Always a bridesmaid never the bride is not exactly the case for most of us. For those of us on the opposite side of this gender conundrum, we are more likely to have been the groom. Not nearly as complicated. I had a wonderful bridesmaid opportunity about 20 years ago. Here is that experience.
I was the founder and facilitator of a local support group which had very diverse attendees. As the group was starting there were evenings when no one from our side of the community attended. So I would join in with a woman's group meeting at the same time. I became a regular there and was accepted. We laughed a lot as we shared. One of the gals in the group, although lesbian, was to marry a man at an elegant Palm Beach home (mansion). He was ill and she was to become heir to the estate and for family/legal reasons, a marriage, however convoluted, was a necessity. I was not in on all the details.
I just knew that the group was invited to the evening festivities, which involved a brief "I Do" ceremony. No big deal, but I was invited to stand with the bride and the simple request was to wear something befitting; I did. I am so sorry that there were no photos. Standing with the bride's friends and enjoying the party after, was a thrill.
Always being up for a challenge, on an upcoming trip I have set up circumstances to visit a bridal shop. I was forthcoming in my reasoning/motivation/craziness and received a yes. An appointment during a non-busy time was open and the owner/fitting expert seemed open to me coming in. Maybe my chance to say "yes" or at least "maybe" to the dress. Definitely the ultimate "All dressed up with no place to go..." scenario.
Have you tried this? What has been your experience? What happened? Please share...
Stay tuned - I will keep you posted.