Thursday, October 19, 2017

First Transgender Doll

We have been on roller coaster ride these past months with mostly bad news. Uninformed bigots want to deny us basic privacy rights. The presidential tweets of non military acceptance, and the rescinding of protections for transgender students. These all hit home.  When a positive note occurs, I am the first to smile.

Young people are the the most open. Prejudices have not been ingrained yet. They are open to questioning and when being transgender is presented, natural curiosity occurs as in this video. Bless the young!

A New York doll company has unveiled a transgender doll, the first of its kind, modeled after advocate Jazz Jennings. We are fortunate to have such a positive teen role model. Jennings, 16, has identified as female since she was a toddler. She celebrated the creation of the doll before Tonner Doll Company unveiled a prototype last week at the Toy Fair in New York City.

What she said at the unveiling:

I hope that it can place transgender people in a positive light by showing that we are just like all other people,” Jennings wrote in an Instagram post on Feb. 10. “For those asking: the doll is considered to be the first ‘transgender’ doll because it’s based on an individual who is trans. Of course it is still just a regular girl doll because that’s exactly what I am: a regular girl!

The Jennings-inspired doll — which arrives as more toy makers are moving to embrace gender inclusivity — will be rolled out in a limited-edition run this spring or summer, the New York Times reported. Different versions are expected to cost between $89.99 and $100

To match the outfit that Jazz Jennings wears on the cover of her second book, the doll will be wearing a pink top and jean shorts. Credit Tonner Doll Company Inc.


I have a question - Anyone play with dolls as a child?  I had a doll house with furniture and a table that all my dolls sat around. I had a tea set and would stage elaborate tea parties with plates, cups and my grandmother baked cookies. This was before Barbie so do not remember dressing my dolls up, however remember more than once playing with them in strollers and talking then out for a ride. Maybe this was an "only child" thing so had no one to tell me I was being stupid. Funny how I look back now with fond memories.       

Breaking News (Reuters)

Proposed settlement reached in North Carolina's transgender bathroom lawsuit.

  Source Reuters 

October 18, 2017 / 4:54 PM 
Reporting by Colleen Jenkins; Editing by Peter Cooney

WINSTON-SALEM, N.C. (Reuters) - Transgender people would be allowed to use public restrooms in North Carolina that match their gender identity under a settlement agreement filed on Wednesday that aims to resolve the federal lawsuit over the state’s widely criticized bathroom law.

The consent decree proposed by Governor Roy Cooper, the American Civil Liberties Union and transgender people who sued the state would remove some of the law’s harmful effects, civil rights groups said.

The judge in the case must sign off on the proposal before it takes effect.

North Carolina has been mired in litigation about transgender rights since Republican lawmakers enacted a law in 2016 that restricted bathroom choice in state-run buildings to the sex on people’s birth certificates rather than their gender identity.

A measure passed in March rescinded the so-called bathroom bill known as HB 2 and helped bring back some business and sports events pulled from the state in protest. But activists said transgender people still faced discrimination under the new law, which left state lawmakers in control of bathroom policies.

The consent decree says that under current state law, transgender people are not prevented from using their preferred public facilities.

“For too many reasons, it is not in our state’s best interest to remain in drawn-out court battles that still linger because of HB 2,” Cooper, a Democrat, said in a statement.

Republican legislative leaders, who intervened in the court dispute, were not part of the agreement.

Cooper on Wednesday also signed an executive order that bars state agencies and those who have contracts with the state from discriminating on the basis of gender identity or expression.

Activists were pleased by both actions but said they would continue to fight for full nondiscrimination protections for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in the state.

“Nothing can make up for the cruel and senseless attacks transgender people have faced in North Carolina, but I am hopeful that the court will agree to clarify the law so that we can live our lives in less fear,” said Joaquín Carcaño, a transgender man and the lead plaintiff in the lawsuit.

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Animal Prints Fall 2017

These are all item in my closet from seasons past. I was happy to see that for this season they are are still very much in style. If you are looking for a great animal prints Chico's is always a good source.  Check here. The ones I have are Lauren from several years ago as well the tan leather skirt. 

The black outfit would work as well with my black Talbots leather skirt. Talbots seems to have a good selection of leather skirts each year and is a good addition to your wardrobe. An investment purchase and year-after-year, always in style. I love the feel of leather

Notice that the black pants could go with either top.   

The Coach ankle boots are from last year, purchased at Dillards on sale. With a little bit of effort you should be able find them or something similar. They never seem to go out of style and always look great with pants. If I were taller, maybe I could get away with them with skirts, but for me pants are my best option with ankle boots.  

Deborah over at Fabulous After 40 has the suggestion of pairing animal prints with a dash of red. A great look and combination. Check out her fashion layout.  Also Just Trendy Girls as a great layouts on Ralph Lauren handbags and boots.  

Shop your closet and plan your ESCAPE.      

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

A Plus Size Halloween

Plus Size Halloween Costumes for the Ladies

There is about two weeks before "National Cross Dressing Day" AKA Halloween. I do not see Rhonda as a costume, however have utilized Halloween more than once to build courage and facilitate an ESCAPE. In my early days of "crossdressing" the Halloween excuse was used for wig shopping, professional makeovers and photoshoots. I fault no one for crossdressing at Halloween or this being your ESCAPE. Any escape is so worth it and a confidence builder.  

Not all of us are a size 2 as the model in the center flapper outfit. This year there seems to be a good selection of larger costumes (plus sizes) so here is our opportunity. I found some of these by just by Googling and others on the Bearfoot Budgeting site - Plus Size Halloween Costumes for the Ladies.  This is what the site had to say:

Attention Curvy Girls!  Plus Size Halloween Costumes are HOT!  Ugly fat girl costumes are a thing of the past and curvy girl love is in!  Trick or Treat! It’s up to you.

Did you guess? Yup, Im a curvy mamma and news flash, I LOVE Halloween!  These are just a few of my favorites and I just can’t decide which one?  HELP!!!

Also there are some great suggestions at Plus Size Women Fashion - Best & Sexy Plus Size Halloween Costumes Ideas 2017. As this site says, "There are many adult Halloween party ideas that are just waiting to be exploited. Be creative and you can also have a great time with your friends and family."

Monday, October 16, 2017

Car Club Meeting

I make an effort to put into practice the things this blog encourages; Escapes. A much as I make an effort, that does not mean that there are not moments of hesitation. I had one of those Saturday. Here is the outing. 

I have a fellow blogger friend and she has posted several times about attending car club gathering with her social partner. The group MBCA - Mercedes-Benz Club of America.  This is how the group describes itself:

Simply stated, the Mercedes-Benz Club of America, or MBCA, is a community of people with a passion for Mercedes-Benz—one of the most revered luxury vehicles in the world. Our community is comprised of men, women and young adults living in the United States, Canada and 22 foreign countries from Argentina and Brazil to New Zealand and Norway.

18' SL550 
I love cars as I had talked about before, so like minds come together for fun. I e-mailed the local chapter (Road Star Section) for information and receive an encouraging note back; A meeting coming up Saturday at a nearby Mercedes-Benz dealership. Offered was a light breakfast snacks and Todd, the general manager would give a presentation on what's new. He also would have his technical and service manager there to answer any questions. After the presentation we would have free time to roam and look at all the new 2018 models in the showroom.  

I attended the informative presentation and may have been one of the younger attendees - well at least dressed younger. I even asked a few questions. Following the dealership visit, I was invited to go with the group for lunch at a nearby waterfront restaurant.  

As I parked that morning and sat alone in my car, shades of “Are you really sure?” came to mind. Answer; “Oh well, why not”. I could pick my participation and if not comfortable, could bail at any point. 

After the presentation, as I was wandering the showroom the group president/organizer came up and we talked. I had already joined the group on-line and he welcomed me. I was told about upcoming events, one of which will be a Christmas party and I was encouraged to be there. (Oh No, I have nothing to wear - not.) Several others introduced themselves and everyone I met was friendly. So far - so good.  

I joined the group for lunch. Announcements included “Are there any new members?” and I was asked to stand and tell a little about myself. During lunch I was seated with a three very friendly couples and all went well. I believe several of the wives were encouraged to have another female in the group.  

My original hesitation was unfounded. I will participate again and there are social events coming up that are of interest. I promise to report more as I attend other events. I can't wait for my official "Rhonda" MBCA badge to arrive.  


Saturday, October 14, 2017

Louboutin Quote - Not 100% True

Not 100% True

Christian Louboutin Pumps 

Friday, October 13, 2017

Fall Is Here!

If you detect a slight sarcastic glee in my post you are correct. I am so ready for some cool weather. Yes the month of October brings a noticeable difference. In South Florida the daily high drops for 90 to 87. We will likely have to wait at least another month for our first cool front and finally we will have delightful 70's again. So why am I showcasing sweaters. I just could not help myself this morning.

I have a trip coming up to the north-west for 10 days so like the look. I am hoping either of these will go with the pink dress pants or for sure, the white pants. Both models are shown wearing jeans which makes a great combination. I was able to order on-line and if in stock, Nordstrom has store pick up, so I will pick up the order there later today. If they do not workout an easy return.  

With all sarcasm put aside, they will be great for the cool late December to February days here in Florida and upcoming trips. If interested the off-the-shoulder sweater can be found here and the V-neck sweater is here. Very reasonably priced for Nordstrom at $49.00 and $45.00.  Both very stylish. 

Enjoy and ESCAPE. 

Thursday, October 12, 2017

The Great Lie

Candidate Donald Trump said he supported lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender rights. President Donald Trump is eroding those rights in a number of ways, including by putting anti-LGBTQ judges onto federal courts.

Yesterday Pat made an interesting comment on my post A Step Backward. 

In a Constitutional Republic these issues rest first with Congress and then with the courts... In due time change will come and it will be better if it comes with the force of law rather than the opinion of a governmental administrative fiat

Pat makes a very good point and in theory I agree. However there needs to be a balance. 

Almost 10 years before the Civil Rights Act of 1964 the US Supreme Court in the 1954 landmark decision "Brown v. Board of Education Topeka" declared state laws establishing separate public schools for black and white students to be unconstitutional. In the rehearing of the case in the fall 1953, special attention was given to the Fourteenth Amendment's Equal Protection Clause.

In his reading of the unanimous decision, Chief Justice Warren noted the adverse psychological effects that segregated schools had on African American children. Source Wikipedia

There are times when the courts must be in front of legislators, whose only clear motivation is re-election. This is why reasonable judges are so important. The judges that Trump is appointing could well be his lasting legacy - and not a pretty one at that. Read on:


Trump Is Filling Court Seats With Anti-LGBTQ, Anti-Abortion Judges

From The Huffpost - By Jennifer Bendery

WASHINGTON ― Thursday (October 5) was a good day for Amy Coney Barrett. A Senate committee voted to advance her nomination to be a federal judge.

It wasn’t a pretty vote. Every Democrat on the Judiciary Committee opposed her nomination. They scrutinized her past writings on abortion, which include her questioning the precedent of Roe v. Wade and condemning the birth control benefit under the Affordable Care Act as “a grave infringement on religious liberty.” One Democrat, Al Franken (Minn.), called her out for taking a speaking fee from the Alliance Defending Freedom, a nonprofit that’s defended forced sterilization for transgender people and has been dubbed a hate group by the Southern Poverty Law Center.

But Republicans don’t need Democrats’ votes, and now Barrett, a 45-year-old law professor at the University of Notre Dame, is all but certain to be confirmed to a lifetime post on the U.S. Court of Appeals for the 6th Circuit — a court one level below the Supreme Court.

Barrett is the model judicial candidate for this White House: a young conservative opposed to abortion and LGBTQ rights. For all the stories about President Donald Trump using his executive power to roll back civil rights protections — in the past day, his administration axed the ACA birth control benefit and ended workplace protections for transgender people — it is here, on the courts, where his team is working most aggressively to reshape the country.

“Trump’s speed in nominating judges has been perhaps the most successful aspect of his presidency,” said Carl Tobias, a law professor at the University of Richmond who specializes in judicial nominations. “Trump has easily surpassed Obama, Bush and Clinton at this point in the first year of their presidencies in terms of the sheer number nominated.”

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

A Step Backward.

Progress had been made over the past years as to transgender recognition and rights. Last week was a step back. The NY Times reported with an article headline “In Shift, Justice Dept.Says Law Doesn’t Bar Transgender Discrimination”.

Attorney General Jeff Sessions on Thursday October 5, ordered the Justice Department to take the position in court cases that transgender people are not protected by a civil rights law that bars workplace discrimination based on sex. Mr. Sessions’ move means the Justice Department will no longer side with transgender plaintiffs in workplace discrimination lawsuits invoking the Civil Rights Act. It will either stay on the sidelines or tell courts that the law should not be interpreted as barring discrimination by the employers.

MAY 9, 2016
The previous Attorney General, Loretta Lynch had spoken in favor of transgender rights when she sued her home state for discriminating against transgender people. Lynch, a native North Carolinian and the first black woman to run the Justice Department, elevated the profile of her agency’s clash with North Carolina over its new bathroom law by placing it in the context of America’s Jim Crow era. 

Lynch directly addressed North Carolina residents during a well-publicizednews conference announcing the lawsuit:

Instead of turning away from our neighbors, friends and colleagues, let us instead learn from our history and avoid repeating the mistakes of our past. Let us reflect on the obvious but neglected lesson that state-sanctioned discrimination never looks good and never works in hindsight.

All that Attorney General Lynch did to help us is now being undone. Mr. Sessions’s policy directive was the latest in a series of steps the Justice Department has taken since he became Attorney General to curtail the reach of civil rights laws. According to James D. Esseks, the director of the American Civil Liberties Union’s Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender & HIV Project, “It’s striking to see the Justice Department argue again and again to take civil rights protections away from people,”

In a two-page memo to all United States attorneys and other top officials, Mr. Sessions revoked the previous Attorney General, Mr. Holder’s directive. The word “sex” in the statute, Mr. Sessions said, means only “biologically male or female,” so the Civil Rights Act does not bar “discrimination based on gender identity per se, including transgender status.”

Until congress acts or the US Supreme Court mandates, we have lost Administration and Justice Department legal standing in the event of discriminated. A real step backward.

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

October's First Sunday Meetup Group

This past Sunday we had one of best turnout at our new venue.  We had over 65 and we filled up the lounge room at the Regional Kitchen Restaurant, known as the "Public House" in West Palm Beach.  I have been a member of this Meetup group about 2 years and have become one of the two event host.  I do not have much to do other than greeting and making sure that new attendees are welcome. Sometimes if the organizer is not there I kind of, coordinate.  

Meetup group take care of themselves, are fun and simple. We do not have
speakers, programs, or agendas; other than to network and enjoy the Sunday afternoon with a glass of wine, drink or soda. The group meets on a regular scheduled, second Sunday of every month, unless that Sunday is a holiday. Then we meet the third Sunday.

Here is one of the comments left on our Meetup page:

Thank You Rhonda and Charlie ...... for your efforts which have kept this group alive! I know that it can be challenging as I have formed several groups in the past. Christopher

On Sundays I will try and post upcoming events/trips - Stay tuned.  

Enjoy the Photos.  

Monday, October 9, 2017

TomBoy Fun

This is an outfit I would wear any time.  It is going to allow you to be comfortable in almost any situation and can go from androgynous to Tom Boy based on your shoe choice. I have really come to appreciate the Tory Burch line for its feminine fit and style. Thanks Bri . You could always pair this with your Keds and make it work in almost any circumstance (guy/gal). 

The Brooks Brothers bag is practical and can carry almost everything you would need for a day/week. Even if the day was a stop by the beach. This Brooks Brothers "Calfskin Bucket Bag" is on sale for an amazing 70% off.  
The denim shirt is available almost everywhere. I show it above in the J. Crew version however, both Banana Republic and Talbotts has it. Make sure the material is light so it hangs. I have found this to be an item that travels well and is great for a casual evening.  

I love my white denim jeans. They go with so much and I have then in a Jag pull up style (flat front) and in the above boot cut from Talbots. This is my true wardrobe staple. 

My Tiffany sunglasses are from my favorite eyewear shop Eyes On The Island in Palm Beach. Ben is amazing to deal with and provides great prices, whether it prescription or not.  They have many styles from casual to elegant. 

Shop or pick an outfit you already have; mix and match. But most important - "ESCAPE".    

Sunday, October 8, 2017

Political Cartoons 10-8


An Invitation 

October Second Sunday Mixer - New Venue!

651 Okeechobee Boulevard, West Palm Beach, FL 
Sunday, October 8, 2017 5:00 PM to 7:00 PM

Friday, October 6, 2017

Age Reassignment Surgery 2.0

Before (the day of surgery)    -    After (1 week post-op)

Yesterday Dr. MardirossianI wrote a guest post about the “neck lift” and how it is becoming one of the most popular surgical cosmetic procedures in the country.  I agree! 

Two weeks ago I had a neck lift performed by Dr. Mardirossian. Having never liked my face profile, I am elated. If you look back through the blog almost all of my photos are full on face photos and even if my body is in profile, the face is always turned to the camera. Whenever I would go to Macy's to try something on where they have profile side mirrors, my thought was always, YUCK.  

Doc and I were discussing business one day and ask “what would you like to change”. Almost no hesitation – my neck-line. After some studying, he said “doable”.

I receive pre-clearance from my regular doctor several weeks beforehand and prep was no food or liquids after midnight the day of surgery. I love going into his office because everyone is so happy and the office is super friendly. I had an IV line started immediately and that alleviated the thirst. BP check and I was ready to go. Doc came in and made some marks on my neck; I think dotted “cut here” lines. Next, I walked into his surgical suite, jumped up on his comfortable bed (surgery table), verified who I was and that I knew what I was having done (medical protocol). Something was added to my IV and within seconds, off to sleep land I went.  

A few hours later (two to be exact), I woke up all wrapped up and shortly went home. Although I had pain meds (the good stuff), I only took Tylenol and slept the night through. The next morning Doc checked his work in the office and I rested the weekend; again only taking Tylenol at night to sleep. I did sleep sitting up with a neck/face wrap that weekend. There was no discomfort other than a feeling of tightness in my neck. That is expected because - that is what I wanted done. My body was only adjusting to the improved neck.   

In my case very little swelling or bruising. Absolutely no bleeding or discomfort that was unmanageable. I had no difficulty sleeping, or doing about anything I wanted to do within reason. 

Seven days later Doc took out the front stitches. The rest of the stitches, behind the ear which were not visible, came out yesterday (14 days). I went out for breakfast 4 days after the surgery and had a business lunch out with girlfriends after 6 days. 

I love what Doc did and highly recommend this procedure. How much younger I look, is in the eye of the beholder, but I know that my confidence has soared and that is the point. Something I had wanted fixed for a long time.

I assure you that the above photo is not retouched in any way. The other procedure I had done three years ago was a "lip lift" which is evident in the photos. The lip lift is my second favorite procedure, that added much to my smile.    

If anyone has questions, ask. I am very open and will tell you like it is. If you are considering a neck lift, it is so worth it - "Age Reassignment Surgery". A gift that lasts. Thank you Dr. Mardirossian.

Thursday, October 5, 2017

A Saggy Neck - Guest Post

A Saggy Neck Surgery is One of the Most Gratifying Procedures

By: Dr. Vartan Mardirossian

Saggy neck surgery, often called a “neck lift”, is becoming one of the most popular surgical cosmetic procedures in the country. A neck lift may consist of one or more procedures designed to tighten the neck and improve its overall appearance. Patients who have undergone this surgery claim it is one of the most gratifying experiences of their lives, as well.

What Does a Neck Lift Entail?

For many people, and especially women, neck wrinkling and sagging is one of the first significant signs of aging. Cosmetic surgery can provide you with a better, more youthful appearance, which is incredibly satisfying. Your surgeon may perform one or more procedures during your neck lift surgery depending on your unique wants and needs. These include, but are not limited to:

  •     Liposuction to remove extra fat from neck folds;
  •     Removing or altering neck muscles;
  •     Removing excess skin, often referred to as “turkey neck”; and
  •     Tightening or “lifting” skin in the neck area.

Aside from surgical options, your surgeon may also recommend other procedures. Some of these may be performed prior to surgery, and others may be recommended after you have healed. These include Botox injections that can remove fullness or neck bands and Kybella injections that will dissolve excess fat under the chin.

Who Is a Good Candidate for a Neck Lift?

Most patients who consult with plastic surgeons for neck lifts have one (or more) of three primary concerns.

  •     Turkey “wattle” – This term is used to describe a condition in which neck skin begins to sag and hang, much like a turkey’s wattle. To resolve it, your surgeon may need to remove or alter muscles in your neck.
  •     Excess skin – If you have excess neck skin, this is typically resolved with a traditional lift that involves trimming the skin and lifting it into place to provide a firmer, more youthful appearance.
  •     Excess fat – A combination of liposuction, Kybella injections, and neck lift procedures can help resolve this issue. Again, your surgeon will make recommendations based on the nature and severity of your issue.

Candidates must also be in good health, so be sure to discuss any medications you are taking or preexisting medical conditions with your surgeon during your consultation for your safety.

Neck Lift Recovery

Recovery after a neck lift varies from person to person, because not everyone has the same types of procedures. Most people who have saggy neck surgery can return to work within 10 to 14 days, though individuals who participate in sports or intense exercise may need to wait anywhere from three to six weeks to go back to their normal lifestyles. Your surgeon will help you manage pain and swelling with medications and various techniques, which may include the application of cold or heat. Final results should be visible in just a few weeks’ time.

A saggy neck can make you feel self-conscious because it makes you appear older than you truly are. That’s why surgery for any of the neck issues listed above can be so very gratifying. You can look years younger and feel better about yourself with a simple and commonplace cosmetic procedure.

Note: Vartan is my doctor, business associate, and friend.

My Note: I had this procedure two weeks ago and today I am having the the last set of stitches out.  Tomorrow I will post my before and after photos.   Stay Tuned.....   

Wednesday, October 4, 2017

Another Senseless Massacre

Sunday evening America suffered another senseless massacre.  Each one is the worst and they continue unabated. It is a cop-out to say that nothing can be done. Measures can be put in place. It is true that guns do not kill people however guns facilitate the action and make it easy to commit mass murder. 

Murrah Federal Building in Oklahoma City
If someone wants materials to manufacture a large bomb the materials are controlled. Bomber Timothy McVeigh, used 4,000 pounds of ammonium nitrate to blow up the Alfred P. Murrah Federal Building in 1995. Ammonium nitrate is one of the most common farm fertilizers in the world. It now has limits as to how much you can buy. In late 2007 Congress passed a law requiring the Department of Homeland Security to develop a regulation program tracking any purchases over 25 pounds. Any reasonable person can understand the need to prevent another tragedy like Oklahoma City.

Since Congress allowed the federal assault weapons ban to lapse in 2004, we've seen tragedy after tragedy as deranged killers unleashed deadly firepower, murdering dozens of innocents. The National Rifle Association (NRA) has blocked any and all attempts to reinstate the ban and has prevented the passage of even a measure that would circumvent the mentally ill from purchasing weapons.  

A weapon for mass killing.
President Obama called for "common sense" regulation. Regulating magazine size is surely common sense. Large-capacity magazines can turn a semiautomatic pistol into a weapon of mass destruction, with some spitting out six shots per second as in The Orlando Pulse Nightclub (50 deaths). These are not a sportsman/hunter's weapons. They are meant to kill as many people as quickly as possible. Only law enforcement and the military should have access to this kind of firepower. Source (USNews)

Large capacity ammunition magazines are a common thread uniting many of the high-profile mass shootings in America.

The NRA represents gun manufacturers, not the US citizen nor the responsible gun owner. The NRA is serving the gunmaker lobby which is purely interested in policies that will promote greater gun sales and more profits? One need look no further than this crazy (no pun intended) NRA supported legislation.  

In my home state of Florida, health providers, including mental health providers, are forbidden by law to even ask if a patient has a gun. Fact:
The NRA sponsored this legislation: On June 2, 2011, Florida Governor Rick Scott signed House Bill 155 (HB155) into law (Fla. Stat.790.338), limiting the ability of physicians to ask patients about firearm ownership. The law, entitled Medical Privacy Concerning Firearms, states that “a healthcare practitioner or a healthcare facility... may not intentionally enter any disclosed information concerning firearm ownership into the patient’s medical record if the practitioner knows that such information is not relevant to the patient’s medical care or safety, or the safety of others” (Ref. 1, Section 1)

The NRA is a terrorist organization.  If you are a member you are supporting a terrorist group set on putting profits above lives. When children must fear going to school and concert-goers fear for their life at a music festival, because of guns, it is terror that the NRA is supporting.  

Let's put this in proper context. In 2001, the year when America suffered an unprecedented terrorist attack -- by far the biggest in our history -- roughly 3,000 people died from terrorism in the U.S. That same year 29,573 died from gun violence.   

When will action be taken to prevent another senseless massacre? Responsible sporting gun ownership is protected under the Second Amendment, however, as with all weapons of mass destruction, responsible limits need to be in place. Politicians stand up to the NRA, a terrorist organization, and do your duty. Do you represent American citizens or the NRA? 

If now is not the time for a discussion on this subject, then when?    

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

The Automobile - A Feminine Differential

What a great quote.  But what if you equally love both? 

The guys I hang out with as a teen were into their cars. We not only knew the manufacturers, but the make and could tell you what year. Do you now the the subtle difference between a '55 chevy and '56 chevy?  If you answered yes then you are a car person. How about small block GM vs big block?

Over the years I have owned some very nice cars and at the time took pride in being able to do minor repairs. I have changed my own oil, done brake jobs, and tune-ups. - Remember those? 

However one's view of the automobile definitely falls into the feminine differential.  Men and women view transportation from different perspectives. Take a look at this quote from a Kelly Blue Book (KBB) article: 

Men love high performance cars and that is a fact. They go for testosterone-fueled sports and luxury cars and statistics confirm it. According to Kelly Blue Book, in the last few years the average horsepower (hp) of a car a man would buy is 360, where a woman’s preference is 170. Men buy those with enthusiasm even if they are not as affordable. With men, the bargain is not always the ultimate factor when it comes to buying a car.

Even today when fuel efficient and eco friendly cars are taking over the roads, most men still would go for fast masculine cars as they love them. So, why do men love cars so much?    

See the whole article.  Men Love For Cars – desire to control or real emotions?  


Morning at the Beach

Monday, October 2, 2017

Battle of The Sexes - The Movie

Billie Jean King and Bobby Riggs in New York in June 1973
 three months before their match in Houston.
 King won the match 6-4, 6-3, 6-3.
Photograph: Bettmann/Bettmann Archive
There are some of us that live a de facto female life or would under the correct circumstances. By 2017 standards it is not too bad of a life. Yes, as a female I have encountered a loss or privilege and felt the sting of being paid less for doing the same job as a man. However females ”Have come a long way” and we have many of our sisters that have fought, to thank. 

One such battles is highlighted in the movie “Battle of The Sexes”.  It is about Billie Jean King. King famously beat former men's world No. 1 Bobby Riggs in a historical tennis match back in 1973 -- a victory that was seen as a huge leap forward for women's rights and equality. 

Riggs’s assertion that women belong in “the bedroom and the kitchen” gets a good giggle today, however, this was a male battle cry in 1973. A media circus preceded the event as Riggs publicly taunted King—“I'm going to put in the ‘show’ back in the chauvinism.”—building up hype for what would become the most-watched tennis match of all time.

I remember the hype and the match as well. At the time, I am sure I secretly pulled for Billy Jean, even then relating to my inner female persona. Seeing the movie this past weekend brought back the reality of what it must have been like to be a woman in times past. Think about this - In 1973 Billie Jean remembers:

And women in 1973 could not even get a credit card on their own. They had to have co-signing by a male... People don't realize that -- they've forgotten.

Should we never forget that there are those who have fought and made it possible that “We have come a long way”. Also, let us not forget that we still have battles to win. If we really want to be viewed as female then let us always stand and fight with our sisters to win equality of all. The battle of the sexes is not over by a long shot.  

I highly recommend the movie as entertainment and as a tribute to one who fought for female equal pay and standing. It also makes a strong statement for living an authentic life and being who we are.