AKA - Be Something Else Day
For those interested, here is my National Be Something Else Day - 2022 This is my Halloween story. Halloween is a sacred day for us to"ESCAPE"! .
You Only live once.
For those interested, here is my National Be Something Else Day - 2022 This is my Halloween story. Halloween is a sacred day for us to"ESCAPE"! .
You Only live once.
"I had become resigned to living the rest of my life as if it belonged to someone I emailed with a few times but never actually met."
I never thought I’d be here. And yet just a few months ago, at the age of 63, I came out as a transgender woman.
First of all, I’m well aware there’s a cultural expectation in America that once you hit the age where 401(k)s become reality rather than theory, the most exciting experience you have left is seeing which closes up first — your arteries or your mind. This is supposed to be the time to start thinking about endings, not beginnings. Given all that, I realize how unlikely it is that anyone would take on perhaps the biggest do-over there is: gender transition.
Even worse, I’m doing this at a particularly treacherous time, when far too many presidential candidates and groups with words like “liberty” and “freedom” in their names have turned people like me into their political piñatas. To them, we’re just trying this out for some perverse thrill. However, being trans isn’t like experimenting with bangs. It’s not something you dabble with and then grow out of. It’s a feeling we’ve spent a lifetime trying to ignore until we either die fearful and silent, or decide that living whole and happy is worth having people hate us.
I’ve been trying to figure out which choice to make since I was 7 or 8 and had a recurring dream where Tabitha from ”Bewitched” would ask to hang out with me. I just had to eat this pudding-like stuff in a little paper cup first. I complied and suddenly I was a little girl, and we went off to play.
A few years later I started having another dream, in which I’d grow breasts that gave me the ability to fly. Then there was the dream where I felt super itchy and when I scratched myself, my skin peeled off to reveal that I looked just like Olivia Newton-John.
It’s taken so long for me to find my path, but now that I have, walking along it appears to suit me. Recently, I had drinks with some friends I hadn’t seen for a while. After a couple of minutes, one of them stared at me, waving her hands in my direction, and said, “This just feels right.” That was a phrase I honestly never thought I’d hear. Now that I’m here, and it isn’t merely a dream, I just hope it’s not too late to set up that playdate with Tabitha.
*Caragh Donley is no longer hiding her age, so it’s safe to reveal she’s been at this writing thing a long time, working for outlets including People magazine, TV Guide, The New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, The Boston Globe, Emmy Magazine and Vanity Fair. She’s the author of “The Can’t-idates: Running for President When Nobody Knows Your Name.” In addition to her print work, she’s worked as a producer on shows including VH1’s “Behind the Music,” “The Queen Latifah Show” and “The Martin Short Show.” She is currently a senior producer with “The Kelly Clarkson Show.”
November 3, 2016
The trend of breaking down gender boundaries in marketing and products is growing, as more brands embrace the idea that gender isn’t what it used to be…
CoverBoy James Charles, a 17-year-old
influencer and makeup artist
Gender is in flux. In our Genreless Generation trend, we reported that Millennials and post-Millennials are more comfortable with blending and bending gender, with 78% saying it’s ok for girls to be masculine and guys to be feminine. Another survey found that 38% of Gen Z and 27% of Millennials “strongly agree” gender does not define a person. These young consumers are ushering in things like gender neutral homecoming courts, and fueling a general broadening of gender definitions.
More brands are responding by ditching gender stereotypes and labels in store aisles and ads, or breaking out of “old constructs” in marketing, and leaving gender-specific tactics in the past. We explored one aspect of this trend in an article earlier this year, outlining the brands leaving machismo behind for Millennial men. Even those with a past rooted in old ideas of what guys like (boobs, beers, bikinis, etc.) are leaving old ideas of masculinity behind and testing new strategies to appeal to today’s men—including Axe, which introduced an entirely new approach with their “Find Your Magic” campaign, showing a broad, inclusive range of what young males can be interested in and look like. It’s a smart tactic to take, especially considering a recent study revealed only 30% of adult men under 30 said they were “completely masculine,” and almost one out of five identified as more feminine than masculine.
More recently, H&M took a similar approach for Millennial women, showing a range of femininity—women in dresses with shaved heads, legs spread on the subway, with strong muscles, unshaven armpits, and more. The complementary social strategy, which asked consumers to share what is means to be a lady, also sparked a discussion beyond fashion. For a generation that believes that gender exists on a spectrum, celebrating that spectrum is a huge positive, and the ad hit the mark with the young female consumers.But other marketers and brands are taking gender blurring even further, not only showcasing a spectrum of what each gender can be and do, but pushing gender boundaries and taking a step into a “genderless” future. Last year, gender-blurring marketing was relatively new—Moschino Barbie made headlines for including a stylish boy in their ad but it was for a limited-edition designer Barbie actually targeted to an adult market. At the time, we noted, “The reality is that…young consumers, are not interested in what products their gender is supposed to buy or like. In fact, many of them are actively interested in breaking those barriers—and that’s an opportunity for brands everywhere. Limiting the consumers that might purchase your product to one gender is eliminating far too many, and this generation doesn’t want to be told that anything is boys/girls only.” That opportunity has been seized by some big name brands this year. In January, post-Millennial influencer Jaden Smith was cast as a model in a Louis Vuitton women’s wear ad, proudly wearing a skirt from the new collection. According to the brand’s artistic director, Smith “represents a generation that has assimilated the codes of true freedom, one that is free of manifestoes and questions about gender…Wearing a skirt comes as naturally to him as it would to a woman who, long ago, granted herself permission to wear a man’s trench or a tuxedo.” This month, in a move Fortune called, “genius Gen Z marketing,” CoverGirl introduced their first ever CoverBoy James Charles, a 17-year-old influencer and makeup artist, who first made headlines when his “seriously flawless” senior portrait went viral on Twitter. Now he’s promoting CoverGirl’s new mascara, and osing in photos with Katy Perry.
|Jaden Smith |
Outside of marketing, the slow-growing gender neutral fashion movement continues to grow. Our Genreless Generation trend revealed that half of 18-33-year-olds like fashions that can be worn by either girls or guys, and more mainstream labels have been introducing genderless lines. Last month, GUESS announced the launch of His & Hers, a capsule collection of gender neutral staples. Their first-ever unisex line is focused on “celebrating confidence—no matter with which gender the wearer identifies.” The simple pieces range from denim to loungewear in muted tones to keep a “clean and neutral” appearance, as well as a few menswear inspired items like overcoats and biker jackets. CEO of GUESS?, Inc. tells WGSN Insider, “In a world that is always evolving and testing out new trends, it is important that GUESS, the global lifestyle brand, remains part of these gender-neutral movements that have been rapidly expanding and taking the fashion industry by storm.” Earlier this year, Zara introduced “Ungendered,” a gender neutral line of tee-shirts, sweats, and shorts. Refinery 29 called the line, “a huge step in the mainstream fashion space,” and “a major move for a brand with such massive global reach to step away from traditional binary offerings in a category that, historically, has been so gendered.”
Of course, gender constructs are still alive and strong, and not every mainstream brand is going to embrace the idea of blending or breaking them. But those who are making steps towards gender blurring are receiving attention and positive feedback from young consumers, who see strict gender categories as a thing of the past.
I found Krystin Lee's blog from a Pinterest link. I kept looking at the black / white Gingham skirt and thinking, "I have that". Sure enough, I did and it was a Talbots purchase some years ago. I love shopping my closet.
Suburban Faux-Pas is a lifestyle blog where I share snippets of my current inspirations including fashion, beauty, decor and more, she looks great and has wonderful fashion advice.
This past Saturday my Mercedes Club has a meetup at Palm Beach Gardens Mercedes, my closet dealership. Paul, the dealership manager rolled out the "Red Carpet" for some 30 club members in attendance that morning. We had free vehicle inspections / washes, a tour of all the new cars, lunch and a lively Mercedes trivia contest with prizes. Thank you all.
I am not going to have you tell "Who Wore It Best", because Krystin is a beautiful woman and coordinated her outfit the best. However, my skirt was shorter. I could only aspire...
|Road Star Section - Mercedes Club of America|
Meetup October 2023
There is very little that can be considered "Retro" in menswear. Same-old, same-old for decades. Women's fashions are so creative that new designs come out on regular time intervals; then repeat again. Some are distinctively past, however, some always look edgy or "Retro". The crinoline petticoat under a full skirt, is so 50's. However, for a costume or theme party, always appropriate; think felt poodle applique. A great female Halloween costume.My mother was stylish in the 1950's. A new dress for the X'mas holiday and Easter were always required with matching hat, shoes and purse. I remember her wearing what is now called "Carpi" pants and rolled up jeans which are now considered every day wear, not retro. Even some colors can be viewed as retro as in the above fashion layout - teal, turquoise green.
I saw the photo below on Pinterest and was drawn to the retro color, capri jeans, heels and gingham top. I found the jeans on the Talbots site (JEGGING CROPS), on sale, already have several gingham tops and the shoes shown. I am not seeing this as a costume, although that would work, but as a fun casual, attention getting outfit.
Purchasing note: The Talbots jeggings (size 6) arrived over the weekend and are super. The overall "Retro" look, I like the outfit. What do you think?. Do you wear "Retro"? There is a dress-up holiday coming!
|Pin Up Girl Clothing|
Mina Capris in Mint Blue Stretch Twill | Laura Byrnes Design
“I find I don’t cry anymore when things are sad, but isn’t it interesting when we shed tears in moments of triumph. This was one of those triumphant cry moments for me. My whole life has been a fight. From being bullied at school consistently, kids threatening to kill me and going into graphic detail how they were going to do it, my own father beating me and calling me a fagot, to receiving industry blowback after speaking publicly about being sexually assaulted on the job... This was a victory that made all of that shit worth it. I had walked 2 shows for Chanel while I was living in stealth (stealth meaning I hadn’t made my trans identity public yet) and when I came out I knew I’d stop working with some brands, I thought I’d never work with the iconic house of Chanel ever again. But here I am in Chanel Beauty Advertising. I am the first openly trans person to work for the house of Chanel, and I am deeply humbled and proud to represent my community. The world will kick you down, spit on you, and tell you you’re worthless. It’s your job to have the strength to stand up and push on, to keep fighting, Because if you give up then you will never experience the tears of triumph. Thank you to everyone who made this dream a reality!”
BY: Ben Pechey
Being trans is awful" according to the media, governments, certain authors and ‘charity’ groups, but it’s not trans people sharing this kind of hateful commentary. As Ben Pechey, a LGBTQIA+ advocate and writer says, all this commentary is cis-people’s problem. What if, instead, being trans can be joyful - where trans joy isn’t revolutionary, but an everyday occurance? In this powerful and personal talk, Ben describes how and why trans joy can be mundane, individual and everyday - accessible to trans and non binary people right now rather than sometime in the future.
Ben is a writer, presenter, content creator, LGBTQIA advocate, diversity and inclusion consultant and author. They have worked with major brands such as Manolo Blahnik, Condé Nast, Dr. Martens, the NSPCC, Virgin Atlantic and many more. They uplift and educate through media. They have had words in print and online for Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, Diva and many more. Their debut book - The Book of Non-Binary Joy - was published in May 2022.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
The TV host asked Leslie Rutledge why she would take a doctor's advice if her kid had cancer but ignore experts on treating gender dysphoria.
Political commentator Jon Stewart isn’t a lawyer, but he did a masterful takedown of an Arkansas law preventing gender-affirming medical care for children ― and he did it right to the face of the state’s attorney general.
Although a three-judge panel of the U.S. Court of Appeals for the 8th Circuit temporarily blocked the state from enforcing the 2021 law in August, a trial is scheduled this month on whether to permanently block the law.
But Attorney General Leslie Rutledge couldn’t put up much of a defense during an interview with Stewart for his Apple TV series, “The Problem With Jon Stewart,” based on the clip below.
A must see interview:
By Alyssa Guzman
Published Oct. 12, 2023,
Dylan Mulvaney, the trans-identifying social-media influencer, is at it again.From National Review: Male ‘Woman of the Year’ Complains People Don’t See Him as a Woman
After nearly single-handedly decimating Bud Light sales, Mulvaney traveled to the U.K. to be honored by Attitude magazine — which I admit I had never heard of — as its “Woman of the Year.”
“Some see me as woman of the year,” Mulvaney said in his acceptance speech. “And some people don’t see me as a woman at all. No matter how hard I try, or what I wear, or what I say, or what surgeries I get, I will never reach an acceptable version of womanhood by those hateful people’s standards.”
Correct. Only we’re not hateful — just in touch with reality.
Clearly, Mulvaney is a troubled young man. Still, whether wittingly or not, he’s advancing a sinister and misogynistic ideology. The level of criticism he receives is in proportion to the level of attention he seeks.
Remember when we used to tell young girls that they should not seek to define themselves by others’ approval, nor by their wardrobes, and certainly not by what cosmetic surgeries they get? Remember when we tried to offer them female role models with intelligence, talent, and character who do more than satisfy a superficial obsession with appearances celebrated by pop culture?
Well, the Mulvaney method tells young women not only that appearances matter most but that — even in that realm — it’s men who make the best women. How’s that for female empowerment?
|Pastor John Hagee believes|
the Antichrist is gay and half-Jewish.
Former Trump administration official and South Carolina Gov. Nikki Haley (R) kicked off the first rally for her new presidential campaign on Wednesday in South Carolina with an invocation by John Hagee, an evangelical pastor who opposes same-sex marriage and LGBTQ+ anti-discrimination ordinances. Hagee has also said that the Antichrist is gay, that God sent Hitler to push Jews into Israel, and that God sent Hurricane Katrina to punish New Orleans for holding a Pride parade.
The following day, while speaking at an Exeter, New Hampshire town hall, Haley said:
Florida’s 'Don’t Say Gay' law - I don’t think [it] goes far enough.”
You can read De Niro’s statement in full below:
I’m sorry I couldn’t be with you today. A few days ago, I came down with a heavy case of Covid. I was looking forward to being with you, hearing the other speakers, and speaking with Miles. I first encountered Miles when he was still “Anonymous.” Through his writing, commentary, and books, I’ve come to admire his intelligence and courage. I’m grateful that he’s agreed to be my voice today.
I am with you in spirit. I am watching. This is an important conversation. What The New Republic is doing in this “Stop Trump Summit”—what you all are doing here today—can help determine our future.
I’ve spent a lot of time studying bad men. I’ve examined their characteristics, their mannerisms, the utter banality of their cruelty. Yet there’s something different about Donald Trump. When I look at him, I don’t see a bad man. Truly.
I see an evil one.
Over the years, I’ve met gangsters here and there. This guy tries to be one, but he can’t quite pull it off. There’s such a thing as “honor among thieves.” Yes, even criminals usually have a sense of right and wrong. Whether they do the right thing or not is a different story—but—they have a moral code, however warped.
Donald Trump does not. He’s a wannabe tough guy with no morals or ethics. No sense of right or wrong. No regard for anyone but himself—not the people he was supposed to lead and protect, not the people he does business with, not the people who follow him, blindly and loyally, not even the people who consider themselves his “friends.” He has contempt for all of them.
We New Yorkers got to know him over the years that he poisoned the atmosphere and littered our city with monuments to his ego. We knew first hand that this was someone who should never be considered for leadership. We tried to warn the world in 2016.
The repercussions of his turbulent presidency divided America and rattled New York City beyond imagination. Remember how we were jolted by crisis in early 2020, as a virus swept the world. We lived with Donald Trump’s bombastic behavior every day on the national stage, and we suffered as we saw our neighbors piling up in body bags.
The man who was supposed to protect this country put it in peril, because of his recklessness and impulsiveness. It was like an abusive father ruling the family by fear and violent behavior. That was the consequence of New York’s warning getting ignored. Next time, we know it will be worse.
Make no mistake: the twice-impeached, four-time indicted Donald Trump is still a fool. But we can’t let our fellow Americans write him off like one. Evil thrives in the shadow of dismissive mockery, which is why we must take the danger of Donald Trump very seriously.
So today we issue another warning. From this place where Abraham Lincoln spoke—right here in the beating heart of New York—to the rest of America:
This is our last chance.
Democracy won’t survive the return of a wannabe dictator.
And it won’t overcome evil if we are divided.
So what do we do about it? I know I’m preaching to the choir here. What we’re doing today is valuable, but we have to take today into tomorrow—take it outside these walls. We have to reach out to the half of our country who have ignored the hazards of Trump and, for whatever reason, support elevating him back into the White House. They’re not stupid, and we must not condemn them for making a stupid choice. Our future doesn’t just depend on us. It depends on them.
Let’s reach out to Trump’s followers with respect. Let’s not talk about “democracy.” “Democracy” may be our holy grail, but to others it is just a word, a concept, and in their embrace of Trump, they’ve already turned their backs on it. Let’s talk about right and wrong. Let’s talk about humanity. Let’s talk about kindness. Security for our world. Safety for our families. Decency. Let’s welcome them back. We won’t get them all, but we can get enough to end the nightmare of Trump, and fulfill the mission of this “Stop Trump Summit.”
|The Inevitable Will Happen|
"Have a good day SIR."
OK, what is your best story? Please share and especially share any funny or positive interactions. Let me caution that driving while intoxicated will never have a good outcome. Just don't do it, no matter how you are dressed!
Published by Erika Fonseca: Sep 09, 2020
‘My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum. ‘Either that has to go, or I do.’ I broke down in tears. I tried my hardest to stop, but the desire lingered on in secret.’: Male crossdresser outed at work details journey to ‘liberation’
The real goal in all of this was just to make my crossdressing a “normal” thing for me and I have pretty much achieved that. I can do pretty much anything as a guy or a girl and I’m happy either way.
Reason you crossdress: It’s complex. In some capacity, it’s a refuge and an escape from the stresses of everyday life. It also helps me feel better and more confident about self, my body, my mind, etc.
It helps me express an appreciation for femininity that is typically suppressed for men in American culture. Also…it’s just plain fun!!
Interview by: Sharzad Kiadeh
Straight Man Dresses Like woman
On this week's episode we have Sami, a straight man who likes to dress up like a woman! He takes us through everything from his early life growing up in a conservative and religious Florida town to what it's like for him to date. In his words he's just a "straight dude who likes to look and feel pretty."
|Walmart - Slim Fit Rayon Knee Length Back Slit Denim Jean Pencil Skirt|
Macys - CeCe Women's Printed Square-Neck Puff-Sleeve Knit Top
I have written posts on the pencil skirt and denim skirt before - Wearing A Denim Skirt After 40 and The Feminine Differential - The Pencil Skirt I must admit that this is my favorite skirt to wear with the combination of denim and pencil cut / hemline. The BodyCon Site give this insight into the pencil skirt:
Pencil skirts are considered a timeless and classic wardrobe staple because they are so versatile and offer a flattering silhouette. The design of a classic pencil skirt is simple yet elegant, with a fitted waist and narrow hemline that falls just below the knee. This silhouette enhances your curves while also creating a streamlined and polished look. [super feminine]
Pencil skirts have stood the test of time in the fashion industry. They were first introduced in the 1950s and have remained a popular fashion item ever since. Many fashion icons, including Audrey Hepburn, Kim Kardashian and Marilyn Monroe, have donned pencil skirts, cementing their status as a classic and iconic wardrobe staple.
|Long Flare Denim Skirt|
Still not giving up on a white denim pencil skirt, I found another at Walmart online. "A2Y Women's Slim Fit Rayon Knee Length Back Slit Denim Jean Pencil Skirt White". it is $30.99 and had free shipping. That is the skirt in the fashion layout above.
What works best for you? Although I do wear jeans and pants more than skirts I want to appear stylish in a skirt and the timeless pencil skirt is just that.