How did it all begin? Sister? Mother? Girlfriend? Wife? Fill in the blank in the title.
We all had our starting place. The " AH-HA" moment; this feels good moment. I like the way this item seems to mesh with the way I feel about myself.
I did not have a sister so migrated to my mother's dresses and shoes. She passed not long after my 12th birthday so her clothier never quite fit me the way I wanted. First I was too large and then too small. Her shoes were my best option and pleasure. She loved shoes, heels especially. They did fit especially as I got older. I would sneak moments and I learned to walk in her heels early on.
Highschool and the girlfriends became my objects of desire. Girl watching was a favorite pastime that has never gone away. One of my girlfriends left a bra in my car after a heavy petting session and this was a treasure for many years to come. I lied and never owned up to finding it.
Today all of my clothes are "MY" clothes. I purchase styes I like and are me. If truth be told about 99% of my clothes are female cut/style. (jeans, tops, sneakers)
If they were just androgynous in nature there would be more questioning looks or queries. To the contrary, I am almost universally ma'amed. And. even when not addressed as a female, I sense either a flirtatious nature or friendly gesture. i.e. Door being opened for me or asked if I like/recommend something. Very much not a typical male-to-male conversations. I believe it is the long white hair (ponytail) that may be providing an older "woman" less threatening visual.
So who provided your starter feminine differential? Who today is your source and provider of feminine clothing? Who is your role model?
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I had an older sister, but my first items were my mother's. My sister's things were mostly too small for me, whereas my mother's would fit me better, especially her heels. I did eventually outgrow both, so I started buying my own clothes and shoes while in college.
ReplyDeleteI buy all of my female things from a couple of online stores and thrift shops. I've slowed down my purchasing as I don't have more room and my time for outings is quite limited.
Excellent topic, Rhonda!
Mom's closet was my fascination - I was SO bummed when I outgrew her shoes. I'm sure she knew what was up, but she never forced the issue. I still have some of her clip-on earrings - and they are fabulous! -Juliet
ReplyDeleteI loved my mother's "Screw on" earrings. I kept those for years.
DeleteI too, started in my mom's closet. For the lonest time, her shoes fit me, but eventually I had to find a different footwear source. My source for clothing is still department stores; it's amazing what great delas you can find on the discount racks. My role models are those women who haven't lost their affinity for classically feminine lines.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Sally