Friday, September 15, 2023

5+ Male to Female Fashion Rules Worth Breaking


By Lucille Sorella in Fashion

Femme Secrets:  When presenting yourself as a woman, there are some definite dos and don’ts to follow.

However, this doesn’t mean you need to be a slave to the “rules!” Many so-called rules are outdated or just plain wrong – especially when it comes to fashion and style.

Are you following these 5 male to female fashion rules? If so, it might be time to break them!

Rule #1: Dress As Feminine As Possible

Nobody pulls off the feminine look quite like transgender celeb, Gigi Gorgeous. But that doesn’t mean everybody needs to dress this way! The beauty of fashion is that you can express yourself however you want.

Whether your style is tomboyish, androgynous, or ultra feminine, anything goes – so enjoy your individuality and dress however the heck you want

Rule #2: Don’t Go Without Shape wear

Breast forms, a corset, gaff, and hip pads can transform the most masculine body into an hourglass. When you want to feel like a bombshell, shape wear is a girl’s best friend!

However, ignore rules that says you must don all these contraptions every time you step out en femme. Being comfortable in your clothes is a better rule to follow, so wear the pieces that make you feel good and forget the rest.

Rule #3: Always Wear High Heels

While high heels are undoubtedly sexy and feminine, there’s no rule that says you must wear them all the time. Flats can be equally alluring if you want to be comfy, or if you’re on the tall side and don’t want to accentuate your height.

Love the look of heels but don’t want to go all out? A kitten heel (1″-2″ tall) looks elegant and can help feminize your walk – without the pain of stilettos.

Rule #4: Dress Like The Women In Your Area

I often talk about how helpful it is to observe cisgender (genetic) women. If your goal is to blend in, it’s a good idea to adhere to the style norms in your area.

However, in case you haven’t noticed, many women dress sloppily or put little effort into their appearances. If that’s not your style, you do NOT have to follow in their footsteps. Look as fabulous as you want… and maybe they will start to follow your lead!

Rule #5: You Must Always Match

There are so many choices in women’s clothing that putting outfits together can be daunting. While you should always look coordinated, forget about old fashioned rules that say you must match from head to toe. Not only is this boring, it tends to look costumey and dated.

Need a little help with your outfit skills? Check out this article for a simple 5 step formula on putting outfits together.


I am going to add to this list of rules to break: 

  • Pantyhose are such a give away.  In Florida they are to hot and the last female I saw wearing then was coming from her job at a bank.  The double knit uniform skirt did not help either.  

  • Jewelry that makes noise.  I loved hearing my bangles clink and the bigger the better. So dated now.     

  • Never wearing sneakers.  I work retail and there have been days where breaks were few.  My most comfortable heels were a first day choice - wrong.  There are so many cute sneakers that go with  jeans and skirts.  Comfort beats pain at the end of the day.

  • To much makeup.  If you spent three hour doing your makeup you are wearing to much makeup.  Watch what other women are wearing and see that less is more The exception is a formal evening or wedding. 



  1. I always use the one up rule, which means I like to dress one level nicer than the venue I am in at the time for example at the grocery store most women are wearing very casual clothing, I would dress in nice jeans and a nice top or a casual skirt and a nice top, in a professional environment where today most women wears slacks and a nice top here is where I pushed it a bit and get to wear a skirt and pantyhose which I love so much, the idea is to look really good without being out of place Paula G

  2. My rules.
    I don’t have any other than dressing for comfort.
    I usually wear sneakers, jeans, a tee (or a long sleeve blouse in winter), no makeup (You can tell if it is a fancy dinner because I wear lipstick.)
    I usually hang out with lesbians and trans woman and dress as they dress.
    When I am in my professional mode it is usually a skirt or a dress, pumps and ...ugh pantyhose.
    You can see my in my professional mode at a meeting for the Governor’s Hate Crime Advisory Council (I even went out and bought a new dress for the first meeting back after COVID), the co-chair didn’t call my name probably because we were chatting before the meeting (You can see me right at the beginning seating myself and at 1:30 - 3:00 minutes)

  3. re: pantyhose-I live in Florida too and for 8 months it is a lot more comfortable going without- EXCEPT-what about appearances? Some of my lady friends have knobby legs that look dreadful.In my case I have lovely legs except that they are blotchy due to past liquid build up (I think it is called strawberry legs). So there should not be an universal rule re: pantyhose. Use your own good judgement.