“They look so feminine now”.

Some crazy threshold was breeched last week. OK, like 77 was not enough? I have been getting minor cosmetic procedures over the last few years, always with the caveat, “not too much”.  The neck lift was major about 7 years ago. However, only enhancing my overall look; neither masculine nor feminine.

My lips, even as male, have been severely lacking in definition. Even to the point that girlfriends would comment that, “you don’t have lips”. As my feminine self, I would always line my lips outside the natural contour and then fill in to add definition.

Several years ago, a cosmetic procedure physician suggested fillers. I was hesitant because I had seen this procedure used to the extreme with lips, so exaggerated, arriving way too soon when seeing someone for the first time.  Finally, I did give in with explicit instructions “not too much”.

My results were always as I had instructed. The good news / bad news to this procedure is that there is limited visual duration. I have seen personally three to six months, always with some residual benefits remaining up to a year.

My first experience was with a very competent physician's Assistant, Lori, at a cosmetic surgeon’s office. I was super pleased and after a few days of initial swelling, "I had lips”. A slight but subtle difference. I lost her, in that she moved to another physician’s office. Just this past week we reconnected, and she had a lunchtime opening.  A birthday offering to myself was in the making.

This time I provided minimal instruction. My presentation was totally feminine, having just left a software client’s office, and with my long hair, I provided no precautionary “not too much” guidance. I trusted Lori to not go for the over-the-top look. From my previous experience and her expert professional manner, I knew I was literally in good hands.

We agreed on one syringe of a tried-and-true cosmetic filler. The numbing process took a few minutes and the whole procedure took about 30 minutes.  

After, her announcement to me and the assistant helping with the procedure, “They look so feminine now”.  

OMG - What have I done?  

A few years back that would have struck total fear in me. A deep breath followed, and I thought “I am Ok with this”.  The results are gorgeous, and the swelling from the invasive nature of the injections will subside in a few more days. I already have a natural, and yes, feminine look.  

Maybe I have come-a-long-way in my own self-acceptance. Today I want to project the confidence befitting that person I am.   Thank you Lori!

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