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A Guide On How To Be A Girly Girl & Not Care What Others Think
BY - Lex Pyfrom
I have to say if you don’t naturally find yourself drawn to feminine things and girly things don’t force yourself to like them for any reason.
Especially, don’t try and change your self just to try and please someone else. You’ll never be happy and that’s definitely not what I would want for you.
Think of this post more as a guide if you do adore the feminine style but you’re afraid for someone reason to actually embrace it. There’s no need to be afraid and yes stepping out of your comfort zone is frightening but that’s only temporary.
THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING FEMININE
I seriously hate when people put down others for being girly or feminine. Like seriously why are you trying to crush others for what they love?
To some people being feminine & girly may be “childish” or they view it as we’re suppressing ourselves and our abilities.
To me ,that’s a load of BULL.
If you have to go around putting other people down for what they like, you clearly aren’t happy with the way you’re living you’re life so please keep your bitterness to yourself. I see feminine women as people that embrace what they love without fear of what others think.
These women can accomplish ANYTHING & they 100% do.
You can LOVE pink and be smart as hell.. Yes ,that’s actually true! You can love feminine things while respecting yourself and not letting anyone of the opposite sex tell you what you can or can’t do. You can love glitter and tulle skirts and find a way to make your passion for such things change your life.For example, starting your own business based off this passion and sharing that passion with every other women out there that loves what you love just as much!
Like I mentioned before, I’m not for you becoming someone you’re not. But I am for you not hiding who you are or embracing it because your afraid of what people will think or say.
Really that doesn’t matter.
Actually, you know what? I do care what people think and what they have to say but only certain people..
The people that build others up. Those people I LOVE and I aspire to return the support they give me and others as well. Those people matter so don’t forget about them because they are unicorns! I couldn’t be more thankful for the souls put on this earth that look to raise others up.
The purpose of this post is to guide you, not be a rant. However, with my experience ,it’s frustrating to not want to tell people to buzz of when it comes to hating on women and girls that love such style. I share this with you for you to be reassured that you can love what you love and make anything possible.
Now for the best part!
HERE’S ARE MY TIPS ON BEING MORE FEMININE & A GIRLY GIRL
ACT THE PART
This is at the top of the list because it truly is the most important place to start. When you are a girly girl it shows through your personality. For example, some girly-girls are very bubbly, happy and enjoyable to be around.
And of course not all girly girls are exactly the same but I’m going to give you advice based off of how I act and how it ties in with being a girly girl and feminine.
As a girly girl my self, I love pink passionately which seems to be synonymous with girly girls and glitter is also at the top of the list for my favorite things! I adore all things feminine and pretty which just comes naturally to you when you’re girly. I also carry my self like a lady, meaning that I keep my speech as pretty and polite as possible and try to spread as much kindness as possible. Oh ,and Audrey Hepburn is with out a doubt my IDOL!
GET THE ESSENTIALS
To be girly you need to assemble your self with all that you’ll need to show off your pretty and feminine self! This means getting the essentials such as some flattering dresses, skirts, blouses, purses and shoes! And absolutely what ever else will make your heart jump for joy!
DRESS THE PART
This part stems off of the previous. Do you ever buy clothes that you desperately want to wear, but tend to have a difficult time with actually following through wearing them?
Sometimes the reason for this is that you may buy something that you’re so incredibly excited about but you end up being too nervous to actually wear it. It may be too out of your comfort zone when it comes to the clothing that you normally wear everyday.
For ladies like this, if you love the piece you’re considering and it flatters your body type go for it! Having a feminine style is about having a wardrobe that consist of dresses, skirts and pieces that truly flatter your figure.
That does not mean you have to have “the perfect” body-type, what ever that is.. It means you select clothes for yourself ( or have someone help you) that will make you look your best. This is totally possible, so don’t think it’s not.
It’s another reason why I love dresses so much, because I’ve seen so many different kind of dresses that flatter women with different body-types.
Dresses, to me, say hey you are beautiful just the way you are & now let’s make you shine!
MAKE THE EFFORT
Taking the previous advice even further, you have to continue following through by making the effort into your appearance. You’ll want to do this with your attitude each and every day as well.
Girly girls & feminine women are known for taking great care of themselves.
They take the extra time to take care their hair, make-up, complexion and health. Having these kinds of habits is a way to promote you feeling your absolute best!!
You also don’t have to wear make-up to be a girly-girl. That depends on your personal preference. I choose to do so because I have little children that tend to exhaust me a bit lol. Makeup is like my sidekick to looking more awake and less like a zombie!
As a women that’s more feminine you have these habits a part of your daily routine. You then put on a lovely outfit that makes you feel and go take on the world!
CARRY IT INTO YOUR SURROUNDINGS
Now, this means to carry it into your home, work-space, bedroom or wherever that you spend a lot of time.
I am always sharing on my Instagram the feminine ways that I style these places. If you ever need a little bit of extra inspiration you must follow me there!
Here are some of my favorite girly ways to decorate : with my favorite fashion prints, fashion books, florals, teacups and teapots. I even love to use my purses and sparkly shoes as decoration as well!
The possibilities are truly endless! But if you want to step up your girly game this list is without a doubt, a great place start. I wish you all of the luck & if you ever have questions, please don’t hesitate to comment or contact me!
Sometimes, I wonder if there are more trans women who aspire to be girly girls than there are cis women who do. From my observations, this seems to be the case for those of my generation, anyway. Many cis women of my age appear to have almost given up on making the effort, while many older trans women may have waited most of their lives to finally be able to express their inner girly-girl openly. I have often joked that on the first Thursday night of each month in Seattle, the number of women in dresses grows tenfold - because that's when the local trans social group meets.
ReplyDeleteI think I possess a girly-girl quality, but maybe with more of a sophisticated refinement. Audrey Hepburn is a good role model, as she says, and I could see myself having breakfast at Tiffany's, myself. ;-)