulse buy from the web site Venus. Its clothing tend to be youngish and sexy so I am always cautious. For the above sweater, I will grant you sexy, however, it really looks good with jeans and especially stands out with white slim jeans and heels.

Also, I love the way the sleeves are made.  When pushed up the provide a balloon sleeve full look.

Balloon sleeves are long, puffed sleeves that are gathered at the shoulder and then puffed out and gather back at the wrist. Sometimes, the sleeve puffs out lower than the shoulder, but it is still a full puff rather than a tapered flare. (Sleeves in Fashion)

A feminine differential, keeper.   



Thursday, May 5, 2022

May 5, 1961 - My Cultural Awakening

A Day I Remember

VMFA - Richmond, Va -
Standing in front of the Egyptian
mummified body of Tchai-Ameni-Newit

Mercury-Redstone 3, or Freedom 7, was the first United States human spaceflight. The mission occurred on May 5, 1961, piloted by astronaut Alan Shepard. It was the first crewed flight of Project Mercury.  

Shepard's mission that day was sub-orbital, however, he is recognized as being the first American to enter space. The Russia vs America space race was on, with America playing catch up.  

Why do I remember this day so vividly other than its historical significance?  

I was in seventh grade, still, in elementary school by our rural school standards and we were on a class field trip. Not just an ordinary field trip. This was a group of country kids on the way to the biggest city most of us had ever visited. We had a rickety old city bus for the trip of about 100 miles to Richmond. Yes, my first trip to a real city.  

Bring a kid that loved all things science, I had taken my "six transistor" portable radio to listen to the flight details live. I remember holding it up to the window to get reception as we traveled. The mission was completely successful from all available history

However, something important happened to me that day.

A cultural Awakening. Our destination that day was the Virginia Museum of Art; now known as the Virginia Museum of Fine Art (VMFA). I vividly remember entering a long ornate staircase lined by flags and armor-clad mannequins at the top. As we exited the stairs right, now we get to the good part, we entered the Egyptian Room.

It was dark and we walked up onto a platform. From there we looked down on a real mummy! For a thirteen-year-old, it was creepy and scary looking at something that had been dead for over 2700 years. We were country kids and this sight like this was both mesmerizing and  terrifying; nightmare proportions.  

Still, with this image in our minds, we wondered about other rooms of art treasures and I was enthralled. A true cultural awaking that morning and an experience to be repeated many times in my life as I made efforts to experience culture in person over-and-over; museums, art, music, theater.   

What made me remember this date and event?  Last week while in Virginia I visited the VMFA and revisited the Egyptian (now) rooms. To my surprise the room guide lead me over to one of their most treasured objects. The 2,700-year-old mummified body of Tchai-Ameni-Newit; still there.  (photo above)

Five years after that field trip I returned to Richmond to attend Virginia Commonwealth University and study engineering.  I do still remember that day from exactly 61 years ago and my cultural Awakening.  

How Ya Gonna Keep 'em Down on the Farm (After They've Seen Paree) or Richmond and fine art.




Wednesday, May 4, 2022

I Love A Success Story - Tommy Dorfman

Tommy Dorfman Sports 'Pretty Sensational' 200-Year-Old Tiara and Earrings for 2022 Met Gala Debut

Tommy Dorfman at 2022 Met Gala

I really wanted to do a classic silhouette but with a contemporary fabric, so Christopher Kane, the designer, and I have been working the past couple months with my stylist Taylor Angino, coming up with something that felt classic but also very me,"

Dorfman, who reintroduced herself as a transgender woman last July, previously spoke to PEOPLE about experimenting with fashion amid her transition. "I think I'm kind of making up for a lot of lost time and I'm inspired by everyone's creativity," she said in November.

Dorfman, who reintroduced herself as a transgender woman last July, previously spoke to PEOPLE about experimenting with fashion amid her transition. "I think I'm kind of making up for a lot of lost time and I'm inspired by everyone's creativity," she said in November.

Wikipedia:  Dorfman was born and raised in Atlanta, Georgia. She is a cousin of The Bachelorette star Andi Dorfman. Dorfman graduated from Fordham University's drama program in 2015 with a B.A. in theatre arts.

In November 2017, Dorfman came out as non-binary and later changed her pronouns to they/them. On July 22, 2021, Dorfman came out as a transgender woman and updated her pronouns to she/her. She revealed in an interview that she has been "privately identifying and living as a woman" for almost a year.

Tommy Dorfman opens up about the transformative power of makeup

Tuesday, May 3, 2022

11 Year-old Transgender Activist...

Why this 11-year-old transgender activist is fighting for the right to medical care in Texas: "I have to speak up"

Brittany Jones-Cooper·Reporter

In the U.S. there are currently 238 proposed anti-LGBTQ bills in state legislatures. More than half target transgender people and, in states like Texas, they specifically target gender-affirming care for trans youth.

But fighting for equality has become a mission for Kai Shappley, an 11-year-old transgender activist who says her identity is not up for debate.

“I was always a girl,” the Texas-native tells Yahoo Life. “I was about 3 when I realized my mom and some of the people around me didn't know who I was. It took a little bit, obviously, but at about 4 and a half, my family and I came out publicly.”

While her family has always loved and supported Kai, others in their Texas community did not. In 2016, her mother Kimberly fought back when an elementary school in Pearland, Texas refused to let Kai use the girl's restroom. That same year, when Kai was 5 years-old, Kimberly testified before Texas lawmakers to oppose bills that would limit the rights of her child and other trans youth. With her daughter sitting on her lap, Kimberly declared that she was a "Republican, a Christian and the mother of a transgender child."

"I was really proud of her, honestly. Just seeing how she went up there and she started talking, I was like, 'That is my mom. That is a very powerful woman,'" says Shappley. "If it weren't for her, I probably wouldn't have found my own voice. That moment happened and I was like, you know what? I have to speak up. I have to start talking too."

In 2018, Kimberly and her children moved out of Pearland to a different city, where the school is more inclusive.

Since that moment, Shappley has become an outspoken activist for trans rights. Along with her mother, she has traveled around the country sharing her story at LGBTQ rallies, and has pushed for lawmakers to reject bills that target the transgender community.

Monday, May 2, 2022

A Quora Question - Wearing A Skirt

 If I wear a skirt or a dress everyday, will I get used to it?

Jo Wolfe - At 8 I realised I just didn’t get this boy stuff but in 1960s Manchester of course you just got on with it. For the next 50 years I tried to live according to the expectations of others always knowing ‘normal’ is not for me.  Read more of JO's profile 

The answer:
Jo Wolfe

If you are female, absolutely, if you are male it takes about five seconds wearing a skirt or dress before you think ‘this is awesome,why do men wear trousers?’.

Either way it takes a while to get used to doing things such as sitting down properly, picking things up from the floor, getting in and out of a car, depending on the skirt length walking up and down stairs but other than that it’s fab.

Sadly for skirt wearing men it’s the reaction of idiots that may present a problem depending on where you live, but if it’s safe to do so, go for it.

I’m transgender, when I answered this question originally I hadn’t fully admitted it, now I have and I am so happy.

Saturday, April 30, 2022

Friday, April 29, 2022

Highlights from The Brini Maxwell Show


Retro homemaking tips from the "other" side!

Here is a review from the IMDB:

My wife actually turned me onto this show. When she first described it as a transvestite doing homemaking tips, I pictured Divine in an apron. When I finally saw it, I realized it was a surreal-retro journey with quite a unique sense of humor. Brini Maxwell (aka Ben Sander)started this show on a New York public access channel which crosses Martha Stewart with John Waters, and even add a dash of Mr. Rodgers and gives us serious (and not so serious) homemaking tips to better our lifestyle. Each episode features a "theme" (making a home office, throwing a party, traveling, etc.) but the real magic happens when Brini makes a sort of "field trip" segment where she will interview someone relating to the topic of the episode. Most interviewees appear to be seriously holding back from just breaking down and laughing hysterically during the interview. Several times Brini will always add a certain humorous twist or comment and the inuendos start flying left and right. One of my favorites was when Brini was interviewing a drinks expert, in preperation for her (his?) party. The recipe called for the drink to be shaken so the woman bar-tending flipped the shaker and started going at it. In typical Brini fashion, Brini looks at the camera and comments "Ooh, how athletic!". Some of Brini's homemaking tips are piratical and useful, but some others are just whacked like making an art sculpture out of pills to display in your bathroom! I seriously think Brini is bound for stardom in the near future, so keep a lookout for her, err.. I mean him, errr.....WHATEVER!



Thursday, April 28, 2022

Gender-affirming Care, A "Crucial"' Process

For thousands of young people in America

(CNN)The Florida Department of Health now says a vital kind of medical care known as gender-affirming care should not be an option for children and teens, even though every major medical association recommends such care and says it can save lives.

Why Care is Necessary

the US Health and Human Services Department Office of Population Affairs says. Delaying care can exacerbate stressors and health problems for kids.

"For transgender and nonbinary children and adolescents, early gender-affirming care is crucial to overall health and well-being," 

The department's new guidelines suggest that children should be provided social support from peers and family and should seek counseling. But it says they should be denied treatments that can be a part of this care, including calling the child or teen by the name and pronoun they prefer and allowing them to wear clothing or hairstyles that match their gender identity.

Gender-affirming care is medically necessary, evidence-based care that uses a multidisciplinary approach to help a person transition from their assigned gender -- the one the person was designated at birth -- to their affirmed gender -- the gender by which one wants to be known.

By one estimate, more than 58,000 transgender youth 13 and older across the US are facing restricted access or proposals, and could soon lose access to gender-affirming care.

Those 58,000 live in 15 states that have enacted or are considering laws to restrict access by, in some cases, even penalizing health care providers and families who try to get such care, according to UCLA's Williams Institute, which conducts independent research on sexual orientation and gender identity law and public policy. These states are home to nearly a third of the nation's transgender youth.

In Texas, Gov. Greg Abbott ordered the Department of Family and Protective Services to investigate any instances of certain procedures used in such care, on the grounds that it is now considered child abuse according to an opinion issued by state Attorney General Ken Paxton. A Texas judge granted the ACLU's request for a temporary restraining order, preventing the state from enforcing the order for now.

Despite the legislative push to end this kind of treatment, gender-affirming care is a recommended practice for people who identify as transgender, meaning they identify with a gender that is different than the one assigned at birth, or gender-diverse, with a gender expression that doesn't strictly match society's traditional ideas about gender.


Wednesday, April 27, 2022

How to Wear Jeans Like a French Girl

I make no secret about my obsession with the practically and great look of the right feminine jeans. My motto - "I am not wearing my  fathers Wranglers." They are my every day look even when at my retail job, market or Home Depot. 

Jeans with the right feminine top - a winner. 

I have several of the old style (made in USA) "Not-Your-Daughters-Jeans" (NYDJ) and back then the the style and cut was fantastic. They fit tight in all the right places and have a wonderful high rise to help with the tummy. I wish the new NYDJ versions were of similar style and quality.     

Here are some great suggestion from MY CHIC OBSESSION on "How to Wear Jeans Like a French Girl".  On the blog post there are some great inspiring photos. Enjoy.


Carolyn Arentson - December 30, 2019

And now, finally, onto the outfit ideas! Here are the top 3 ways that French girls are always wearing their jeans!

1. jeans + blouse

Whether it’s a statement blouse or just a good ol’ pretty top, this outfit combo is one you can always fall back on. Not much is needed for accessories, besides your classic handbag and maybe some gold jewelry.

2. jeans + button-down

It’s classic and sophisticated. Casual Friday, anyone? Dress this look up or down! If you’re headed to work you could pair this outfit with ankle boots and if you’re going about your day you could pair it with sneakers or flats!

3. jeans + blazer

The look of an oversized blazer with jeans is a French girl go-to, so definitely tuck this outfit idea away for the days when you have no idea what to wear!

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