Monday, September 24, 2018

Lady Di's Sense Of Style

Let the people’s princess inspire your fall 2018 transition wardrobe.

Style & Beauty
By Julia Brucculieri

Before the Duchess of Cambridge and Duchess of Sussex became royal style icons, Princess Diana was serving up some seriously effortless looks.

The people’s princess was a master of casual-cool style, but she appeared no less comfortable in dresses and gowns, even when they came with a 25-foot train. She loved supporting British designers and wasn’t afraid to take a few risks with her style, often stepping out in bright colors and bold prints. As Vogue once noted, Diana “wasn’t one to follow trends, and her style choices were in keeping with royal protocol while still seeming personal.”

If we could, we’d emulate every piece of Princess Di’s wardrobe.  (So true)


I have put together one of the article's classic looks and listed my sources.  Do check out the article to find the other two.  

Saturday, September 22, 2018

Fall Is In The Air

Although South Florida has a month or more before it receives a cool night, that does not keep a girl from dreaming or shopping. I have always loved the fall fashions; sweaters, the colors and the change of season. Most of the items above are Ralph Lauren purchased recently at their summer close-out prices.    

For those of you that have the trees changing color, enjoy. For those of us in Florida, it means many of you (snow-birds) will be heading south in November. See you soon.     


I do have a trip coming up the last weekend of October, (26-28) to Cleveland. It is for a good friend's birthday bash. A weekend of fun and a cool weather break.  

Friday, September 21, 2018

Friend's Friday - Advice Request

Rhonda has many social interactions and does get about. I try and live my advice and "ESCAPE" whenever the opportunity avails itself.  I love music (classical and contemporary), dinner parties and social/business groups. There are several LGBT groups where there is no question as to my perceived presentation and I am never trying to deceive. My attitude, "be the best I can be" and let the observations fall where they may.    

I also belong to several networking business and women's groups. Recently I attended a large woman's business forum,  my local Chamber of Commerce, and seemed to be able to blend easily. I requested information on joining the Chamber and received an invitation plus information packet. 

I have worked in both small and large offices as female (8 years) and every day interacted with both office mates, clients and donors. There I planned small and large events and spoke/traveled representing my employer.    
The Palm Beach Woman's Forum '18
Recently, I have been working with an associate from another woman's group and yesterday we did a sales presentation to the CEO of a local non-profit. We proposed being consultants for their charity event, providing donor software utilization, and offering diversity training. There was a 45 minute meeting and an hour and a half lunch. The opportunity is still pending and looks promising. 
I am not full-time as a female and am not transitioning, although I do present and interact much of the time as female. In any case the assumption is female and I seldom correct or contradict. 

My question; When you know someone well or there is a business relationship (partnership) developing, how do you discuss/present being transgender? 

Clients need not be given an opportunity to discriminate so have no need to be informed and for employment purposes, only the HR department need be informed. However, developing relationships such as business partners or recurring social interactions do need to be aware. Withholding what will become the the obvious would only lead to future mistrust. "If she did not tell me that, then what else..."   

Several time I have used the "I have not always been female" as above.  So I am looking for advice. I know I have asked this before and again would welcome your comments or a guest post. Thanking you in advance. 


Thursday, September 20, 2018

Wednesday, September 19, 2018

The Stunningly Beautiful Alex Wetter (Male Model)

Video – The stunning androgynous Alex Wetter in « XXY » by Nicolas Lancien

Tuesday, September 18, 2018

Be Careful What You Wish

Note: This is A FOX Poll

The Trump administration may be on the verge of implosion. Strong indicators - This past month’s court cases, movement in the Robert Mueller investigation, anonymous op-eds and multiple friends cutting their loses to avoid long prison terms. According to The New Yorker, Mueller has obtained the indictments of thirty-two individuals and three corporations, as well as five guilty pleas.  All Trump related. Though unnamed, Trump is an "unindicted co-conspirator" in one of the cases.  Not exactly a "witch hunt" as Trump claims.   

From the beginning, many have known that the Trump Administration would be problematic, but few of us knew the depth of corruption, incompetence and outright lying that would occur.

Trump in his 2016 convention acceptance speech promised to “protect the LGBTQ community”. Once in office did the exact opposite.  

If Trump decides he has endured enough and opts to go quietly, Nixon style (unlikely) or action occurs in the House and Senate, America will still be in jeopardy. 

Mike Pence, the heir apparent to Trump, although political savvy, lacks the intelligence to undo the damage perpetrated by Trump. We will get more of the same prejudices; now with religious justifications.  

Mike Pence also has a problem with science. Here is one of many examples: In 2000 Pence made an issue of the pending agreement to settle government lawsuits against tobacco companies for lying for decades about the dangers of their addictive products. He stated “Time for a quick reality check. Despite the hysteria from the political class and the media, smoking doesn't kill.” 

This was blatantly false based on all scientific evidence. Why you ask would he make such an asinine statement?  Pence's motivation may have been connected to his family's ownership stake in a chain of convenience stores called Tobacco Road, which sold cigarettes alongside soft drinks and chips.  Also, top White House figures – including the vice-president and health secretary – have deep ties to an industry whose donations began pouring in on day one. 

According to Richard North Patterson of the Huff Post:  On LGBT rights - As a congressman, he opposed federal funding to treat HIV/AIDS unless the government also funded programs to discourage same-sex relationships. A nasty side effect of his policies in Indiana ― closing Planned Parenthood clinics and stalling needle exchanges. Notoriously, he spearheaded a “religious freedom” law to protect businesses that refuse service to LGBTQ Americans. 

Let us not underestimate Pence’s influence up to today. Pence seeded the administration with right-wing swamp dwellers including former EPA director Scott Pruitt, White House counsel Don McGahn, Education Secretary Betsy DeVos, CIA Director Mike Pompeo (who now serves as secretary of state) and HHS Secretary Tom Price (who was forced to resign in disgrace).

What makes him so dangerous? The belief that his seamiest actions and most self-serving calculations are part of God’s plan. Pence is more ready than ever to achieve the dream he believes God wants him to fulfill. 

Omarosa Manigault Newman:

We would be begging for the days of Trump if Pence became president. He’s extreme.

Source: TheAlantic
God’s Plan for Mike Pence

Monday, September 17, 2018

"Anything" - Movie Review

I want to mention the movie "Anything" again.  I finally got to see it Saturday evening, streaming it through my Amazon Prime subscription account. It is a beautiful, sweet love story. Let me highlight the plot:

Early Landry (played by actor John Carroll Lynch) is a Mississippi widower reeling from the recent death of his wife. After a suicide attempt, he relocates to Los Angeles to be closer to his overprotective but well-intention sister, Laurette (Maura Tierney), and her family. He soon moves into an apartment of his own. In time, he is both equally intimidated and charmed by his Hollywood neighbors, especially Freda Von Rhenburg (Matt Bomer), a transgender sex worker. Before long, Early and Freda bond over their shared loneliness and past traumas, sparking a friendship and, eventually, a tentative romance. 

Cast:John Carroll Lynch, Matt Bomer and Maura Tierney

The Film's producer is Mark Ruffalo and according to IndieWire, "The film’s first trailer plays up an overriding message of love and acceptance, the same one echoed by associate producer Kylene K. Steele, herself a transgender woman who helped guide the production."

Steel's comment:  “It’s about being human. It’s not about being trans, it’s not about being straight, it’s not about being gay. I think if people come to the film, they’ll see it is just love, it is compassion, I hope they see it’s a human thing, seeing beauty in everything, [and] what love can do.”


My note: The transgender character is played well by Matt Bomer. He is not playing an over the top drag character and has a shared trauma with Early. The two bond beautifully, do help each other and find solace; their own definition of love. No part of the story is portrayed in a crude or clumsy manner. You will love the ending of "Anything".

Well worth watching, even in mixed (non-transgender) company.   

Sunday, September 16, 2018

Political Cartoons 9-16

Der Trump-en-bunker - Thanks Velma for sending along this one.


The Sunday Crazy Bonus

Why do supposedly intelligent news anchors allow themselves to be used like this?

 With few exceptions, there's no news value gained by putting broadcasters in gale force winds and tidal floods. It just adds drama to see their safety imperiled. TheAtlantic

Saturday, September 15, 2018

To Our Neighbors

Stay safe, be patient, recover!

Friday, September 14, 2018

Friend's Friday - Southern Comfort '18 (Saturday)

The photos above are from my second day (Saturday) at the Southern Comfort Transgender Conference (SCTC); SCC as it was formally known. Had it continued, this would have been the 27th year. I have written about its relevance and continuing demise in previous post so will leave that as written. I understand that there were many discussions and meetings debating its survival and that continued at my Saturday evening table. Time will tell as to what will happen with next year's conference and SCTC's possible re-invention and/or survival.   

Gina Gunn

My Saturday involved hosting the morning breakfast sponsored by Dr. Mardirossian. Next, I introduced Dr. Mardirossian for his morning FFS presentation. After lunch I had a presentation on blogging, which was somewhat supported, not by a large group, but by a group that was interested in the subject. A great discussion. Thank you all for attending. 

Also the Saturday morning guest speaker was Gina Gunn, Official Cast Member of Rupaul's Drag Race Season 6. 

Saturday evening, I stayed for the dinner which was well attended. 

Two take-aways: It appeared that a good number registered and did not come. This is sad if they took advantage of the limited number of free registration and then did not come. Others could have availed themselves to this generous gift.    

Second, the city of Fort Laudrdale is making efforts to be an inclusive city. It is  openly advertising to the LGBT+ community, "Hello Sunny - Come and Visit". Their support and sponsorship for SCTC is much appreciated. However, please know that the "T" part of "LGBT" is not necessarily "drag queens". 


Thursday, September 13, 2018

Role Reversal - Karen Kane

This is from the Karen Kane Fall, 2018 catalog.  You cannot fully appreciate the irony until you see the dress on page four of the in-print catalog.  I scanned only the top part to highlight the written part.  The "Euro Knit" dress can be seen here.  "Role Reversal?"  I don't think so.   

The fall season always seem to feature a "Menswear" look. Other than the pattern of the fabric I am not seeing the "menswear" or the "role reversal" taking place here. Unless dresses are becoming menswear; be still my heart. 

Maybe the premise is that women are moving into the more powerful arena with men's inspired fabric/items. So to wear something feminine, what doses that do?   (less powerful - weak) I am not sure I like the analogy.  

One positive take-a-way in the catalog and online store is larger size models and a stylish collection of "Plus" sizes. Also of note on the model above; 6 feet tall. 


Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Not Your Father's Barbie

I loved playing with dolls as a child.  My dolls predated Barbie and as I look at the dolls above I could have only dreamed of having such a collection. Makes me want to go back to play with the dolls. Anyone else play with dolls? 

I found these in a Flickr Photo Stream and there are more - Enjoy! 

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

World Trade Center- A Day To Remember

Source: 62 Rare Photos

Pictured here are the Twin Towers of the World Trade Center soon after completion back in October of 1975. New York City was on the verge of bankruptcy around this time and the World Trade Center sat largely vacant, as you can see two homeless men are squatting on the lot.

The Twin Towers became the centerpieces of the World Trade Center complex. Standing at a majestic 110 stories each, they provided 10-million-square feet of office space. But the twin towers were more than just office buildings. Because they were built at a time when the city's future was uncertain, these towers renewed hope, housed businesses, they gave the people confidence and stopped lower Manhattan's rapid decline.

Monday, September 10, 2018

Hey Guys

The Problem With ‘Hey Guys’

A broad coalition of English speakers — teachers, retail workers, ice-cream scoopers, and plenty of others—are grasping for a more inclusive greeting.


Several week ago I was out with several friends and what could be an uncomfortable situations landed in my lap. These were male friends that I have know for years and I was in total guy (male) mode; OK, the best I can do at this stage.  

Most of the time when out with my female friends, regardless of how I present I get, "ladies how can I help you?"  Typically it is the correct greeting or I just laugh it off with the comment "I have been called worse."  My girlfriends and even family accept me.  No harm; no foul.     

As I saw the server coming I cringed - "Gentlemen and lady" would embarrass my friends more than me and the last thing I wanted was to draw more attention to my more-or-less feminine features, hair, stature and androgynous appearance.  As she arrived we got the:

"What can I get you GUYS?"  I was safe!


According to The Atlantic, There are, of course, plenty of people—including many women—who have no problem being addressed as “guys,” think the word has evolved to be entirely gender-neutral, and don't see a reason to change their usage. But others aren’t so sure. “I think there's a really serious and welcome reconception of gender lines and relationships between sex and gender going on,” says John McWhorter, who teaches linguistics at Columbia University and has written several books about language. He says “something has crested in particular over about the past 10 years”—something that has people examining their everyday communications.    

In my reporting I heard from several people who said that the word is particularly troubling for trans and gender-nonconforming people. “As a transgender woman, I consciously began trying to stop using guys some years ago,” says Brad Ward, a college counselor at a high school in Atherton, California. She added, “When I’m included with a group that is called guys, there’s some pain, since it takes me back to my male days in a way that I’d rather not go.”

The article concludes with this: Even if guys is widely regarded as gender-neutral, there will still be a sizable contingent of conscientious objectors. They argue, not incorrectly, that dropping guys takes very little effort, and any awkwardness that comes with the odd folks or friends or y’all seems far preferable to making a listener feel ignored. (Personally, I’ve come to favor you all, which carries some of the perks of y’all without being tied to any particular region.)

Read the whole interesting article by Joe Pinsker here - TheAlantic.


How do you feel about being mis-gendered.  Does "Guys"  bother you?  Do you consider that being mis-gendered and is there a safe greeting for a mixed group?   

Saturday, September 8, 2018

Southern Comfort '18 - Day 1

Rhonda and Lori - SCTC - Day 1

Today (Saturday) Dr. Mardirossian is sponsoring breakfast again and has a full two hour FFS presentation. Time to get all of your question answered and see many before-and-after photos. The rest of the day he will be offering private complementary consultations.

Also right after lunch, I am presenting a seminar on"Blogging". If you are are attending or are in the area Saturday, please drop by. I would love to meet and discuss the blog with you. Stay tuned for photos - Maybe your photo could be in next week's "Friend's Friday".  I will post a group photo from the seminar. 

Friday, September 7, 2018

Friend's Friday - Southern Comfort '18

Today I am attending the start of the Southern Comfort Transgender Conference (SCTC) in Fort Lauderdale. After last year's cancellation due to a hurricane and the poorly attended '16 conference, I do hope this year's event is a success. It looks like about 200 in attendance which is a sellout for the venue. Conferences like this are still relevant for many.  

Fall of the year always brings to mind special Escape memories. September brought SCC and being able to spend 3 to 5 glorious days as Rhonda. Meeting with friends and being out in an elegant hotel. Special times. After SCC, October brought preparation for "National Crossdressing Day"; AKA Halloween.  

I have come a long way.   

This morning at SCTC I am working and helping Dr. Mardirossian with the breakfast he is sponsoring. I will be hanging around most of the day so hope to see many of my old SCC friends. Saturday we are also sponsoring breakfast and Dr. Mardirossian has a presentation on FFS that morning. Time to get all of your question answered and see many before-and-after photos. The rest of the day he will be offering private complementary consultations. 

On Saturday afternoon, right after lunch, I am presenting a seminar on "Blogging". If you are are attending or are in the area Saturday, please drop by. I would love to meet and discuss the blog with you. Stay tuned for photos - Maybe your photo could be in next week's "Friend's Friday".  

I hope to see you at the Southern Comfort Conference this weekend.  

Thursday, September 6, 2018

Guys On Ice

GUY SOCIAL presents our 3rd annual GUYS ON ICE event at Bryant Park Rink, with a performance by RuPAul's Drag Race season 6 sensation: MILK! 200+ guys and drag queens came out to take a twirl on the ice, benefiting the ALI FORNEY CENTER

Wednesday, September 5, 2018

Melania Trump Wore Louboutin Heels To Plant A Tree

Melania Trump helps plant an Eisenhower-era oak on the south grounds of the White House.
 Win McNamee/Getty Images 

For once I will leave the political statement and comparison to other first ladies' gardening attire to others. I will even forgo the fashion critique, although I love the skirt and top. My question, how she was able to walk comfortably on the lawn's soil in those heels?  

More than once I have felt my heels sinking as I started to lean backward, trying to discover a graceful way to recover.  See my post "Feminine Differential - Turf Refugee".  How she accomplished this feat (pun intended) in Louboutin heels is nothing short of a marvel.

Maybe she wore these?  Grasswalkers - Flexible transparent strips that adhere to the bottom of your favorite stilettos or thicker heels to keep them from sinking into the grass!  I have not tried these - Have you?  


Tuesday, September 4, 2018

Going In Style

In Ruby-Red Stilettos, Aretha Franklin Bids a Diva’s Farewell

Tim Teeman - Daily Beast

The pictures of Aretha Franklin lying in an open casket at the Charles H. Wright Museum of African American History in Detroit are respectful, and also completely fabulous.

Her face is not visible, and what we see from behind is the outline of a brilliant red outfit, and then the ensemble’s pièce de résistance: a pair of shiny ruby-red stilettos, Franklin’s feet crossed over one another in a relaxed position.

If you are one of music’s most revered divas, it is a most stylish way to say farewell; both grand and utterly individual.


Any thoughts on how you want to be dressed for your final "ultimate escape"?  Aretha, what a beautiful way to go.

Monday, September 3, 2018

Feminine Differential -The Slip

Not Just Lingerie

Slips serve various purposes. They help a dress or skirt hang properly. They protect the skin from chafing against coarse fabrics such as wool; conversely, if the outer garment is made of fine fabric, a slip protects it from perspiration. A slip may be worn for warmth, especially if the dress or skirt is lightweight and thin, whereas in very warm and/or humid climates, a slip made from 100% cotton may be desired. Slips are often worn to prevent the show through of intimate undergarments such as panties or a brassiere. A slip may also be used to prevent a silhouette of the legs showing through clothing when standing in front of a bright light source. Source Wikepedia

As with the bra, there is no male equivalent.   

The Slip Dress - Source Be Modish

The women in my childhood home of the 50's were typical in their modesty; a time period when lingerie was also referred to as "Unmentionables". Sneak peeks were only available on the Monday morning clothes lines after washing or in my trusted Sears and Roebuck Catalog. The only exception in my house was the slip. On Sunday morning when getting dressed for church, I did get glimpses of unmentionables as slips seem to an acceptable in-between, of not wearing enough and being almost dressed / ready to go to church. 

Fast forward to now and the "Slip Dress", as seen above, was the fashion statement for this past summer. Not just lingerie any more. According to Be Modish:

Slip dresses are sexy, period. And that is the whole point of them. They are comfortable and gorgeous, both at the same time. Slip dresses are an ideal attire choice for the hot seasons as they can beat the heat by wearing them and look absolutely smashing while doing so. Slip dresses are ideal for any kind of occasion and can be worn at formal and casual events both. You can even recycle your slip dresses by pairing them with different garments, looks and accessories. Believe it or not, a slip dress paired with the right accessories and garments can transform your look. In our article today, we will tell you how to wear slip dress in different ways.

I must admit that the slip has been, and will always be, one of my favorite items for feminine "unmentionables".  Let's leave it as a beloved under item.     

Sunday, September 2, 2018

Political Cartoons 9-2


 "The America of John McCain has no need to be made great again because America was always great". 

Meghan McCain, speaking at her father's memorial ceremony in Washington, D.C.'s National Cathedral, Saturday September 1, 2018.