Many are calling it a “scandal” like Watergate or election tampering, however it goes much deeper. It is a tragedy. Females seeking nothing more than career advancement were abused by a powerful man; A systemic problem, which begs for justice and change.
Many are coming forward shining a light on Weinstein, a serial sexual predator. Even our president has been accused of this callous disrespect of females. There is a tape and in my opinion, you do not brag without means, motive and opportunity. Yes, sexual assault; a crime. According to USA TODAY, “Institutional blindness has allowed Harvey Weinstein to harass, to bully, to allegedly assault his way to the top of the Hollywood elite. The behavior we would otherwise find deranged and intolerable”.
Is this susceptibility limited to only females? Mostly but not always. In my youth, I had a brush with a sexual predator and can tell you that it was frightening. I was aware of my surroundings and acted quickly; nothing happened. He was a medical specialist and prayed on teen boys. He eventually left the small town and I hope that myself and others coming forward, hastened that.
There have been other times as a female that I have felt the sting of vulnerability. I had a job phone interview as Rhonda and it was said that I had a "sexy voice". Next he wanted me to come late in the afternoon for a “casual interview”. He mentioned he would be at home, by the pool and would leave the door open - just come in. To make sure the intent was clear, he mentioned, “if you like, bring your toothbrush”. I declined the interview.
Even leaving a mall as Rhonda at times has cause for trepidation. Although I have always thought that the element of surprise could be in my favor, sill an uneasiness occurs. Having a dinner alone in a restaurant on several occasion has brought unsolicited attention. Motives may have been innocent, still I felt vulnerable. If I accept, is there an expectation for conversation; more?
Let us all understand what has happened with Weinstein. Finally, another social wrong has come out of the closet. Let us all understand that this is not acceptable behavior. If you are in a position of power over someone, do not use it to unfair advantage. On the other side, know that as a feminine person there are situations where saying “NO” is your escape word. Use it quickly and with resolve.
Sara M. McDonald in an article “What we can learn...“ stated this good advice: “Let’s follow Hollywood’s lead of offering support to victims, standing beside them while they come forward and encouraging those who need to come forward to do so.”
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