I have never completely accepted the "Trapped In The Wrong Body" narrative for myself. I have been given this one body and mind and overall they have worked well together plus served me well; (the old knock-on-wood thing). However, I do understand that one can feel a state of dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is defined this way:
"The condition of feeling one's emotional and psychological identity as male or female to be opposite to one's biological sex."
I have always been able to function fully and worked with my transgender state compartmentalized. Early on, I was too busy to think of much else outside of raising and supporting my family. There was little time for much else. Brief escapes and stolen moments provided ever so needed interludes. I believe that my story is very similar to many in our community.
Janet Mock is a very articulate member of our community. She has written several powerful books on her transgender experience and I find her truths to be very compelling. Here is one comment on the “born in the wrong body” narrative from her blog.
To me, “trapped in the wrong body” is a blanket statement that makes trans people’s varying journeys and narratives palatable to the masses. It’s helped cis masses understand our plight – to a certain extent. It’s basically a soundbite of struggle, “I was a girl (boy) trapped in a boy’s (girl’s) body,” which aims to humanize trans folks, who are often seen as alien, as freaks, as less-than-human and other.
In several classroom discussions over the years, I had the statement/question put to me, “Oh, you were born in the wrong body? I get it.” This narrative helps the uninformed to process how one could want to present as a different gender. To many, the body is where gender is displayed with specific clothing. The visual thing.
There is more to being transgender than just wearing gender specific clothes or even having confirming body surgery. Being transgender is learning to accept oneself, limits and all, and to live a full productive life.
Everyone’s transgender journey is different. Do not let yourself be influenced by others' needs or paths. "Transitions" need to be what is best for you. A simple narrative does not fit all.
Let us get past the simplistic platitudes and accept ourselves as “whole persons”.