Today's Friend's Friday was to be about a visit and a new friend. A shared escape over coffee - "A cherished meet up and friendship" as it was originally described to me. Instead, I was asked to withdraw my post and to discontinue contact. This saddens me. I will do that. However I share this thought from my own personal experience:
Living your life for the sake of someone else's approval will only be a short term solution, ultimately resulting in heartache for both parties and much lost time.
I've had something similar happen to me, and it was a "WTF?" moment. Over a period of several months, I infrequently tried to maintain contact with a person who initiated a friendship - and then asked me to stop being in contact with her. Given her history with her husband, I have a feeling that something strange was going on in her life, and I was glad not to be involved.
I have no idea what went on with you and your former friend. But I'll bet from what little you've said, that this person's actions threw you for a loop as well. Were you planning to post something about this person? Was this person ashamed to be mentioned? You can only say so much without identifying the person, but it's a shame that you have lost a potential good friend.
Rhonda, I'm sorry to hear about the missed friendship opportunity. If this was a fellow T-Woman, I know from a forum I participate in that the fear that some have about being out is palpable. Many find it just too hard to believe they have nothing to fear but fear itself. C'est la vie.ReplyDelete