Rhonda's Political Week In Review 1/31/2021

 

Your Life...

 

Victoria Secret's - Guy Recommended

 

 Looks like the VS Bombshell Bra is a hit.

I love seeing these reviews.  I saw this review right off and looked for more.  I got up to page 15.  Let me know if you see more. 

A Short Film About Reverse Gender Stereotypes

 

This is an interesting play on reverse gender stereotypes.  What if.... 

Feminine Differential - Leggings

 THE MODERN WAY TO WEAR LEGGINGS AFTER 50

From Jennifer @ A Well Styled Life

From Amazon

Our world has changed dramatically in the last year and the way we dress has changed with it. More and more women are working from home which means their wardrobe needs have changed. You may need to dress professionally from the waist up for Zoom or Skype calls but you still want to be comfy and can include leggings. How to wear leggings after fifty has been an extremely popular post so I’m updating it with some new ideas and fresh resources to find great leggings.

Leggings are hugely popular and one of the easiest garments to get wrong. We’ve been reaching for leggings since they became streetwear in the '70 and ’80s. They now have style details and shapes that resemble pants, so they don’t all look like workout gear.

Are they still in style? You bet. Can I wear them and still look polished? Absolutely! Can any woman [man] wear leggings? Yes!

Here are some ideas and tips to keep in mind to get the look you want....

Leggings look great worn with:

• tunic sweaters
• long line blazers
• tunic-length shirts
• thigh-length blouses

Read more... At The Well Styled Life 

Staying Warm This Winter

To stay warn we do not need to sacrifice style.  The above items have been my "up-north" choices. 

 Plan you winter Escapes with style... 

Dr. Maureen Whelihan - Women's Health Care

Maureen Whelihan, 
Gynecologist
Pam Beach County, FL

Maureen Whelihan, M.D., F.A.C.O.G., is a leading board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist in Greenacres, FL, offering patients advanced, compassionate care tailored to their specific needs. 

At Elite GYN Care of the Palm Beaches, Dr. Whelihan provides a comprehensive array of services, including well-woman visits, Pap smears and HPV testing, hormone therapy, teen gynecology services, menopause treatments, and treatments for vaginal dryness and pelvic prolapse, as well as complete sex education services and treatments for low libido. Dr. Whelihan also specializes in transitioning hormones for transgender male and female patients.

Dr. Whelihan received her Doctor of Medicine graduating Alpha Omega Alpha from the University of South Florida College of Medicine. She completed her Residency training at University of Florida Shands Jacksonville. She has received "Top Doctors in America" and "America's Top Obstetrician and Gynecologists."  Dr. Whelihan was the recipient of the "Women in Leadership Award" from the Executive Women of the Palm Beaches and "Woman of the Year" from Palm Beach Illustrated and the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. She remains committed to the legislative side of medicine acting as the President of the Palm Beach County Medical Society and the Florida OBGYN Society from 2009-2010. She continues in a leadership role in the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists for District XII, Florida. She has practiced medicine in the Palm Beach area since 1997.

Dr. Whelihan book
Available on Amazon

Dedicated to helping patients of all ages enjoy better health and wellness and develop a greater understanding of their own sexual health, Dr. Whelihan is also a successful published author of the hugely popular book, Kiss and Tell: Secrets of Sexual Desire from Women 15 to 97. Dr. Whelihan welcomes new patients of all ages, from puberty through menopause, and the practice accepts most major medical insurance plans.

The Palm Beach Daily News describes the book:

Dr. Maureen Whelihan, a West Palm Beach gynecologist, Kiss and Tell unashamedly tackles every aspect of sexuality a woman might want to explore. And the experiences shared in the book should make women feel validated and men feel encouraged to raise their sexual bars a little higher.

 

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I am proud to state that I became  a patient of Dr Whelihan 10 years ago. She saw me regularity for nearly three year and now again I have the pleasure of her expertise. Last week, I had a consultation and we discussed my medical history and desires going forward.  She listens, makes suggestions and is a resource for transgender care. She mentioned that about 10 years ago her practice would see seven transgender individuals a week, now she typically sees seven a day.

Since my visit, I have had specific blood work done, and a much needed mammogram. My last mammogram was over 8 years ago; too long. My family history certainty warrants one more often.   

I highly recommend Maureen and suggest if you are unable to visit her office you look into virtual consultations.  The practice accepted my insurance, and her medical staff worked with me on the confidential nature of my records.  I am very pleased to be back under her expert care.   

Her contact information.  Also, feel free to ask me questions - use the contact page.

Rhonda's Political Week In Review 1/24/2021

 

Nothing sums up this week better than this video from Jimmy Kimmel.  Thanks to Ron for sending it along. There were many suggestion sent this week and thank you for all. Please keep me in mind whenever you see something good.     

The Older I Get...

 

Executive Order Enhancing LGBTQ Protections

He has signed the "most substantive,
wide-ranging LGBTQ+ executive order
 in U.S. history" among other things.

By: By Dave Jamieson

On his first day in office, President Joe Biden issued an executive order strengthening anti-discrimination protections for the LGBTQ community, marking a quick turnaround from Trump administration policy.

The order tells federal agencies to apply discrimination protections to sexual orientation and gender identity, a stark reversal from the Trump administration.

Under the new executive guidance, federal agencies are to assume that laws forbidding discrimination apply to sexual orientation and gender identity, not just race, religion, sex and national origin. The measure was part of a slew of orders Biden signed shortly after his swearing-in, as both a substantive and a symbolic rebuke of the Trump era.

The order suggests that enforcement agencies under Biden will be open to pursuing discrimination complaints on behalf of LGBTQ people in a way the Trump administration was not.

The Human Rights Campaign called it “the most substantive, wide-ranging executive order concerning sexual orientation and gender identity” ever issued by a U.S. president.

“Today, millions of Americans can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that their President and their government believe discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity is not only intolerable but illegal,” the advocacy group’s president, Alphonso David, said in a statement.

The Supreme Court issued a landmark decision last June ruling that Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 protects workers from discrimination related to sexual orientation and gender identity. But that ruling applies explicitly to discrimination in the workplace, whereas Biden’s executive order makes clear the safeguards extend to other areas like housing and education.

In a fact sheet released Wednesday, the Biden administration said the new order will “build on” the protections cemented by the Supreme Court.

“All persons should receive equal treatment under the law, no matter their gender identity or sexual orientation,” the White House said in a statement.

The Trump administration had urged the Supreme Court to rule that gay and transgender workers were not covered by Title VII, and after the ruling came down this past summer, the Trump administration tried to limit its reach. 

The Wall Street Journal reported Tuesday that the Justice Department’s civil rights division had recently issued a memo stating that the Bostock ruling, as it’s known, should not be applied to education and housing. The memo also argued that employers may still be allowed to discriminate against LGBTQ workers by citing religious beliefs. 

The executive order issued Wednesday was one that LGBTQ advocates were hoping to see immediately from the Biden administration. It should clarify that the federal government as an employer adopts the broader view of the Bostock decision as to what constitutes “sex discrimination” ― that it includes discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity ― while applying that interpretation to other laws like the Affordable Care Act, the Fair Housing Act and other parts of the Civil Rights Act.

Read more here: 

and 

Day One: Everything Biden Has Already Done For LGBTQ+ Rights

Patricia Davies - It Is Never Too Late

Patricia Davies

Transgender WWII veteran comes out as a woman at 90

By Alexandra Klausner

March 29, 2017 

 A transgender World War II veteran proves it’s never too late to live life truthfully.

Patricia Davies, from Leicestershire, England, didn’t decide to transition into a female until she turned 90 years old.

Davies — born Peter — has known she was a woman since she was just a toddler.

“I’ve known I was transgender since I was 3 years old. I knew a girl called Patricia, and I decided I wanted to be known by that name but it didn’t stick,” Davies told Caters News Agency.

Davies kept her identity a secret for most of her life for fear she would be shunned by her peers or forced to undergo electric shock treatment.

“The atmosphere [around being transgender] was not safe. People did not understand what transgender was,” Davies said.

Davies — who served in the army between April 1945 and 1948 — said coming out as transgender would have categorized her as a homosexual, which wouldn’t have been accepted in the army.

Despite losing friends and cheating death while serving in the armed forces, she says she’s glad she got to have the experience.

“I feel quite proud having served during the war and having done military service, in particular during the trouble in Palestine,” said Davies.

Davies, who married when she was 21, eventually came out to her supportive wife in 1987. Her wife, to whom she was married for 63 years, bought Davies jewelry and dresses that she could wear in private. Sadly, her wife passed away six years ago.

“I was 60 when it all came pouring out to my wife, she was very sympathetic and helped me all the way, but we agreed to keep it quiet,” said Davies, who first learned about transgender identity from a TV show sometime in the 1970s.

When Davies first came out to her wife, she decided to wear high heels but was deterred when teenagers saw her and threw eggs at her window.

Now a nonagenarian, Davies has begun taking estrogen to move her transition forward and has come out to her community.

“It feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I was living a lie,” she told Caters.

“I have been keeping quiet. I have slowly started to tell some of my neighbors. Everybody said, ‘Don’t worry, as long as you’re happy,'” she added.

Patricia was inspired to make the big change from male to female after seeing the romantic comedy film “Boy Meets Girl,” which features transgender characters.

Now that transgender people are portrayed often in film and on TV, Davies feels more comfortable being herself.

“It’s not 100 percent safe now but it’s much better than it was. People that I have told seem to be very accommodating and haven’t thrown abuse at me,” she said.

“I joined the Women’s Institute. I socialize with them and have a natter [long chat]. I’m having a great time. I have a new lease on life,” she added.

Doctor Rachel Levine - Assistant Health Secretary

Biden Selects Transgender Doctor Rachel Levine As Assistant Health Secretary

By John Wagner, Teo Armus and Samantha Schmidt

Doctor Rachel Levine
 Assistant Health Secretary

January 19, 2021

President-elect Joe Biden announced Tuesday that he will nominate Pennsylvania’s top health official, Rachel Levine, to be his assistant secretary of health. Levine, a pediatrician, would become the first openly transgender federal official to be confirmed by the U.S. Senate.

“Dr. Rachel Levine will bring the steady leadership and essential expertise we need to get people through this pandemic — no matter their zip code, race, religion, sexual orientation, gender identity, or disability — and meet the public health needs of our country in this critical moment and beyond,” Biden said in a statement. “She is a historic and deeply qualified choice to help lead our administration’s health efforts.”

Levine serves as Pennsylvania’s secretary of health and has been leading the state’s public health response to the coronavirus pandemic. Biden’s transition team noted that Levine — appointed by Gov. Tom Wolf (D) in 2017 as acting health secretary — was confirmed three times by the Republican-controlled state Senate to serve as secretary of health and the state’s physician general.

At the time, she was one of only a handful of transgender officials serving in elected or appointed offices nationwide. If confirmed as assistant secretary of health, Levine would be the highest ranking transgender official in the US government.

Read more at the Washington Post.

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A Fresh Start!

I Love A Success Story - Who Wore It Better?

 

Smirnoff | Ted Danson, Laverne Cox

Feminine Differential - Side Zip Jeans

 

I wish we had more opportunities to dress up. I miss my Business Guild meetings, Second Sunday Meet-up and Thursday night at the Colony, Palm Beach.  I still subscribe to the "better safe and sorry" program. 

I am in a clinical trial for a Covid vaccine, but not sure if I got the real deal or placebo.  Once my vaccine gets emergency use authorization I will be told and if I received the placebo will be offered the live vaccinate. I am thinking this is about 30-45 days out.  Until then I am continuing a cautious protocol; being safe.

As they may be, my few daily outing involve jeans, t-shirts and sneakers; a simple androgynous look. 

I love the fit of side zip pants/jeans.  The flat front and typical fitted rear send just the right amount of Feminine Differential feel/look. The above jeans are "LEE Women's Relaxed-Fit Side Elastic Tapered-Leg Jean" from Amazon.  Lee makes a great feminine cut jean that I wear often. 

The white t-shirt is Boston Proper's "V-NECK CASUAL TEE". A wardrobe stable that can be found most anywhere. The other items above you have seen before in various post.  

What ever you do, be safe.  Let's not risk a dangerous outing. We know that in just a few months the vaccines will be widely available.  

  

      

Rhonda's Political Week In Review 1/17/2021

 

Jack Ohman-Sacramento Bee

Capitol Insurrectionists Said They Were Following Trump’s Orders

HuffPost - 1/16/2021

By:  By Paul Blumenthal

As House Republicans defended President Donald Trump from impeachment for inciting an insurrection that led to the sacking of the U.S. Capitol and five deaths, Rep. Brian Mast (R-Fla.) denounced the proceedings for failing to call any witnesses.

“Has any one of those individuals who brought violence on this Capitol been brought here to answer whether they did that because of our president?” Mast asked. He then waited silently for 20 seconds for an answer, even though House rules did not permit other members to speak during his time. He added, “It appears I will receive no answer.”

Mast’s stunt was meant to prove that insurrectionists weren’t motivated by Trump. But they were ― they’ve said so. 

...At one point, insurrectionists confronted police officers, according to an on-the-ground report in The New Yorker, and one man wearing a “Make America Great Again” hat told the officers: 

Stand Down. You’re outnumbered. There’s a fucking million of us out there, and we are listening to Trump — your boss.

When the insurrectionists breached the Capitol, they called out for blood. “Hang Mike Pence!” they shouted after Trump tweeted that his own vice president would not violate the U.S. Constitution and dismiss the electors from enough states to install Trump for a second term. Pence reportedly escaped running into the mob by a matter of seconds.  

Peaceful Mind

 

The Suit - Beach Candy

 

For those of you anticipating snow this weekend, I provide you a Mental escape.  I found this adorable swimsuit on a site called "Beach Candy".  It is incredibly cute and it has already been delivered to the Beach house.  By Floridian standards, it has been too cool to wear yet, but there should only be a few more weeks before I am doing my beach walks again.  

I have tried it on and it is totally as cute as the photo.  For those interested - "LIZ Ruffle One Piece Swimsuit" (20% off).  

It is never too early to plan for summer and your escapes.  This will be a wonderful suit for cruise wear.  

      

People Who Mistake Our Boy For a Girl

Why We Don't Correct

Mom.com

 

My 2-year-old son has long eyelashes, delicate features and long, flowing golden locks that we sometimes put in a ponytail or in a bun above his head. Consequently, it's not unusual for other adults at the playground to look at Declan and exclaim, “What a pretty little girl! You have such a lovely daughter.”

When that happens, we thank the complimenter but we rarely correct them. I suspect that’s because, especially at my son's age, gender doesn’t really matter. I don’t want Declan to grow up drawing lines between boys and girls, and masculine and feminine. I don’t want him to grow up associating long hair with girls and short hair with boys. I also don’t want him to think that being mistaken for a girl is, on any level, insulting.

I don’t want him to see gender from the perspective of stereotypes and preconceptions, if he sees it at all.

Now I’m not proposing that I'll raise my son in some sort of progressive post-gender utopia. That would be impossible in a country and a culture that, for all its social advances, still tends to see things in starkly blue and pink terms. But I do love that he lives in a world where he can wear his tutu for hours at school and no one thinks anything of it.

Then again, he’s only 2.

Thankfully, the world has changed an awful lot in the past 30 years, so hopefully it'll be easier for him than it was for me.

I was nowhere near as pretty as my son when I was a boy, but I had a high-pitched voice and some feminine mannerisms. I consequently grew up super self-conscious about whether I was masculine enough. It played havoc with my fragile self-esteem, and the pressure to conform to our society’s idea of masculinity grew throughout elementary and high school and only really lessened during college, when conforming to rigid gender stereotypes stops being considered a universally positive quality.

There's a good chance that my wife and I will have tough conversations about gender with our son as he grows up, and that the same pressures I faced will also affect him. Thankfully, the world has changed an awful lot in the past 30 years, so hopefully it'll be easier for him than it was for me.

But at this point, we’re loving living in a world where he doesn't seem to know or care about gender differences, and we’d like to sustain this period of dewy innocence as long as possible.

Read the whole post here:

I love A Success Story - April Ashley

Britain's First Transsexual Reveals: Elvis wanted Me, Michael Hutchence Had Ne, But I Fancied John Prescott

April Ashley MBE, a former Vogue model

Born in Liverpool in 1935, April Ashley MBE, a former Vogue model and actress was one of the first people in the world to undergo pioneering gender reassignment surgery. As one of the most famous transgender individuals and a tireless campaigner for transgender equality, she is an icon and inspiration to many.

By Amanda Killelea
September 2013

She bewitched Salvador Dali, Pablo Picasso, Elvis Presley and INXS frontman Michael Hutchence.

And at the age of 78 (2103), April Ashley still has the power to stop men in their tracks.

But the first Briton to have full sex-change surgery admits to an unusual crush.

She always fancied Labour’s ex-deputy Prime Minister, her old friend John Prescott.

“We worked together in the 1950s,” she explains. “He was a commis chef and I was in charge of the bar and restaurant. "He was incredibly nice and very, very handsome, like a young Marlon Brando. He was a sweet, shy, very elegant young man.

"I can see why his wife Pauline fell for him. He was more than dapper– he was strapping. He was just a lovely young man.”

Over the years April and John, now Lord Prescott, have kept in touch.

But they had not seen each other for many years before he opened an exhibition of photos covering her extraordinary life this week. 

“I am so touched that John came to open the exhibition,” she says.

"He was incredibly nice and very, very handsome, like a young Marlon Brando. He was a sweet, shy, very elegant young man.

"I can see why his wife Pauline fell for him. He was more than dapper– he was strapping. He was just a lovely young man.”

Over the years April and John, now Lord Prescott, have kept in touch.

But they had not seen each other for many years before he opened an exhibition of photos covering her extraordinary life this week.

“I am so touched that John came to open the exhibition,” she says.

Speaking of the incident when her old pal thumped an egg-throwing protestor, she reveals: “I was dying to tell him that if someone threw an egg at me I would have decked them too. But I’d have done it with my handbag!”.

April’s still-elegant appearance in her late 70s gives no clue to the struggles of her early life when she was born as George Jamieson in the slums of Liverpool.

“It was a tough life at the beginning, very tough indeed,” she says. “I couldn’t tell anyone I felt I should have been born a girl.

“My mother wouldn’t speak to me. When I would go shopping with her, people would say to her ‘What is it?’ My brothers and sisters wouldn’t speak to me.

“I was brought up a strict Roman Catholic so I would talk to God all the time and beg to wake up as a girl.”

At 14 George ran away to join the Merchant Navy, trying to prove his masculinity. But what followed were years of soul-searching, suicide bids, and even electric shock treatment in a mental hospital.

At 20, after working in a Welsh hotel with John Prescott, she moved to Paris– and became April. She was the compere of a drag club, Le Carrousel, and won the attention of famous men.

Artists Salvador Dali and Pablo Picasso wanted her as their muse, and Elvis Presley bought her champagne every time he saw her.

Read more:

Still, it hasn’t been an easy life. You have to be resilient. You can’t let people crush you. - April Ashley

 

Harry Styles: The Face of the Modern Gender Debate

 

Source:  *The Paw - West Morris Central High School

By: Evelyn Oravez, Staff Writer|January 5, 2021

Harry Styles, former member of the boy band One Direction and accomplished singer and songwriter, made history this year as the first male to appear on the cover of US Vogue magazine. This by itself would be a significant step for gender equality in fashion. His outfit, however, is what has drawn the most attention to the shoot. The cover of their December edition features Styles wearing a flowy, periwinkle blue Gucci dress with an accompanying black jacket. According to The Guardian’s André Wheeler, “The image felt representative of a growing exploration of gender-fluidity and non-binary dressing taking place,” adding that this idea of gender fluidity is growing more popular among the younger generations, which is who Vogue caters to. 

In this way, Styles has become a catalyst for the modern gender debate, fueling the anger of the conservative right over traditional gender roles being muddied and the liberal left stepping in to defend these new modern ideas of gender fluidity. 

Harry Styles at the 2019 Met Gala.
Source Vogue Magazine

Styles has been known for wearing less than traditional clothing in the past as well. At the 2019 Met Gala he wore what his stylist described as “taking traditionally feminine elements [..] but then rephrasing them as masculine pieces.” He is in many ways representative of the new wave of gender-neutral clothing and fashion developing today, fueled by the more liberal ideas shared by a large portion of the younger generations. 

Critics argue that while this was a good step for gender-fluidity in both fashion and everyday life, it was not the huge progressive leap forward that some may think. At the end of the day, Harry Styles is still a rich, famous celebrity, and this gives him the ability to press gender norms in a way that the average person might not be able to. 

Whichever way you stand on the debate, there is no doubt that this conversation needs to be had, both in the United States and the rest of the world. As our society progresses, how do we discuss the way that gender plays into fashion? How can we balance progress and tradition within gender roles without angering differing groups of people? Harry Styles and his periwinkle gown have become the face of this debate, and it is one that is going to become more important as time advances on.

Play Time with Harry Styles - Vogue

*Wow:  What a well written article - Evelyn is a Sophomore at West Morris Central and a Journalism I student.

Fashion - Casual Pants That Work

 

The above Talbots Chico pants (versatile in soft cotton) were originally $89.00. Last week as part of Talbots "Red Hanger" sale, they were $29.00 with a complete selection of sizes.  I purchased and very much like the fit. With the tapered roll cuff you can vary from cropped to regular length in a flash. Even the fit in the crotch is good and provides shape. Many times an on-line purchase when it arrives is just ho-hum. However, this is a great casual look that will get out a lot.   

With the flexible height of the roll-up leg, I purchased in misses size; stated length unrolled, 29.5".  It will look great with sandals or the Sperry Platform Sneakers shown.  A small platform on sneakers is the big causal trend for now.  All the teen girls at the mall are wearing these.  A great feminine touch to everyday shoes. 
  

These pants will look great with any sweater,  graphic tee or paired with the Amazon tunic tee shown.

A great every-day fashion find. 

Talbots - RELAXED CHINOS - STRIPE

Sperry Women's Crest Vibe Platform Canvas Sneaker

Amazon - Women's V-Neck Blouses 3/4 Roll-up Sleeve Button Casual Chiffon Tunic Shirt

Rhonda's Political Week In Review 1/10/2021

Sen. Josh Hawley
Salute to mob attacking The Capital 

Remember these names - They voted to disrupt our democracy! They continued to support Trump's unhinged conspiracy theories even after he incited an insurrectionist mob to attack the US Capital.  Shame on you. 

Josh Hawley of Missouri, Ted Cruz of Texas, Tommy Tuberville of Alabama, Cindy Hyde-Smith of Mississippi, Roger Marshall of Kansas, Cynthia Lummis of Wyoming and Rick Scott of Florida.

After the vote was finally certified [for Biden], Barry C. Black, the Senate chaplain, said a prayer in the chamber that acknowledged the violence.

These tragedies have reminded us that words matter and that the power of life and death is in the tongue.

Rick McKee-Counterpoint - Source Politico 

Thanks Velma for this one


Huffington Post: Trump Was ‘Delighted’ His Supporters Stormed The Capitol, Says GOP Sen. Ben Sasse

Be Yourself / Be Anything

 

The Humble Selfie

 

Selfie with holiday decoration still there

Being stuck at home doesn’t stop us from dressing up. In fact, there are lots of reasons to get out of jeans, sweats and pajamas – zoom meetings, hair cuts, grocery runs, getting the mail, car club, beach walks and mirror selfies for the gram!  Just this week I had my hair styled, and blow dried.  

After returning to the beach house, I wanted to remember how my stylus did my hair with a hope to be able to recreate her master-piece. Not having years of experience with hair I am lost. Sometimes, I just let it air dry after shampooing and occasionally attempt to blow-dry it myself. I can never make it look as good as the salon does. 

The mirror selfie is fun and a reason to get dressed. Yes, check out our new outfits.  Above is a mirror selfie I took a few day ago. 

The EverPretty Blog has a post - Why Mirror Selfies are So Popular and How to Take the Perfect One.

Mirror selfies have been around since the dawn of the camera phone and may even be responsible for the rise of the #ootd phenomenon. Before influencers hired professional photographers, most started their journey posting low quality mirror selfies. For the last few years mirror selfies became a bit passé as the quality of smart phones as well as fashion influencer content proved. But lately we have been seeing a resurgence. Why? The reason is very simple. Taking a mirror selfie is easy. You only need a smart phone and a mirror, then you can take it anytime, anywhere. No more concerns about bad weather, too many miscellaneous people, or impatient photographers. What’s more, you can just cover your face or a part of your face with the phone if you don’t want to show it or don’t know what facial expression to make.

Read more at EverPretty.      

Feminine Differential - Looking Feminine

Quora: I want to look more feminine because some women say that feminine men are cute. 

Julie Reece  a Quora top writer in clothing and apparel provided a wonderful list that is good advice for us all.   

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#1 - First, learn how to use skin care products. That will make a noticeable - and an almost immediate difference in your complexion. I personally use skin care products like makeup. I use three to five skin care products on most days, and on some days even more. My face starts out squeaky clean right out of the shower, then I use one or two serums, followed by moisturizers on my checks, neck, and eye area (three separate products). When I’m finished, my skin is glowing and definitely looks more like a woman’s skin than a man’s.

#2 - I occasionally wear makeup too. The photo you see at the top of this answer is similar to what I wear myself, and I typically add a finishing powder like this one: Bobbi Brown brightening finishing powder bronze glow.

#3 - I get my eyebrows threaded every two weeks into a feminine arch:

#4 - I get my nails manicured every week using the Essie nail color you see below:

#5 - I wear women’s clothing every day - and everywhere. I typically wear women’s designer jeans, women’s leggings, women’s tops, and women’s underwear. I have a full wardrobe of women’s clothing, including accessories.

#6 - I carry a woman’s handbag when I go shopping:

#7 - I use women’s personal care products: deodorant, shampoo, etc.

#8 - On nights out, I’ll wear a woman’s fragrance.

#9 - I get my arms waxed.

#10 - I’m a “touchy feely” type of person who loves to share my thoughts and emotions - and have others share theirs with me.

Do everything I’ve just listed above and you will definitely look - and feel - more feminine naturally. No surgery required.