Friday, November 11, 2022

Feminine Differential - The Ponytail

Will it Cause You To Be Mistaken As A Girl?

Q: I'm a young male teen, and I've been wanting to grow out my hair to put it into a ponytail, but I'm worried about being mistaken for a girl since I haven't hit puberty yet, is there anything I can do to have long hair and have people know I'm a guy?

A: Generally speaking, unless you intend to relocate to a place where no one has ever met you once you have long hair, I think you'll find potential gender-confusion to be less of an issue than you think.

The people who matter will be aware of your hairstyle progression and won't have any confusion. And new people you encounter will probably not have any question of your gender because of other gender specific traits.

Unless you are striving for an androgynous appearance, the way you dress and your mannerisms will convey your gender clearly. Even the hairstyles commonly worn by guys with long hair are different than those of girls with long hair. Men's hairstyles tend to be simple. The hair is washed, plied with a small amount of product and blown dry or allowed to air dry and styled using the hair's natural wave and style.

Girls, on the other hand, tend to be much more involved. The hair is blown out, curled or straightened and arranged with accessories that are clearly more feminine. There is also the fact that girls tend to develop faster than boys in the pubescent stage, and by comparison, the girls will appear more rounded and filled-out than you will.

The bottom line is that you need to have the courage to wear your hair in any way you desire. There will be plenty of times in the future when you may be required to conform to a specific look (for a job, or by a loved one). Try not to take the issue too seriously. And if you grow your hair long and people start confusing you with being a girl, just get a tee shirt that says "Back off. I'm a Dude."


My Low (manley?) Pony Tail

The photo in my banner is the length of my hair now.  However, you will never see me wearing a "I'm a dude" tee.  I get mis-gendered all the time as female which is more of less intentional / enjoyed. Maybe, "correctly gendered" should be my take. 

Seldon these days is my presentation male with the hair making that presentation more difficult. Hair seems to be a tipping point. Also a good point to consider when choosing your wig;  a very important accessory.  

Skechers Sport Women's Sneaker
Clothing wise everything I own / wear is feminine. When not at work or intentionally "dressin-up", my clothing choice have a feminine differential; NYDJ jeans, Sketchers,  v / scoop neck tops, ankle boots with a heel. 

My hair has never been this long and I am enjoying the experience although the additional maintenance is problematic. Mainly because I have never had to deal with long hair. I literally have no clue and my lack of experience is evident at times.    

Crepe Scarf Scrunchie
Having a "I don't know what to do with hair day" recently, I wore a high messy ponytail with a silk scarf scrunchie to work.  Absolute feminine differential.   

Hair Tutorial Two Hair Scarf Styles - When it comes to hair accessories, the hair scarf scrunchie is very much at the top of my list! The above site shows how to tie a hair scarf and create two awesome styles.  Works with wigs too.  

if you have real hair or wear a wig, know that your crowning feminine differential is your hair style.  Be cool, be chic and above all else, have a modern style.  

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