It is almost impossible for someone who is not transgender to fully comprehend the complexity of being transgender. It is the little voice always whispering and demanding new escapes. The - “I found the courage to do this 'impossibility', what challenges can we overcome next." As one blog recently stated:
My heart was racing and I was immediately struck with the thought, OK, what next?The issue for many is how do we sort the two voices?
I have become more open with my escapes over the past 20 years, having been employed as Rhonda, and in my unique limited way, socially transitioning. I am a member of several business networking groups, social groups and special interest groups. Also a political/activist group.
|Attending Women's Networking Group|
What has changed? I perceive that most when interacting accept me as female. I have not received the classic double-take in years. I am confident enough to interact at all levels socially and in any place. I no longer feel the need to display overt femininity to validate my appearance. Jeans, a t-shirt, sneakers, and minimal makeup suffice. The elaborate over-the-top presentation only garners undue attention and questions. I am happy that I have outgrown that necessity. Arriving at this place has not been easy. Many years of trepidation, and trial/error.
No matter where you are in the process, chart your own course. Support groups are beneficial and therapists are wonderful sounding boards. However, do not be influenced by others as to what your course "must" be. We are not all the same.
I remember being at a Gender Conference many years back and hearing a presenter raising a question and then answer it. "What is the difference between someone that cross-dresses and a transsexual? - Two Years!"
|Choosing Her Path|
Listen responsibly to the two voices. Then choose your best path.