BY DANIEL AVERY ON 6/26/19
This week on Reddit/r/LGBT, Hannah Akers proudly posted that she and her husband, Adam, were celebrating their 14th wedding anniversary. She also shared that it had been 18 years since Adam started transitioning.
Amid the heartfelt congratulations and smile emojis were questions (mostly respectful): Where did they meet? Did their friends know? How did they have kids? When one user ask Hannah about her experience as a cisgender woman married to a transgender man, she generously opened up.
"We met at a church Bible study for young adults—He instantly hit it off with our group and started hanging out with us outside of the church. I always thought he was cute, but I was way too quite and insecure to ever ask him out."
One of Hannah's friends was dating one of Adam's buddies and a double date was planned. "We ended up having an amazing night and we really hit it off. He asked me if I wanted to go out again sometime, just the two of us. Of course I said yes!"
It's estimated at least 1.4 million Americans are transgender.
It was on that second date that Adam told her he was trans.
"He wanted me to know before we got into anything serious," Hannah explained. "I won't lie, it disturbed me at first. But there was something magical that couldn't put anything between us."
They shared their first kiss that night. More dates—and more kisses—followed and, in 2005, they got married. Today, the couple are parents to four children—the youngest just 6 weeks old.
Adam froze his eggs before undergoing gender confirmation surgery and, with the help of a sperm donor, Hannah was inseminated and carried the babies to term.
"We wanted to feel like we both played a role in our pregnancies, like most heterosexual couples do," she said. "He has the genetic connection and I have the 'womb' connection. Four kiddos later and we wouldn't have it any other way."
In 2019, everyone knows someone who is LGBTQ—it makes them think about it and realize they've been fooled into following an extremely outdated viewpoint.