Roll up Sleeve Chambray Denim work shirt,
Talbots Basic slim fit high-rise Jeans,
Adidas platform sneaker, Talbots stripe T, Loft belt
I shopped in the past to fulfill two basic requirements:
- Look as feminine as possible to impersonate "my definition" of the gender I was emulating. Always competing with myself to be better.
- To camouflage myself to not be recognized as the other self. i.e. big hair, high heels, body shaping foundations, and heavy makeup.
It took me a long time to know it is not about being prettier, slimmer, better dressed, or cuter than the other woman. It is not a competition. It is simply about "being" and enjoying my feminine reality.
Those of us brought up with male privilege know the alpha syndrome is a hard distinguishing dynamics to maintain. Especially when there is a feminine force demanding viability.
Being feminine means not having to make all the decisions. Not having all the answers, and being in the moment; enjoying that moment to the full. This serenity comes from within and can also be reflective of how we appear / dress.
It's just that it took me a long time to define my style and quit buying things that hung in my closet. I also discovered that as my level of feminine comfort increased, so did my acceptance. Try it on for size.
Thus my favorite outfit. My fashion style.
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