For many the art of Femulation (as Stana describes it) is a process with or without a destination.
Without a destination you get all dressed up and remain home enjoying cleaning, cooking or self exuberance. This is your time and the "escape' is as real as you need.
For others the process is extended into hours of preparation to be able to escape, ever so briefly, into the civilian world. Sometimes noticed. Sometimes stealth. Fear be dammed! The adrenalin rush is enormous which only robbing a bank could rival. "I did it - the world did not end".
I know this feeling well because in the early days this is just as I felt. Maybe to just mail a letter at midnight or drive-through to get a hamburger. Yes, I breached my front door and am so proud of my bravery. Truly an "Escape". Time to clean up now and plan/dream about the next time.
As our "Escapes" have evolved many of us have nurtured feminine personas that become less male and default into the feminine. You first notice it when no extra-effort produces a, "Welcome Ladies" pronounced when out with friends. What was it that prompted that response? Some of us may have enhance our feminine persona by an androgynous style that blends masculine and feminine elements to blur gender lines. In my case my solid white hair is nearing mid back that I wear in a high ponytail much of the time. All of my jeans are feminine slim cut, some pull on leggings. My sneaker are typically a female designated size although there is very little difference in look these days. My shirts / blouses are fitted sometimes scoop neck or drop shoulder.
Let's be practical. Although a subtle feminine approach is my desired daily look, a degree of practically is necessary. A doctors visit or a return to Home Depot does not require heels and makeup. I have no qualms about being seen as myself in what I call a casual, everyday blended feminine look. Above is similar to what I am wearing today for a Doctor's consolation on a medicine I am not tolerating well. After, there will be a quick lunch at an outside cafe.
Here is an over simplification; For decades women have been borrowing for the masculine side so I borrow from the feminine. Why not?
How do you blend your "Escapes" to be practical and still be you?

Longer hair (and a little eyebrow pencil) goes a long way. Yesterday, a young woman opened the door of me going into a mall. Don't think that would have happened if she read "male". Having a waitress say "what can I get you ladies?" is also quite affirming! - Juliet
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DeleteAt this point my boy and girl everyday wardrobes are pretty much the same: jeans, t-shirts, and sneakers. In warm weather i wear shorts rather than jeans. My girl jeans might be a little "skinnier" than boy jeans and sometimes I wear leggings instead of jeans. Likewise the girl t-shirts might have a cute pattern on them. The biggest difference is when I go out in girl mode with friends where I might wear a skirt if the weather is nice but other than than the wardrobes are pretty similiar.
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