Tuesday, November 10, 2020

Still Friends...


Many of us may be elated on the outcome of the presidential election.  We need to remember that not everyone feels the same.  I was shocked when I learned that a less vocal friend had voted Trump. She saw the good he had done, although never being outspoken in her support for Trump. As I went on about my jubilation for the Biden victory,  I could feel I had entered a danger zone. Was this person now to become less of a friend?  I did not want to this to happen. We agreed that we see politics diffidently and decided that we are both entitled to our opinion.  

I once had described to me a wonderful way to deal with a friend's revelation and how to move past a uncomfortable unavailing.  

Lets say a friend reveals to you they eat worms for breakfast.  (Stay with me.) It is just an intrinsic part on who they are. They offer no justification and feel no guilt as to their peculiar taste.  

They are the same person today as yesterday, other than I now know about their unusual breakfast dish. So my desire to keep the friendship overrides the revelation. Nothing has changed other than I don't think we will be having breakfast together any time soon.  Acceptance rules.




  1. Unfortunately Rhonda this one is a little harder to digest since putting kids in cages, conspiring with foreign powers, calling Mexicans rapists, enabling white nationalists is not an acquired taste but something more akin to lacking education or, perhaps worse, believing in those things. I know that this has impacted the way I see certain people.

  2. I have to admit, I would struggle to be friendly with someone that actively voted to support the destruction of my rights and the endangerment of my life. That is a truism about the Trump administration when it comes to LGBTQ+ people, and so that is a gap I cannot bridge with anyone that supported Trump.

  3. Thanks for that post Rhonda,
    It can certainly be difficult when friends or family have opposing views in an election or a referendum. On our side of the Pond both the Scottish independence referendum and the Brexit one were fairly bitter divisive affairs. With some people you just have to avoid politics and religion. With others humour appropriately used can diffuse things. The important thing is to make the effort.
    Penny from Edinburgh