|The Power of a smile|
One occasion was at a San Diego Mall many years ago. I noticed that two women, middle age, were following me. Not in a good way and I was hearing comments. I made for an exit and went to my car. While sitting there my anger went internal. What could I have done to 1) prevent and 2) defuse.
Prevent - How I was dressed. I knew better than to go to the mall on Saturday afternoon overdressed. In my defense, I was heading to a group meeting and needed pantyhose. However, I stood out and invited unwanted attention. Blending in at a mall, movie, museum or restaurant is a matter of pre-planning, and forethought.
Defuse – It is amazing the power of a smile. If I see someone watching - I make eye contact and smile. It is my way of say I am OK, you can be OK too. Many time I get a smile back and we both go on our way. Several time I have engaged and a conversation has occurred – outreach. In fact, research shows that over 80% of all human interaction is nonverbal. Thus a smile indicates we are receptive, open and non-threatening.
Try it next time. A smile is one of the most beautiful accessories we can wear and cost nothing. Always in style. Please share any experiences you might have had.