Hair Play - Messy Bun

 

No, this is not a rock band tribute of the groups that reigned 1983 - 1991.  It is about my 2-3 year process of growing my hair. Please don't hate me because male-pattern-baldness is not part of my genes; luck of the genetic pool.   

About ten years ago my hairdresser that cuts my hair and did my wigs mentioned; "Let's grow your hair out. You have plenty and it is a beautiful white."  I did, first tiredly having it just long enough to style and also be male.  A short "bob" cut.  I was still working / traveling and doing software product training.   

I am not quite sure of the motivation other than the obvious, I just started letting it grow long. With my hairdresser's help and the occasional layer cut / trim, I am still letting it grow. My concern about the possibility of thinning and bald spot never materialized. The wigs have all been tossed and I have never looked back.  No more hiding in plain sight. What you see is what you get. 

A high or low ponytail is mostly my daily look depending on circumstances. The high ponytail is thick and about twelve (12) inches long and  brushes the back of my neck. If I let my hair down the length is about 16 inches down my back and comes around beautifully in front. The photo above show a darker length of my hair below the hair piece. My banner photo shows my hair pulled back with a high ponytail you cannot see. 

I find long hair easy to manage. Mostly a comb out or ponytail only takes a few minutes. Shorted hair required rollers and styling after washing. Now I air dry and comb out.  As I go out, a little hairspray to keep stray pieces from dropping into my eyes..   

A Palm Beach Event January 2026 

I am having so much fun with clip-in messy buns, and long ponytails. I put my hair in a ponytail and clip in the hair piece. One is shown above. A total white piece matches perfectly when my hair is freshly washed.  Amazon: SARLA 2PCS Messy Bun Hair Pieces for Women Detachable Claw Clip. 

Although a hair piece is not necessary it is so much fun to play with. I have several. I was setting behind a beautiful blond at a Christmas concert last year and was in awe of her messy -bun. I just loved it and am sure her bun was natural. I lack the talent to style my natural hair into a bun like that so clip-ins are so easy.    

If possible, shed the wig and go with you own hair. It takes a while to grow, but so worth it.